View Full Version : When should a guy call after a First Date?
ShyDater
Jul 13, 2007, 11:41 PM
I felt the date I had on Thursday went very well with this pretty girl, she was smiling when I complimented her, she complimented me and brung up the topic of sex. We sat in the park and talked after we had coffee so now I'm just trying to figure out what do I now as far as calling her. I told her I would call before the date ended that same night and when I did I couldn't leave a message bcause the mailbox was full. So I was just wondering when do I make my next call for a second date? I called her on Thursday Night so I was wondering do I call on Sunday? I remember her telling me that our blin date had to be Thursday because Friday, Sat, and Sun she would be busy. Any Advice? I just don't think a female would compliment me and not be interested in a second date would she?-lol
Clough
Jul 13, 2007, 11:44 PM
Like I said in my other answer to you:
Sounds like a really good experience for a first date!
Be honest, patient, caring, sensitive, open to what she wants, listen first - talk later, don't be in rush, watch the sex thing - best not to even go there too soon, don't put pressure on her, etc.
Want her, don't need her. Take your time. She has a life as do you. Trying to call on the same night might be taken by her as you wanting to rush things and come on as a "heavy" for her.
Everyone needs space to breath. Call again in a day or two.
I will add two more things: Expect good things, not bad. And, it's best not to be second-guessing another person. We can't read minds. Most of us create our reality by the things we expect to happen in them.
Hopefully, others will come along and add their advice.
asking
Jul 16, 2007, 10:28 AM
In my limited experience, guys call me the next day or not at all. They don't call the same day and I would think that was a bit much. Calling the next day comes across as definitely interested. I think if you wait more than three days, she may begin to conclude that she is somewhere pretty far down on your to do list. I would, anyway.
Despite a lot of advice on this site about guys playing hard to get, I think most women like to see some signs of passion and interest. It's hard to get interested in someone who is not that interested in you. Call her soon! Best of luck.
ShyDater
Jul 16, 2007, 10:33 AM
In my limited experience, guys call me the next day or not at all. They don't call the same day and I would think that was a bit much. Calling the next day comes across as definitely interested. I think if you wait more than three days, she may begin to conclude that she is somewhere pretty far down on your to do list. I would, anyway.
Despite a lot of advice on this site about guys playing hard to get, I think most women like to see some signs of passion and interest. It's hard to get interested in someone who is not that interested in you. Call her soon! Best of luck.
Well I never heard from her, left a message last night and a email and that's it. I will say that she should be an actress because I never saw any signs of her not being interested during the date. That performance deserves a EMMMY