I've had this best friend for 4 years, I can talk to him about everything. He's the person that i go 2 when im hurt and just knows what to say when im hurt. He's been with me through everything but i just never saw him as a boyfriend. know i dont know what to do?

We only live once. The opportunity to go beyond just being friends and being something beyond that is being presented to you. I would take the chance to go out with him. You never know what will happen until you try. He already sounds like a great catch if the two of you have been friends already for four years and you have been through so much with each other.

Try going out with him. If you don't feel anything between the 2 of you then "breakup" and forget the speed bump in your friendship. Just go back to being really close friends. And if that eventually grows into more than a friendship then good for you. But if it doesn't it doesn't so just deal.

You'll never know until you try... You have to do what's right to you

Are you worried that if you go out with him and things end, that you will lose this awesome relationship you have??

Try it out is all I can say because this is like a once in a lifetime opportunity

If you like him,
Then go for it.

I've had this best friend for 4 years, I can talk to him about everything. He's the person that i go 2 when im hurt and just knows what to say when im hurt. He's been with me through everything but i just never saw him as a boyfriend. know i dont know what to do?
Darl, if the opportunity is there, take it, don't let someone else take it. Jump on the boat and ask cause its not worth waiting for

Yea date the guy but if u 2 break up he may never want to talk to you again and that because I'm close friends with SoAlone on here and I asked her and she said then during she sent me a text why she said no and then I call her and we agreed that if we had a relationship and then suddenly broke then it would most likely screw our friendship to the moon, I say go for but just be careful
Lyon

The very worst thing you do to yourself is going out with best friend.I have done with my friend of 5years.and we start dating but out freindship is not the same any more.I lost him my boy friend and my friend .so if you can succede as your boy friend you will ended up losing his freindship.

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I've had this best friend for 4 years, I can talk to him about everything. He's the person that i go 2 when im hurt and just knows what to say when im hurt. He's been with me through everything but i just never saw him as a boyfriend. know i dont know what to do?

I say, if you think you can make it work, and you could envision him as more than a friend, then go for it.

First, lay out some ground rules, whatever you think you need, so that if it doesn't work your friendship could stay the same. They are different for everyone (in this situation), but I'm sure you could think of them yourself. :)

If it doesn't work, try to go back to your friendship. It doesn't have to be awkward if you don't make it, I've learned from experience. Just play it cool, and you can do it! :)

If you like him, even a little, take the chance. Me and my boyfriend were once BEST FRIEND, we only knew each other for only a year when he asked me out. I took the chance because I could talk with him about ANYTHING! Good luck, just make sure you guys promise that you will still be friends even after you breakup... it will help if you don't feel comfortable dating him.

You only live once, so take the oppurtunity while you have the chance. If things feel to awkward or aren't going well then yes break up.
But if you really don't see him in that way, then don't force yourself. Tell him that you can only see him as a best friend and you don't want to ruin what you guys have, if he really cares about you he will understand
Xo WorstNightMare...

Don't worry if a friend asks you out. Most relationships don't work out unless you two are each other's best friends. Most people start dating before becoming friends, or even best friends, so you guys have a head start, and a good foundation to base a relationship on. If you're up to it, why not take him up on his offer? You'll never know if you don't.

There has been a lot of responses telling you to date him, but the question is: why? Firstly, do you like him like that? If you do then by all means do it, but if you don't then a relationship will be awkard and not fun when it's over... I like to separate love interests and friends because when the two come together it gets pretty awkward. Maybe ask him how long he's felt this way... Maybe he feels like he's some how obligated to step the friendship up, it happens.