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charlyjefferis
Jul 8, 2007, 10:34 AM
HI

I am in desperate need of some advice, I feel so alone I don't have anyone I can really talk to.
I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago, after I found out he went away with another girl. He said nothing happened and I want to believe him, but since I found out I have lost my trust, and my love for him.
We were together for only 8 months, and were engaged, and we live together, and I wishing we never did all so quickly. He has moved out now, but all my family have turned against me and putting loads of pressure on me to get back with him, but I don't think I can. He has made me out like the bad one, and I don't know what to do. Hes now on antidepressants for 6 months.

I have had a troubled past, and have had counseling, but he is bringing me down with him, and I have worked extremely hard to get where I am today. I don't want to be with some one who can bring me down. I'm trying so hard to fight the depression myself.

Help

talaniman
Jul 8, 2007, 10:57 AM
No matter what anyone says, you have done what's best for you, and don't worry it will work out for you. Things did move fast, and I hope you take more time next time, to know a guy a lot better before engagments, and living together. Good Luck.

Shaunta
Jul 8, 2007, 12:12 PM
I Agree... You Know What's Best For Yourself... Don't Listen To Others... Do What You Feel Is Right!

PixieMama
Jul 8, 2007, 12:55 PM
He went away with another girl and didn't tell you? If there was nothing to hide, he would have told you what his plans were in the first place. I don't blame you for losing all your trust in him. I would have too! But, here's what you need to consider... Do/Did you really love him? (Obviously if you were engaged, I would say so!) People make mistakes, and trust is something that has to be earned. IF there is any hope for you two to get back together then he needs to earn your trust over time. It won't happen over night. And really, don't worry about what your family/friends think. Only YOU can decide what is right for you!

charlyjefferis
Jul 8, 2007, 01:11 PM
I did love him yes but I seemed to have lost all of it now! He said he will give me space but he hasn't I can't handle broken promises as have had them all my life.
My dads an alocholic and was abuisve mentally to me and he was fall of broken promises my family and he's and gone behind my back and I have no one I can trust. I was raped at the age of 16 and find it hard to trust men anyway but I have had coucilling for ova 5 years to deal with both things but my boyfriend is bringing mw down again I don't want to go back to what I was.

Thank you for your advice

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