My husband and I have been together for 11 years. When we have sex he may last 2 minutes and he gets off. I don't know what to do. I don't want to cheat on him but I am not sexually pleased at all. I have toys and that is the only way I can enjoy sex. We us them but I would love to just have sex with him and no toys involved. What do I do ?

My husband does this when he goes about 5-7 days without sex. Do you and your husband have these little gaps in between sex?

There are creams and pills that improve stamina, but I'm not too sure if they work. They haven't been tested in my marriage :)

We can do it every night , twice a day and he still doesn't last. We have tried creams but they still don't work.

I've heard the creams aren't very effective. Which did you try? Vivaxa? Have you tried pills yet? They may be more effective.

Here's a natural remedy that may work : Natural Sexual Performance Products & Premature Ejaculation Treatment (http://www.nativeremedies.com/ikawe_for_sexual_performance.shtml)

It's a bit expensive so I don't know if you would want to try it or not, just throwing it out there :)

We have used man delay... didnt work... never tried pills but that is a good idea... will give it a try... sure wouldn't hurt. That is for sure.thanks so much.

You're welcome. If you want to go more towards the medical way, here are a few things you can do :

Testosterone injections
Penile self injections with vascoactive drugs (to increase blood flow to the penis)
Vacuum constriction devices
Penile prosthetic implants
Microvascular surgery
Medication (vasodilators like Viagra, Vasomax, apomorphine or suppositories)

He can talk to his doctor about these options if they sound like something he wants to do :)

Thank you so much. You have been very helpful

Can he get you close orally first and then finish you off either with you on top driving or him on top missionary with you self stimulating?

I have a much better rate of success if my partner receives oral first either to orgasm or close enough. She doesn't have vaginal orgasms for the most part (though its happened), usually its cl!toral stim that does the job.

Basically you aren't saying he gets soft... just that he doesn't hold back, right?

Can you get him hard after he orgasms? I know after a rebound period, usually of maybe 10 minutes, I could sometimes "help out" a partner who didn't get their fair share first go around. I never felt as hard the second time, but sometime it was enough to get it done.

Maybe you got some really goooood stufff and he just can't help himself

That viagra is suppose to treat ED, but it will make you last a looong time also

As much as the last comment (goooood stuff) sounds crude and sophomoric, I did date a girl who, well, to be blunt, just seemed tighter, wetter, and more "lush" than anyone else I've been with... and it was hard as hell to hold back sometimes. Luckily she was really, really easy to get off so I didn't get in trouble with early ejac. But the first time I was with her I almost hit orgasm instantly, I was so unprepared for her. So maybe that's part of the problem. Still... doesn't mean you should just put up with it.

Here's a question. Anyone here have experience or know how well a #@%* ring works? I've been intrigued, but thought boy thatd be an embarrassing trip to the er... anybody?

You know to think about this. I never thought of it before you brought it up. I have had other men I have been with that have told me they could last longer with other girl. But they just couldn't with me. I had forgotten about that. It was a long time ago. Thanks for bring that up.