Is it OK to be IN LOVE at the age of fourteen? Is that a bad thing? :confused:

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with that... but the truth is you may not really know what love truly is... so be extremely careful when getting into relationships, there are waaaay too many jerks and idiots who will not care for you and only want you to get in your pants... remember a guy who does not respect will only do worse later in life
Just be extremely careful, because it is easy to get hurt at such a young age, but love is truly an amazing experience. I wish you the best of luck.

Thanks, but the thing is, so many people say... YOU Don't KNOW WHAT LOVE IS UNTIL YOU GET OLDER... what if I do know? Is it normal for a fourteen year old to think this way?

It is extremely normal to feel this way, but believe me (not to try and put you down, but) you do not know what love is. There are so many amazing things to experience in a relationship and even if you have been in a relationship recently or right now, it may be great, but there is so much more that you will learn in the future...

It's hard for me to say, because I am a bit young, so I probably don't even know what love is, but during the teen years, it is common to think you know what love is, but you most likely will not get the full idea of it until you are older. But don't be afraid to get into relationships, because it is all a real learning experience, even if the relationship doesn't work out.

I've been through some hard relationships, ones that have not been very good, but even though they were not good, it helped me to realize how great that person that is meant for you truly is.

I hope this helps, best wishes.

Thank you very much... you are very good at giving advice!

Thanks... I'm only three years older than you... but I do know what I'm talking about... lol. I wish you the best.

Well, I'm 13 and I am like head over heels in love, but my boyfriend doesn't feel quite the same way. Just make sure that she feels the same way, and be positive before you tell her.

Are you SURE your IN LOVE?

A lot of teen say that they are in love... but really until your old enough most of the time its just lust... I used to do it when I was younger too.. the deep emotional feelings of real love won't hit you until later on in life and then you will look back and think wow that was all just puppy love... but its not bad to care about someone deeply at that age... it happens.. just remember you have your life ahead of you and most likely it will not last...

Just to echo Lolly and wzartv (you need name that's easier to type lol), you MAY very well be in love. But chances are you may be in LUST or ROMANTIC OBSESSION or you may just be overly-psyched to have this particular guy interested in you, or any number of feelings. You just don't have the experience yet to know.

Remember that whoever this lucky guy is, he is just a PART of your life. You also want to keep up with your girlfriends, family, schoolwork, job, etc. Balancing can be very hard at any age. Keep that in mind and enjoy these great feelings you are having!

Well,
OF COURSE IT IS! There isn't a perfect time to fall in love or anything. Just make sure not to do anything stupid with this boy. Don't rush into anything. Don't worry.. its not wrong. How long have you known him? :p
Elke <3 :rolleyes:

She didn't say is it OK to MAKE LOVE at 14 she said is it OK to be IN LOVE at 14, she's 14, she doesn't want to think about getting in the sack, so why don't you 'get off your high horse' and listen to what she asked.
:rolleyes:

Thank you lil' miss vixen. I have known this guy for about two year. I met him at my church. He used to not talk to ma AT ALL. I had WAY too much energy.I was kind of hyper. Well I gave him my phone number because I got a new cell. He gave me his as well and told me if I ever neeeded anything to just call. Well, he actually called me first. And we talked EVERY NIGHT for about a year and a half... (and still do) and he is just so Perfect to me. He makes me feel ON TOP OF THE WORLD. I feel way higher then on a horse.(hehe) especially when I am with him. Like today, I told him that I wasn't ready to kiss him yet. I just didn't think it was the right time. I am just weird like that!

Thanks,
Me**

That's very sweet, sorry about that other girlthat totally took everything the wrong way I hate people like that, it's like calm down. Sheesh

No, its not bad.. my opinion is that most people experience LOVE at older ages but sometimes, it happens with teens... it's natural but first you haf to realize if you really love them or not.. but sometimes the best things are ae waiting for you l8r in life but sometimes, love doesn't... but yes, it's OK to love at 14 n B IN love at 14... its perfectly fine...

Love,
Beenkie

I think most everyone has said the same thing on this thread, however no one really believes that you could be in love at 14, but I will give you the benefit of the doubt, because I have known couples that said they knew since they were 14,15,16, yes it is a little young, but love is a feeling, not like a driver's license and you have to wait to be a certain age, just remember that we shouldn't fight or try to bring other down on this forum we are all here to help one another, anyway if its what you feel it is what it is then and hopefully he will reciprocate those feelings and if he doesn't then you know it wasn't love.

You can be "IN LOVE" at almost any age. The only problem is that your idea of love will change greatly over the next 10 years, heck it may change over the next 10 days.

The main thing with the level of love is that it needs to grow and mature.

I know it will feel as big as everything just let it take time, and don't over react

Love is a state of mind.. . love is what you think it is or should be.. . only you can answer your own question.. . the more experienced you become in relationships the better you can judge what love means to YOU.. . not by what others have said it is.. . love can be very different to me then it is to you.. . love can be as storng as anger or fear or hate.. . it's the intensity of all the emotions that we can have all combined into one weird, yet so exciting feeling.. . love is what it is to you.. . you decide what the definition of it is and then ask yourself if you can be in love at 14.. . as you get older your idea of love might evolve into something more mature or intricate.. . and then again it might not.. . just remember, not everyone's definition of love is the same, that's where you run the risk of getting hurt.. . be wise about throwing such emotions around.. . all in all love is what you want it to be.. .

These are awesome posts... they have all helped me a lot!

No way, love is always a good thing. Although there are people who will try to hurt you, will find the correct person for you and then you have true love.

It depends I am 14 too and it is pretty weird. A lot of my friends they go out with guys all the time and every time they are all omg I love him I never want to leave him he is my life all dramatic like but really when they get down to breaking up in a couple days they find a new guy and they are the new love of their life. Also something that might hit is if you haven't had a whole lot of serious boyfriends and this one is your first serious relationship and if it isn't and you are truly in love try and see if he feels the same way!

hey chick... i was in love at 15 even thought i was being silly myself and now have for boys and having a girl in a few weeks with this guy!! so u just feel the way u have to feel... it may be something like mine but it may hjst be a phase and you'll grow out of it x

I'm 15 and I am in love, I don't think I am, I'm sure of it, just be sure about it.

Don't get attached.

It's all right... but sometimes at young age... people are mistaken love with infatuation...

Dont get attached.
Why not? Prey tell

Heyy so I'm only 2 years old then you.. and I believe that yes you can be in love at your age or my age... love is a feeling.. not something you can explain so as long as YOU know and FEEL that your in love.. then you are and its fine

I think it is. That is if your over the immature dating for a week then breaking up thing.
Example: my friend fell in love with his now wife of 9years when he was only 15.

I'm 14, coming up 15 this year and I have a girlfriend =]

NO IT'S NOT BAD.LOVE IS LOVE.NO MATTER HOW OLD YOU ARE.keep doing what you do. (:

I have never been in Love yet, but I can tell you this.. I HAVE INDEED BEEN DEEPLY INFATUATED!! Yeah, it's normal to be in love, don't feel weird about this. Practice makes perfect. Especially when you start early.

Plus, I'm only 1 year older than you.

Actually, at this point, you are two years younger than her... this post was from 2005! :)

Oh... Well, this is embarrassing... I should really pay more attention to things like this. Thank you for pointing that information out. =)

By the way, I didn't even know it showed the post date. =D

No problem! A lot of new posters don't realize that, so I feel that it's important to let them know. Some people are real rude about it... I try not to be because I feel as though everyone should work together as a team to help each other out.

Hope to see you around more!

Uh, fourteen?
Before you get so tied up in this guy, experience other guys.
You both are too young to be serious.

If someone at a young age didn't know what true love is, how will they ever know. Most people in their middle ages probably think they are in love, but are still in the same mind set as when they were a teenager. I think you can fall in love in any age, and when you do, you'll know its right. I believe there are only a select few in the world who have ever felt this feeling, and it is indescribable.

why not? prey tell

Dono dude, just saying lol:)

It really depends on the situation.

The level of you and your partners maturity will speak volumes.

personally I don't think that you should be in love at such a young age. You have your whole life to give your all to someone.. . Love yourself =]

I don't tink you even know what real love is, if you did you wouldn't need to ask if it OK because when you love someone you don't care if people think its OK or not because it can't be helped.

I'm fourteen, too. I was in love. Desperately in love. But, some things happened and we were no longer allowed to speak to each other. And now, I'm not sure if I made a huge mistake or what because two months later, he has a new girlfriend and I'm basically being forced to move on here. What I'm trying to say is that yes, it is possible, but you should be careful. VERY careful. Think very carefully about who he is, because quite frankly, I'm not sure I know the kid anymore. He's completely different from what I thought he was. Just make sure you're not being lied to. (I hope you can take it from another 14 year old :) )

Of course you can. But I think that you will also have a lot of other feelings that you've never had before. I was in love at 18 and when we broke up I thought I would die. So, you can be "in love" but a lot of your feelings are going to be really strong because it will be the first time you've experienced them. Just remember that yes, you can be in love but if it doesn't work out and you think your world has fallen apart - things will get better, it's just that you haven't felt that way before, so it will seem really horrible.

I think you're the only one who knows whether it's okey or not, because it depends on how you feel... I mean are you really in love? If you are, good for you. Many people never finds love but it's great that you find it, even if you're fourteen you know? I used to be so in love, and I was also fourteen... and then after months of been in love with him, he told me that he liked me ¿Can you believe it? It was awsome, my heart bited so fast, my hands were sweaty, something inside of me started to burn my heart, I felt like no other day, like if all the bad things that happened to me didn't matter anymore like if the only thing that existed was love... but... he broke my heart into a thousand of pieces when he asked some other girl to be her girlfriend, I felt HORRIBLE, really bad... and when I remember I still feel empty and wonder ¿what the hell did I do wrong? I blame myself and then him and then her, but at the end I realized that if he had left me for some other girl he wasn't worth it, so GO FOR IT! You're in love? That's great just be careful and NEVER regret ANYTHING, because maybe he wasn't worth it... but love was(:

Yes you can know what love is at 14. I fell in love at 13 and that person and I are still together. In the world of love nothing is impossible.

Well I am 14 too, and I believe that you can fall in love at this age. I mean, I know I am in love. I get that a lot of you will reply saying "you are too young". Well, let me ask you something: what is your favorite food that you LOVE? How did you know that you loved that food? I know that it is weird to relate love of people to love of food, but think about it. But when I was younger my mother used to say "love and list are twins. Twins have different DNA just like love and lust do." It is hard to tell them apart. Also, falling in love at a young age is rare.
The man I am in love with will be 18 in 3 months. How do I know I love him, and it is not lust? Because I can imagine a life and I don't think about sexual thoughts. Also, my heart can sing the same song his does, and speak of how I know I love him but my brain cannot process that. He loves me too. He said he will wait for 4 years, until he can propose/date me. No one can tell you whether you are in love, except your heart or God.
Hope that helped