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roogirl
Jul 8, 2007, 12:35 AM
If my boyfriend and I have a heated discussion, and I hear his booming voice starting to grow, the first thing I do is look for the exit and RUN.

I go to great lengths to avoid arguing, and sometimes walk on eggshells or just agree with him. I have even lied about petty things to prevent arguments.

When he is angry, he doesn't know when to call it a day. He goes on and on, even when I'm visibly upset, he still continues to chastise. I've spoken to him about this, but it hasn't changed anything.

I obviously need to toughen up a bit, any suggestions? Also, how can I stop him from yelling? I've tried just about every trick in the book, any suggestions there would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Scorpio39
Jul 8, 2007, 01:56 AM
Roogirl.

Your boyfriend is taking you for granted. You are allowing him to get away with this at such a early stage of your relationship, imagine what happens when you fully commit into him by way of engagement or marriage.

Take a step back and ask him to get a check on his temper. It may get bad for you for a few days, but in the long run it will only be good for you.

But do not let him bully you.

One has to be in a relationship to feel good!

CaptainRich
Jul 8, 2007, 06:04 AM
You should be able to speak your mind honestly.

Your "boyfriend" should be considered for anger management.

You may want to consider someone more compatible.

talaniman
Jul 8, 2007, 06:33 AM
If you have talked and he has made no changes, then its time to go for a while. He is out of bounds as to how you will be treated, so let him think about it a few days by himself. Make sure he knows you will not be treated this way.

roogirl
Jul 8, 2007, 05:08 PM
Thanks.

hexnoe
Jul 8, 2007, 06:57 PM
Tell him that his yelling makes you upset and that or it could be that he just likes to see you cry and I would suggest you find a new boyfriend because it could turn into abuse and he may get one day and kill you so look at the general picture