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mom dukes
Jun 26, 2007, 06:22 PM
If anyone can help with an answer to this please let me know.

I have a friend who has a 14 year old son by a woman he has ended it with 14 years ago. He has since had 2 other children.

My friend has been paying court ordered child support for the past 14 years on his son and the woman has not let him see or spend time with his son since birth. My friend pays almost $300 per month to her alone in support - plus he supports his other 2 children. He is not a dead beat dad and has begged to be in his sons life - this woman has no problem letting him know that if he doesn't want her back all she wants from him is the money. She has even gone so far as going on a local radio station and stating that her child support payments have paid for her new cars, her new home and a breast job. Meanwhile - every Christmas she calls my friend and lets him know what his son wants for Christmas. My question is - why can DSS help the mother collect child support and go as far as putting a man in jail if he doesn't pay but DSS can't help the father when the mother is wrong?? Why does it have to be another expense for the dad to get an attorney and go to court - As it is - after paying for 3 children - my friend can hardly support himself. No way he can afford an attorney. The laws need some fixing - It is not always the father that is wrong. And how would he go about relinquishing parental rights on a child he doesn't even know. The son calls another man Daddy and has for the past 14 years.

Fr_Chuck
Jun 26, 2007, 07:04 PM
If he wants to see the child, he has to get visitation awarded by the court, then if the mother does not allow it, he takes the mom back to court for contempt. I know many mothers where if they don't allow the father his visit, they have to pay a fine each time.

And as noted a 1000 times on here, he does not have to give up his rights, since he is not using the, ( one of those is to take mom to court for visit rights) but if he gives up his rights, he still has to pay child support, paying child support and giving up rights are to totally separate things, normally the only reason givingup rights stop child support is if the other parent is remarried or has a life partner that wants to adopt