Hello there. I have a problem that has been going on for some time now. Last year my husband and I went out with a group of friends I work with one of them and there was also her husband and another couple. We all got really drunk and I feel asleep after back at one of the couples homes. My husband thought it best to let me sleep and he went back to our house because we have two kids and my mum was looking after them. Anyway I woke up early the next morning to what I thought was my husband touching my Virginia only to find out it was the husband of the lady I work with. I told him to stop and he did and then woke his wife up and asked her if she could give me a lift home. On the way home we stopped to use the loo and I told her what he had done. She started crying dropped me off and then left with him to go back to there house. Later I received calls from her crying and upset and calls from him saying she was leaving him and that I was a liar. She believed me 100% I comforted her by saying he was drunk he had made a mistake and that I didn't want to be the reason why they split up. He called again apologized and said he couldn't remember as he was so drunk. I said to him they I just wanted to forget about it and that he should concentrate on making it up to his wife. S o everything was fine between me and her, until she asked me and my husband over for christmas. I said no I did nt want to after what had happpend. She instantly got angry saying he was drunk that night and I was been stupid I explained that I would feel uncomfortable and my husband wouldn't want to see him anyway. Then he starts coming into work with her each time I explain to her that I feel uncomfortable and make excuses to go home. She again tells me I'm stupid. But I feel uncomfortable and its my work place then my husband finds out and goes mad. So I speak to my boss explain everything and he tells this woman her husband can't come into work. She get really angry and starts saying really horrible things to me and my husband so my husband says if she carries on he will tell all our work colleagues what he did. So she takes it upon herself to tell everyone at work a fabricated version and makes out I am lying about it and it didn't happen. It all gets too much for me I just want to forget about it, so I take 3 months of work. Thinking it will have calmed down I returned to work this week and its just the same 1/2 the people thinki'm telling the truth and the other1/2 think she is. I just want to forget about it all but she is making it very difficult for me at work and my husbands fuming. I have tried to speak to her but she just shouts and screams at me. I can understand it must be hard for her and she's in denial about her stupid husband. But I'm just sick of the whole thing.

I think that she is in denial of what happened because if she do accept the truth she might not be able to handle it, since her life is now ruined she want to make sure that she ruin yours as well. Ignore her as much as possible, giving her attention will only boost her ego

I believe you have nothing to do. You didn't do anything wrong. Get on with your life with your husband and enjoy it. Don't worry about what she is saying as you and your husband know the truth. You can't stop what she says or does you can only change your own life. Ignore her hold you head high go where you want when you want and don't allow this person or her husband to have any control or room in your lives. Stop talking or even thinking about it at work or home and it will go away. Live happy and free.