I need to know how I can help my best friend out before she dose something stupid. We have been friends since we were born. We grew up together. It was easy to help her when we were kids. Now as adults it’s getting harder. She has had a lot of family problems. Right now she feels that the world is against her. She lost her kids to family members, lost her home there are a few personal things she is also dealing with. She is bouncing between friends. I would love for her to come stay with me, but I live in Nevada and she is in Organ, and my hubby dose not want her to come stay with us. He says she is a drama queen and he wants nothing to do with it. The other day she sent me a message “i dont know how much longer i can fight this chit going on in my head all i can hear is bad stuff and its getting wrose im trying so hard i realy am.god i just want out. out of this pain. i dont know how to even talk about whats going on with me anymore. i feel like im a troubled soul wanting to go back home to be at peace. please dont be mad at me i know u dont like to hear that kind of stuff. ” She is also fighting not to cut on herself. She promised me she would not. But I am not there with her. Just by the sound of things she is thinking of giving up. I keep telling her she is strong. It sounds like to me that her girl friend is causing some of the problems. I tell her to find another place to stay; she says she has nowhere to go. She says she sees her councilor once in a while. That helps a little bit. I’ve even thought about trying to get a hold of the councilor and seeing if she could help me. But with this new law you cannot talk about any one personal record with out permission. How can I help her? A bit about her, she is into girl’s only, feels like she is a man trapped in a woman’s body. She has also been in love with me since forever. I know that it was a big mistake on my part for filling one of her biggest fanatics, friends with benefits. She gets a new friend or girl friend and none of them can even measure up to me in her standards. She flat out tells them “I have but only one best friend and she comes first.” It makes it hard for them to get close. What do I do?? She is my best friend, and I do love her. I need to find away to help her before it’s too late. Thank you for any help.
Littlebit

Sounds like she has a lot of stuff going on and is also struggling with the unrequited love of you. In my honest opinion the best thing you can do for your friend is cut all contact. She can never get on with her life or meet a nice woman until she gets you out of her life.

Has your friend been using drugs and/or alcohol to cope?

I could never let my best friend go like the rest of her family has done. She is still recovering from that. Short story my friends 13 year old daughter stayed with a step family member they raped the child and got her pg. the 13 year old kept the baby. The rest of her family wanted them to abort the baby. My Friend and her daughter did not believe in it. The baby is now a healthy child. Her family won't have nothing to do with that child or them. I have been the shoulder she has leaned on one foe 36 years. That would not be just something to let go of.
The only drugs she is on is what the doctors give her. Yes like a lot of people she tries to drink them away but they are still there when she sobers up.