I'm only 14 and was talking to this guy who is only 17. We have been talking for 2 years now. Just a couple of weeks ago we had met up and talked to see if we were ready to make a relationship or not. I was and so was he but he told me that because of his football and job we really wouldn't be able to see each other and that would be a problem. I was okay with it and I let him be my first. Now ever since then he hasn't talked to me and I'm just wondering if I just got used, Did I do something wrong, or is he just scared that somebody will find out?

It sounds to me like you got used. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't make you any less of a good person, it happens to a lot of people. One thing though, you shouldn't have let him be your first because of the simple fact that he told you before hand he has a job and football and wouldn't have time for you. If someone told me they didn't have time for me, I would have told him to keep on walking. No time for me, no sex.

I hate to say this but he used you =[ I think he took advantage of u because your alott younger than him.. I been through that before so I know how u feel because I was 14 at the time too and he was 16 turning 17 and now I'm 15 turning 16 in a few weeks and I still isn't over it!

Sadly, you learned a lesson the hard way doll. Teenage boys are very interested in having sex and tend to say or do whatever in order to get it. It's too bad that he spent 2 years getting to know you and treated you this way. Just know that you are a great girl and one day soon you will meet someone who will treat you with respect and care. Try to move on.

I agree with the girls here, just remember that he obviously wasn't worth what you are hun.
Boys will say many things to get sex, but don't let that put you off all guys, just wait for someone who will treat you with respect, he's out there :)
As hard as it is, try to think about this with a more positive spin - yes, you got used, but lots of people have been used as well, and you're smarter now and will know better the next time.
Good luck :)

You have to ask yourself...


Would he still be around if you did'nt have sex with him?