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mmcpower
Jul 11, 2007, 07:54 PM
Okay so here goes another question so soon- lol - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months, I have a real bad jealousy issue so I get a really nasty attitude when I don't get my way, anyway. A few months ago we took a break 0 we were still boyfriend & girlfriend but no serious physical contact. Then got back together cause he told me he just could not live without me as his girlfriend. What was the purpose of the break? I am now worried that he is going to do the same thing since I have had attitude with him for wanting to hang out with his female friend whom he just started talking to again, they have been friend since 3rd grade? Do I worry or do I trust that things will work out and he really does love me and how do I know if he does love me and just wants to hang out with his female friend??

sGt HarDKorE
Jul 11, 2007, 08:00 PM
1.) You must allow him to hang out with his friends. It is not right to control his life. I would be very upset with that

2.) Trust him. Let him know how you feel but you must trust him. You can have a relationship without trust.

3.) He has been with you for 10 months, I don't think it is some fling.

4.) The break was maybe to let you cool down, and maybe he was testing to see if he could live without you. So in a way it helped your relationship as you said he can't live without you.

5.) Again, let him know how you feel about his female friend, but DO NOT HOLD HIM BACK.

Im only a male, 15, but these are my 2.543 cents.

UnwantedHero
Jul 12, 2007, 08:59 AM
You sound like a very clingy girl and maybe he just wanted too see if he still loved you while letting you know that he doesn't have to be the centre of your life.the fact that he went back to you over this other girl has too say something doesn't it?To me it says that she's kind of like a sister while you're the love of his life.

wizzkid89
Jul 12, 2007, 02:32 PM
Okay first things first, your jealousy issue needs to be confronted. How would you feel if he said you couldn't hang out with your friends, I understand that circumstances change slightly when it's a friend of the opposite sex, but since he has been friends with her for so long don't you think if there was a chance for them to have a relationship it would have already happened? You have no real need to worry. He took a break likely because you became a little controlling, and honestly you need to rethink how badly you want to keep this guy because with any person you date you have to let them have their own space. So try to loosen the leash a bit lol k? Anyway, the good news is that you both took a break, yet you still want to be together, so just chill out a little bit and enjoy your relationship.

courti3
Jul 15, 2007, 05:04 PM
OK, usually when people take breaks is too see if your really right for that person. If he's got a friend who he's known for a long time, doesn't mean that he's going to breakup with you. Hes going out with you and only you.

I hope that helped.

Donnica
Aug 1, 2007, 05:21 PM
Ok well I have had the same problem in the past and I still haven't gotten an answer. The only thing you can do is ASK the person that ended it. Boys have a lot of issues when it comes to being in a relationship. My boyfriend of a year ended things with me 2 days before our one year anniversary and I was PISSED. Yea I cried and cried but at one point in time you have to get stronger. If he continues to do this you need to let him know how you feel.