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teachermama3
Jun 19, 2007, 10:12 PM
I am writing on behalf of my 14 year old niece. I am very concerned about her. She constantly speaks of running away, and leaving home. She says that her mother (my sister) is horrible to her. My niece admitted to me that she is afraid of her mother. My sister has been married multiple times, and has moved her children at least seven to eight times per year. They have never finished a year at the same school. My sister also has a horrible temper. Here lately , these problems at home have seemed to effect my niece more strongly. When she visits me, she talks about wanting to sneak out with boys, and she talks about her friends that do drugs. She has always been such a good girl, and now she is changing. Is there anything that I can say to her, to keep her from heading down the wrong path? I do not want to see her ruin her life, but I truly feel that she might get pregnant or something on purpose just so she could get away from her mother. I love her like she is my own daughter. How can I help her?

michealb
Jun 19, 2007, 10:34 PM
This is going to be hard because if you talk with your sister she will probably get defensive. Talking with your sister maybe the place to start though you know her better than I do. Otherwise give your niece your home and cell phone number and to call you if she needs any help that she can call you anytime day or night. Tell her that you will answer any question she has honestly and anything said between the two of you is kept between the two of you unless she tells you about a crime, abuse or something that will hurt her. Give her a plan to follow other than running away make sure she knows that not getting along with a parent is a bad reason to screw up her life.

bushg
Jun 19, 2007, 10:35 PM
Let her live with you, call children service on your sister and let the record speak for itself. Your sister does not deserve this child and you need to help your niece. Your sister needs to be responsible for her actions, not have it covered up by her family. Do that family a favor and get then the help they need. It is obivous that shuting up and letting your sister do as she pleases is not working. so try something new. :)peace

Likomgbarbiee
Jun 20, 2007, 02:29 PM
Yes. Let her move in with you exspecially around this time in her life she needs someone too be there for her and she needs too try and live a semi-normal life with a school with friends and not having too worry about leaving in the next week. Just whatever you do don't push her away she needs you more then ever right now .


Good luckk :]