:cool: I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years. I have hinted and I have told him in polite terms that I want more out of our sexual relationship. He is the type of man that just does the deed and is done. There is haardley ever any forplay or fantasy involved. I like to roleplay or try new things. I have tried many things. Once I dressed in a transparent black night gown that was cut up to the thighs with long boots (he likes boots). All that happened was straight to the sex and he was done in 5 mintues. Help me please. Is there anything I can do or do I have to just accept things as they are? He is a good man and wonderful with our kids. I just wonder if I am being selfish by wanting more?

No, you aren't being selfish wanting more. But he is a bit closed minded and/or selfish it seems. You've tried talking so you have been trying... so how about taking the bull by the horns so to say. Rather than just talk try to do... I'll admit it may be frustrating at first but maybe that's what its going to take to get him to listen and act. There are guys that are so narrow minded or repressed they won't entertain anything but what they see as more than "the Duty". Why I can't fathom... its just outside those lines is where all the fun happens.

Now if that doesn't get action then you will have to either be happy with what you have or get up the gumption to pack up and move on.