I was talking to a mate today and he asked me how come my ex and broke up which as about 4 weeks ago,and I told him that I honestly didn't know.All she had told me was that she was confused and wanted space and I know that whena girl says that its often a hidden message.Since we didn't break up on bad terms I could simply ask her but I guess I've ben too scared to know... so with that being said I just want to know other opinions on the matter of whether its better to get the full story or too just leave it and believe what you simply understand.So any opinions or comments?

I believe that its more important to be healthy, and happy with yourself first, as anything said now between you and the ex will confuse you, and have you thinking of things that takes the focus from your healing. If you still are curious after you've gotten your feet under you again, then that's up to you. Most people who get healthy realise that the reasons for a break up are irrelevant any way, and so don't care any more.

And you talk about getting boring? At least I keep it on one post...

Anyway, I think it's better not to know. She isn't caring about what you are doing so then forget about her as well... I have been going through this and being upset and thinking of the best come back after trying so hard to get my ex back so here it is: Live well and be happy and they will soon hate themselves because they will then think that they would've been happier with you... Also when you heal and you get another girl and start dating, hopefully within the next 3 months, then you can show her that she messed up because your new girl is very happy and hopefully by then whatever she had planned and left you for will be totally destroyed and then she will be miserable and you will be happier than ever and will have the highest self esteem ever because you know that you had it in you and she was the one who messed up big time! Good luck my friend and whenever you need advise ask me. I made all the mistakes...

Yea I am happy whether I know or not,Ive never thought about it till today so I'm going to take that as a hint that I don't need to know and its not bothering me not knowing.But with that being said I'm curious to know other peoples opinions.