Well ever since my friend convinced me to get the industrial piercing, ITS BEEN ALL I COULD THINK ABOUT. Its driving me crazy and my friend is supposed to get it next month. I'm supposed to go with her. When I first asked my mom she said she would think about it(and I know her, it was more like a yes and not just because that's what I wanted the answer to be) then one day I showed it to her at the mall and she asked me if I really wanted it? And that it was ugly. Then another day I showed her another one and I had been sooo excited about it and she flat out said no:eek: . I was in complete shock and now I'm obsessed with it. :( . I already tried asking her and said its just on my ear and that I'm a good student but I don't know what else to say! Please help me come up with a good exuse I already know all the risks and I know that I am allowed to get it underage in my state as long as I have permission from my mom. I'm 16

Your Mom said no. She is responsible for you. If there were any consequences to this piercing, she would have to take care of that. I have seen pics of industrial piercings and I am on your Mom's side with this. No minor child of mine would get one either. If he or she would want one that bad, he or she can get one when they are out of the house and paying their own bills. Maybe this won't seem so attractive in a few years.

Hello.

Im sure your Mom has a good reason for saying no. As you said she thought about it and didn't say no until she checked into it. If its something you really want then give it some time and show her that your not just wanting it because your friend has it.

Remember your asking your Mom to trust you and treat you like an adult so don't blow it and act like a child because she said no.

Good Luck
Dennis777

If your mom sαys no then you hαve α slim to none chαnce of doing it-- your most likely obsessed with it becαuse you cαn't hαve it. If your 13 then I cαn see where she's going by sαying no... whαt is the αge of mαjority? 18?.

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Honey I just got mine done last week. They rip through your ear with a hollow needle in 2 parts of your ear. It hurts really bad. Then they rip through it again to put the earring in, which also hurts really bad. I have my tongue, eyebrow and nipple pierced, and the Industrial would have brought me to tears if I wasn't so shocked that it actually hurt, since I have a very high tolerance for pain.

K well I have no tolerance for pain! I'm seriouly telling you my biggest fear just might be needles but I honestly don't care because I really want one! Lol and I'm a sissy when it comes to these things I just know there's a way I can convince my mom.

If your mom said no then she probably won't budge. I wouldn't keep bugging her either because its just going to make her mad. And you say you have no tolerance for pain now, but just wait until you actually get it. It hurts. Just wait until you're 18, that's what I had to do because my mom wouldn't let me have piercings either. When you're 18 you're an adult and can do whatever you want :)

I was really excited before because I thought she had said yes but I just don't want to wait. I know my mom is always right and I always listen to what she says because I like having a good relationship with her but this is just a peircing on my ear! Don't u think she's exaggerating a bit? I've asked for one on my lip before and she said no and I can understand that but not this. And what do you mean by a hollow needle... how big?

It's a 14 gauge hollow needle. Hollow meaning its hollow on the inside of it so it can take a chunk out of your ear. They don't do that piercing with a gun, they use the same thing the use to pierce someone's tongue. I would say she exaggerating but not in this case because this piercing his highly prone to infection and takes about a year to heal fully.

Thanks and you kind of scared me a little by the way haha but really can I just get advice on how to convince my mom?

You cant. When parents say no 9 times out of 10 they mean it. You'll probably just have to wait until you're 18.

I bust my you know in school and I always ask for permission if I didn't care what my mom said I would have it already! My stepdad is considering and he could convince my mom but I just want a little help cause I know my mom would understand. I just don't want to pull the "i wanna fit it" line(which would work) cause I don't want her to feel bad for me when that's not even the reason I want it. My mom constantly changes her mind. Last year she let me dye my hair and now its like every time I want to dye it she has a reason why I shouldn't when she didn't have a problem with it before. She's just scared cause she thinks I'm doing weird stuff to myself

Does everyone else have an Industrial? If so, I don't know why you want one anyway. Its better to be unique rather than like everyone else. Hardly anyone around here has it, that's why I got it. I still don't think she'll let you, but what you can try is do some research on the pros and cons of getting that piercing. Try your case just like you're a lawyer in court. Maybe she'll notice the effort you put into it and consider letting you have it done.

No one has it here. That's what I meant by saying "thats not the reason that i want it". Well maybe I've seen one girl with it. But the reason I want it is to be different and ill stand out. I'm just so bored of being the same all the time and I want to change a little bit which my mom doesn't understand. I mean.. I EVEN had to convince my boyfriend to let me get the industrial. I just want to change a little every now and then

I can understand that. That's exactly how I am. I want to be different than everyone else. Just tell your mom that. Tell her you want to be unique and not like everyone else. You can always say "at lease i'm not asking for a tongue piercing", but only use that one if you're brave because that one made my mom mad. Just do like I said and research it and explain it to her.

Yea I told her that at least I'm not asking to pierce my face or anywhere weird and she just ignored that part but thanks anyway ill take your advice about the research and the unique thing. :)

If she says no I wouldn't argue, it'll blow your chances of getting anything else in the future.

I'm going to try my best not to push my luck because I also want to ask her if I can go to a concert with some friends and she might say no to that too! I just hope I can change her mind about the peircing

Well good luck :)

Thanks

It is possible to get the industrial piercing done with the gun if they place it carefully you'd just have to wait about two weeks before you could place the long pole in. I think that's less painful than the needle anyway

You can't get it with the gun because they need a wide hole to fit the barbell in. If you use just a regular ear piercing gun, all you can put in is regular earrings.

There's a device that stretches the hole to accommodate the larger pole

I have a friend who did it this way it takes longer to get the desired results but it worked

Well I'm in the same position as you trying to convince my mum, but I read something you wrote and it disturbed me a little.
Can you honestly say that if your friend hadn't 'convinced you' you'd still want to get it? No offence intended, but maybe think about that.
Because I know that I thought of this on my own and it took me a while to decide, (most of my friends are telling me not to get it), but I want it for myself so I made the decision.

But goodluck :]

I just had my industrial done a week ago. My parents really aren't big on piercings, and by that I mean they didn't want me to get my ears pierced at all, not even once on the lobe. Best way to convince a parent is to ask, calmly! And without any trace of whining or immaturity or sullenness, why your mom has an objection to this specific piercing and then address her concerns and complaints rationally. Also have tons of information about the piercing, i.e. what best to clean it with, how long it will take to heal, what metal should be used when the peircing is healing, how exactly it is done, what you can do for pain, and so on.

One of the facts I used on my parents is that even though cartilage piecing take a long time to heal they close up really fast, so if I for a job or something I couldn't have a visible piercing the chances of it closing up quickly and well are extremal high. Also because it is on the ear it is easy to cover up by simply wearing you hair down.

Try to explain to your mom why you want this peircing and use a good excuse not like I want it because it is cool or my friend is getting one. My parents responded well to the personal expression of individuality, but you know what you mom will respond to.

Also if you mom does say no, just accept it and no whining because not whining will make you seem more mature and increase the chance of her changing her mind. And if you ask her again in like 6 months you have proved yourself mature and that the industrial is something you truly want and not just a "phase" (God, I hate it when parents say that X_X.

Also if you really want the piercing it is worth the wait. I had to wait until I was almost 16 to get my ears pieced the first time and had to wait about 9 months for my industrial (I'm 17 now) and it was completely worth the wait. It looks fantastic.

You also sound like you are a little worried about the pain. It is different for everyone. Some people say it is one of the most painful piercings and other say it didn't really hurt at all. It just depends. Personally I found that stubbing my toe is more painful. I one of those people who will hope around for like half an hour after stubbing my toe swearing and for my piercing I just said ow when they put the actually bar in because they tapped the side of the hole. I will say that the healing is far worse than actually getting it done. I've had other cartilage piercings done before and it hurts all the time for about a month, then is just kind of sore for about two more, but won't be 100% healed for about another 6 months after that.

I hope that helps

When I was your age I desperately wanted to get my industrial and my mom said no too. If its something you really want think of how gratifying it will be when you finally do turn 18 and you can walk in and ge it on your own. Trust me its worth the wait. I got mine 6 months ago and it was by far the most painful piercing I have had (and I have a high pain tolerance!). Wait it out to make sure its something you really do want to put yourself through, healing is a . Don't piss off your mom anymore, just wait it out!

Piercings are not the answer to all of your problem ooh I want more freedom ooh I know ill get a piercing. Well no that's not going to get you freedom it will make your parents not let you do anything and plus it's a hole in your body for the rest of your life do you really want that!!

I got mine done on my 16th birthday. Things might be different where you live. The best thing would to go to the parlor and ask what you can get done. Where I went any ear piercing you can be 16. Its just tattoos and body piercings you have to wait until your 18.

What state do you live in?
Why don't you tell your mom that it would be a good reward for doing good in school or tell her that you will do stuff for her for a month or 2 and help around the house or do it opposite kind of show her some worse piercings like corset and septum and say see mom I don't want piercings that look bad like this just something simple on my ear and if it's that you don't want to see it I could put my hair over it when your around so you don't need to see something you don't like.
How old are you?