BAsh1988
Jul 2, 2007, 06:49 AM
Hey- my name is becky and I am having a lot of trouble. (I apoligize in advance if this is long) Im 19 years old and had been going out with my boyfriend for a litle over two years. He is about to start college this fall, and I go to a different college where I will be a soph this fall. Our relationhip was good a lot of the time (we had fun together, we loved each other, he was sweet and romantic, we made each other happy most of the time). But it was also really bad a lot of the time. He would put me down, never compliment me, was absolutely horribly mean when we got into fights (and I was ALWAYS the one to apoligize), and his mother was absolutely the worst. She always screams and curses at her husband in public and she is just plain cuttng and cruel to anyone who walks in her path. And on top of it, she is so in loe with her son and tinks that he can do no wrong and she spoils him like crazy.
Anyway, so recently we had been getting in fights more frequently than we used to, but I still loved him and I did not want to break up. Then this past Monday we got into a stupid fight which totally escalated and towards the end of it I was on the phone with him for 2 hours screaming and crying to just come over and we will work this out. My dad, after hearing his daughter be treated this way, came into my room and screamed "get off the phone with that piece of !" and my boyfriend heard. My dad apoligized two times, and we all know it was wrong but he said it in the heat of the moment.
My bfs mom was not too happy to hear that my dad said this (she was away and is wayyy too inolved and overprotective). I don't know whether it was her or my boyfriend, but he then told me that he will never come to my house or see my parents agan, that he hates my dad and is not allowed here anymore. But later me and my boyfriend talked and we thought maybe we should take a break or be in an open relationship, but finally we decided that we would try the relationship one more time, and if it didn't work then we would end it. So the next day I went to his house and his mom was acting weird. I told my boyfriend that I was going to talk to her and make sure that everything was better, and he told me I shouldn't but I figured that all it could do was help.
So I went up to his mom and apoligized for my dad again and said "i just want to make sure that everything is okay between us". SHE FREAKED OUT and screamed and cursed at me for 20 minutes straight. SHe called me and idiot and my parents f****** morons and so much mean/horrible stuff that I cannot even tell you. After she finished screaming I looked at my boyfriend and he said that he didn't stop her because I didn't listen to him when he said not to talk to her then.
So I was hysterical crying, not even believing that this just happened and went to walk towards the door. This is when my boyfriend ended things for good. He said the reason was that I don't listen to him (like I should have to have a time and place to be allowed to apoligize to his mother) and he said that I will never learn and that our relationshp has too many issues. After he said this I was just glaring at him and, he had gotten his wisdom teeth out that morning, he said "if you slap me right now, we will sue your family". And that was the end of the relatioship. I went home hysterical, not believing that this really happened.
Then the next day my mom got an email from his moter explaining all that is wrong with me, with our family, and with the relationship (and NONE of if was put nicely). And also a lot of the things in the letter were secrets that I told my boyfriend and obviously he told his mother.
This was probably the worst break up in history, and I do not know what to do. To make it worse I am so in love with him still and I just keep thinking about all of the good things and I miss him so so much. Last night was my first attempt to leave my house, and I went to a party, saw his car outide (I didn't think he would be there) and went home. I just do not know what to do and I do not want him with other girls (I know that I have no control oer this but the thought of it makes me sick). Its ridiculous, but if he called me today and asked me back I would say yes even though I know that I should not and everyone in my life thinks I'm so much better off, not only is he horrible but his mother makes it ten times worse. Please help me, I am so depressed and don't know what to do.
Anyway, so recently we had been getting in fights more frequently than we used to, but I still loved him and I did not want to break up. Then this past Monday we got into a stupid fight which totally escalated and towards the end of it I was on the phone with him for 2 hours screaming and crying to just come over and we will work this out. My dad, after hearing his daughter be treated this way, came into my room and screamed "get off the phone with that piece of !" and my boyfriend heard. My dad apoligized two times, and we all know it was wrong but he said it in the heat of the moment.
My bfs mom was not too happy to hear that my dad said this (she was away and is wayyy too inolved and overprotective). I don't know whether it was her or my boyfriend, but he then told me that he will never come to my house or see my parents agan, that he hates my dad and is not allowed here anymore. But later me and my boyfriend talked and we thought maybe we should take a break or be in an open relationship, but finally we decided that we would try the relationship one more time, and if it didn't work then we would end it. So the next day I went to his house and his mom was acting weird. I told my boyfriend that I was going to talk to her and make sure that everything was better, and he told me I shouldn't but I figured that all it could do was help.
So I went up to his mom and apoligized for my dad again and said "i just want to make sure that everything is okay between us". SHE FREAKED OUT and screamed and cursed at me for 20 minutes straight. SHe called me and idiot and my parents f****** morons and so much mean/horrible stuff that I cannot even tell you. After she finished screaming I looked at my boyfriend and he said that he didn't stop her because I didn't listen to him when he said not to talk to her then.
So I was hysterical crying, not even believing that this just happened and went to walk towards the door. This is when my boyfriend ended things for good. He said the reason was that I don't listen to him (like I should have to have a time and place to be allowed to apoligize to his mother) and he said that I will never learn and that our relationshp has too many issues. After he said this I was just glaring at him and, he had gotten his wisdom teeth out that morning, he said "if you slap me right now, we will sue your family". And that was the end of the relatioship. I went home hysterical, not believing that this really happened.
Then the next day my mom got an email from his moter explaining all that is wrong with me, with our family, and with the relationship (and NONE of if was put nicely). And also a lot of the things in the letter were secrets that I told my boyfriend and obviously he told his mother.
This was probably the worst break up in history, and I do not know what to do. To make it worse I am so in love with him still and I just keep thinking about all of the good things and I miss him so so much. Last night was my first attempt to leave my house, and I went to a party, saw his car outide (I didn't think he would be there) and went home. I just do not know what to do and I do not want him with other girls (I know that I have no control oer this but the thought of it makes me sick). Its ridiculous, but if he called me today and asked me back I would say yes even though I know that I should not and everyone in my life thinks I'm so much better off, not only is he horrible but his mother makes it ten times worse. Please help me, I am so depressed and don't know what to do.