Most of the time during sex, my husband is limp. He still performs, but he does not get a full erection. I try to help him in different ways, but it is not really working. If he has a full erection at the beginning, it is gone after a few minutes. He says it is because his penis is big and maybe doesn't get enough circulation. In all honesty, he is pretty average, which I would never say to him. This has gone on since we met, but I guess I'm not getting satisfied sexually and need help. I ask him to do oral sex, but he acts like it is a chore. When he does it, I just don't get satisfied. It is too fast and not very good. I do orgasm, but not like I used to in a past relationship. Please help!! He is going to be 39 in October and is not on any medication.

How old is he? Is he on any medications, and does he have any known medical conditions?

Honestly if it's as bad as you say it is he might have E.D. (erectile disfuntion) you should have him see a doctor

It might sound disgusting but during sex put your hand down there and give yourself some extra ooomph... And sometimes guys get really turned on by the sight of a woman pleasuring themselves. Just try it one time and see if it works for the both of you.

Beachgurl might be onto something. Always gets me going. This is very hot. You just need to be sure that he's secure enough about you helping yourself. Otherwise, he might feel more inadequate because of what you are doing and this could compound the problem.

Hello.

Sending you a Great Big Hug.

Its not you, I'm sure you have the ability to bring a man to attention and keep him there, it could be that he just thinks about himself and is a jerk. If that's the case you should see that in other parts of the relationship also. If you don't then I would say he has a medical problem. Because he isn't on meds right now doesn't mean he doesn't need any. Many medical problem can make him limp so its time to take this as a sign and go get a real check up.

BTW. I agree with the Ladies giving yourself a helping hand can't hurt and I'm sure will make things much better for you and if he is like me for him also hehehe.

Good Luck
Dennis777

How long have you two been together? Has he always been like this?