Im a girl in college, and I haven't been a relationship for a really long time. Ive been on a few dates, but I think that there's something turns the guys off. Ive always been told that I'm a really beautiful girl and that I have a great personality, just that I'm kind of on the big side. My mom calls it statuesque... I call it fat.. and people tell me I'm just a bit chubby:confused: Could my weight be getting in the way of me finding a nice guy? Are there really men who find big women attractive, or are they just saying that so that we don't feel bad?

No your weight could not be in the way of meeting a nice guy because nice guys don't care about things like that. Your weight is probably hindering you meeting jerk who are superficial but who wants that anyway!

Just be yourself and keep being beautiful and the right guy will come along some time. Don't let it worry you so much. People can sense it and you come off as desperate!

Okay I don't know a lot but I do know guys like big women I am big and I have thought that too then I met this guy who likes me for me and not the way I look every guy I have asked if they like skinny or big women and every guy told me they like big women because skinny girls are to boney.

I am on the big side and my husband wouldn't have me any other way... he says that when he holds me there is more to hold on to. If the guys you are dating are leaving because of your weight then you don't need them. Mr. Right will come along someday soon, when you least expect it.

To be brutally honest, most guys do not approach you because you are big. Men and women are naturally not attracted to overweight beings. I know this, because I've been overweight my whole life. That's why you see bigger people dating other bigger people, because they understand and just deal with what they're given. Sometimes you have to kick physical attractiveness out the door and just settle for personality alone. Trust me, I hate this fact too, but it's truth. [I]however[I], some people really do not care about that. All people do care about hygiene, clothing, and just the basic essentials that get you through the day without looking like a distant cousin of gizmo the gremlin. So, if you take care of yourself and let your personality shine through, you'll find that one amazing person. You just have to.

True. But here is more truth- most men are shallow.

Well it will keep you from dating and perhaps living a few years with some jerk that only went out with you because you were the cheer leader or because you were a size 4.

You don't need jerks like that. But there are some men who like heavy women, there are men that big chest, men that like long legs, men that like hairly legs, and so on.

Often if and when we don't think good of ourself, we give that impression to others, which is what really turns people off. I knew heavy women, 300 lb plus who never went a weekend alone.

As pretty much everyone seems to agree, a man worth having would not let your weight interfere. Now, on the flip side, your attitude about yourself COULD be what is turning guys off. If you are not happy with who you are you will send that message out to men. Concentrate on making yourself happy with YOU and I think the rest will fall into place.

Hugs, Didi

my dads diabetic.

So is my brother. That's how I know its not easy for some people to lose weight. Besides, no one should be judged by their looks anyway. Saying she would look good if she lost weight is wrong because everyone is beautiful in their own way no matter how big or small. :)

Hello Opal

In the last few years full sized Ladies are more wanted then the skinny fake looking Ladies. The main problem full figured Ladies have is they don't feel sexy so they don't act or give off the positive sexy image. That doesn't mean dressing like a hooker hehehe. You have to get a Mans attention before he can talk to you and what one thing gets a real Mans attention... A Lady that looks happy with herself. Ok OK a big chest helps hehehe just kidding, A real man will see a smile before he sees anything else.

So hold your head high and know you're a special lady and any Man that gets a chance to talk to you is truly a lucky man.

Dennis777

I was huge at a younger age.. I got like no attention at all.. then I went to the gym.. and well.. now I only ever get attention.. only problem is I don't know how to handel it ;z

Some people do like bigger women.. we all have our typs.. but mostly I would say guys are very shallow

Well it will keep you from dating and perhaps living a few years with some jerk that only went out with you because you were the cheer leader or because you were a size 4.

You don't need jerks like that. But there are some men who like heavy women, there are men that big chest, men that like long legs, men that like hairly legs, and so on.

Often if and when we don't think good of ourself, we give that impression to others, which is what really turns people off. I knew heavy women, 300 lb plus who never went a weekend alone.
Lol, are there really guys who like hairy legs? :o that actually makes me feel a bit better, lol:rolleyes: not that I have anything against hairy legs, give me a week or two and I really shouldn't talk, lol:D

There are some men who like skinny girl and some who like them bigger, and as you leave the semi-immature college life, you will find that mens tastes are as varied as the females. So put it aside about the outside, and make sure the inside is healthy and happy, that's what really counts.

There are some men who like skinny girl and some who like them bigger, and as you leave the semi-immature college life, you will find that mens tastes are as varied as the females. So put it aside about the outside, and make sure the inside is healthy and happy, that's what really counts.
Exactly, I can't spread you any reputation at this moment, Tal.
The college life is semi-immature, most guys like skinny, tanned and "easy" girls be frankly with you. It doesn't mean all the men are like that! Well, just go to Wal Mart, u'll find guys looking at you. There is another thing->the guys you like problly are interested in you, but there are guys you are not interested in and they do like you. Pay attention to the guys around you,there could be someone, unless you have extremely high standard( I am not like) which is understandable, when we are young we all do!:)

Well I have always been on the chubby side and my sister has always been on the skinny pretty boy magnet side. And all my life she told me how fat I was and that I would never get a boyfriend and she had a new boyfriend all the time. And I always thought my weight was an issue but I find it hard to do anything about it. But a year and a half ago a guy that I have known for a long time asked me out and we have been together for a year and a half now and he is the best thing ever my weight doesn't bother him at all he says he likes it. And my sister has a boyfriend that loves her for her looks and he has told her that he will never let her get fat... and that's not true love... but my boyfriend loves me just the way I am and I know you will find someone no doubt in my mind you just won't get a jerk like most girls.:)

well I have always been on the chubby side and my sister has always been on the skinny pretty boy magnet side. and all my life she told me how fat I was and that I would never get a boyfriend and she had a new boyfriend all the time. and I always thought my weight was an issue but I find it hard to do anything about it. but a year and a half ago a guy that I have known for a long time asked me out and we have been together for a year and a half now and he is the best thing ever my weight doesnt bother him at all he says he likes it. and my sister has a boyfriend that loves her for her looks and he has told her that he will never let her get fat...and thats not true love...but my boyfriend loves me just the way I am and I know you will find someone no doubt in my mind you just wont get a jerk like most girls.:)

Right! The right one( not a jerk) will love the way you are. :)
Thanks for sharing another story with us!:)

There are guys that don't care about your weight. The way I see it being self consience is holding you back. Personality comes before anything else. Personality makes people more attractive. So put yourself out there and you'll find the right guy, guys love confidence. As long as you think you're beautiful and attractive then other people will too. I don't think it has anything to do with your weight. You CAN be overweight and sexy at the same time. Society's image of beautiful, I hate it.

All I need to say is as of follows:

Only a dog wants a bone

Im a girl in college, and i haven't been a relationship for a really long time. Ive been on a few dates, but i think that there's something turns the guys off. Ive always been told that im a really beautiful girl and that i have a great personality, just that im kind of on the big side. My mom calls it statuesque...i call it fat..and people tell me im just a bit chubby:confused: Could my weight be getting in the way of me finding a nice guy? are there really men who find big women attractive, or are they just saying that so that we dont feel bad?

There are all types of men out there, some like petite women, some like skeletal looking women, some like curvaceous women, some like bbw, it all depends on the particular guy, same goes for women.

I don't really like big chicks, but there are a lot of dudes that love them. My homeboy is a is built like a male model, and he loves fat chick, not big, not thick, but fat, I mean really big. So you being slightly big is not really a factor. You just have to take that big belly and make is sexy. Men love confidence, be sure of your beauty, and the dudes will come.

he loves fat chick, not big, not thick, but fat, I mean really big. So you being slightly big is not really a factor. You just have to take that big belly and make is sexy.
LOL, what is the difference fat, big and thick? Show me on a chart like which comes first(from smallest to largest) okay?
I see what you mean, good point by the way.;)

There are men that find big women attractive. I seriously doubt that it has anything to do with your weight. Perhaps you come off as a little too desperate or needy. That'll be a lot more of a turnoff than your weight.

I have been attracted to bigger women before, in fact my ex who I loved to pieces was overweight but it didn't matter to me AT ALL. Personality goes a long way and I would go for a caring, sincere women any day of the week over some shallow conceited woman.

Funny thing is though, the very thing that attracted me to her, she actually let me down on in the end by changing but that sometimes happens. A lot of bigger women are actually quite sexy, especially if they give off a vibe that they feel sexy, that's another thing that attracted me to my ex, she felt sexy and it made me feel she was sexy, which to me I still think she probably is.

It doesn't have anything to do with your weight. Confidence and personality go a long way.

I have found in the past and actually present that the skinnier women (NOT ALL) who basically think they are God's gift to men (excuse the reference) are so conceited and very shallow. They think that you must basically meet certain criteria, meet their distorted ecpectations, you must qualify. What c**p!!

I actually turn my back on women like this as I consider myself to be highly perceptive of people so I don't give women like this the chance to brush me off.

Now this is not to say that fat or big women are just easy because this is not strictly true. I think it is partly true that some men go for the big woman because it seems like less of a challenge to either pull them or keep them. These types of men are the b**tards that women like this should avoid anyway. Now back to what I said about it not being strictly true about big women being easy. I don't believe that they are all easy and in fact a lot of them may be so uneasy about how they feel they appear to be in the eyes of others, that it becomes difficult to make them believe that you are attracted to them physically when quite often you are. Like I said, I have been attracted to bigger women before and the ones that I have been have been surprised and wonder what I saw in them physically. Quite often, they were much more attractive than they thought they were and were suffering from extremely low self-esteem where it came to their perceived idea of what they thought they looked like.

Oh... and what I have said so far, that is not to say that I and any other men would not be attracted to a slim women too because attraction works on multuiple levels and as I have already said, it has a lot to do with personality and that is no lie, it is a fact.

So all you slim, skinny women, please don't be offended by what I said above because I have been stuck on one of your type in the past.

To answer the original question in one line.

Some men like big women, some don't, some like both.

Different men are attracted to different women. That being said, usually college-age men are attracted to the women who they think will put out. A guy friend told me this years ago, and it's probably still true.

Different men are attracted to different women. That being said, usually college-age men are attracted to the women who they think will put out. A guy friend told me this years ago, and it's probably still true.

Just a question.. What does put out mean?

I've surprisingly not come across that term before. I think I have an idea of what it may mean.

Just a question..What does put out mean?

I've surprisingly not come across that term before. I think I have an idea of what it may mean.
Put out means willing to sleep with the guys. I didn't know this term before as well.u can Google it.

Put out means willing to sleep with the guys. I didn't know this term before as well.u can google it.


Oh right, that's what I thought it meant but didn't want to say in case I got it wrong.

Well, I'm not of college age anymore but I have been there and I think he is right in a way. That's down to immaturity though... but then, college age folks are entitled to be that way because they are still growing emotionally and physically.

You should never use people though.

Sometimes I think that getting hurt in the past helped me in a way to grow faster, to mould who I am, that said, I think I would always have been one of the good guys (trying not to sound like I'm blowing my own trumpet :o but not trying too hard I guess :confused: ).

I do believe that life experiences can mould a personality either for the better or for the worse.

I also believe that karma has it's part to play.

Just my opinion.

To be brutally honest though, I do think that SOME men think that bigger women are more willing to put out as you put it. I have seen this before when I would overhear t**ts in pubs see a bigger woman and say something like "we're in tonight mate, theres some easy meat for us" and I am not kidding either, in fact I have seen this a lot. Its always the b**stards as well who think like that. The truth is, these people have no respect for women at all. All women should be treated equally regardless of their size and one should not assume they are easy just because of their size. How shallow is that?

That's why I think women like yourself should value yourself and turn your back on the bad eggs I speak of.

Well, I'm not of college age anymore but I have been there and I think he is right in a way. Thats down to immaturity though....but then, college age folks are entitled to be that way because they are still growing emotionally and physically.

You should never use people though.

Sometimes I think that getting hurt in the past helped me in a way to grow faster, to mould who I am, that said, I think I would always have been one of the good guys (trying not to sound like I'm blowing my own trumpet :o but not trying too hard I guess :confused: ).

I do believe that life experiences can mould a personality either for the better or for the worse.

I also believe that karma has it's part to play.

Just my opinion.

I agree.
I can't spread more reputation to you at this moment. "Karma has it's part to play""never use ppl" those are years of experience and wisdom.:)

If your not obese or in an unhealthy size than your fine. Guys actually look more in a woman's confidence. I used to be very unconfident with myself. For the smallest reasons but than I started seeing myself as normal and actually cute, and now I have been asked out by two different guys within 3 weeks. Which isn't too shabby, you just need 2 hold your hed up high and be yourself, and flaunt what you got. And also curves are better then being lanky. Look at oprah, queen latifah, and other women like that. They're HOT. And that's because they're confident, all you have to be is confident and clean up nice.

I hope I helped

As a woman u need to learn love your body - Fall in love with your own body. Never make negative comments about your body and point out your faults to a man. If your body is not up to speed, keep quiet and just start working out. Men hate to hear you drone on about your body. It is a horrible turn off and then they will start noticing all the flaws you point out.

Go overboard to look absolutely fantastic every day, making the very most of what you have with clothing, smelling good.Stand up tall.

I used to be chubby when I was younger, I have grown out with it, as I said-be a woman u need to love your body!

Men may say that they like big women but honestly its because they are big themselves or they are lying. Men like big girls as friends. I myself have never seen a big girl with a cute/ or even remotely skinny guy let alone one at all. But don't give up I mean big girls can go small. I love big peoples more to love lol I absolutely love zac efron haha he was on jay leno!

Men may say that they like big women but honestly its because they are big themselves or they are lying. men like big girls as friends. i myself have never seen a big girl with a cute/ or even remotely skinny guy let alone one at all. but dont give up i mean big girls can go small. i love big peoples more to love lol i absolutely love zac efron haha he was on jay leno!

Well, about you never seeing a skinny guy with a big girl.. my ex was reallly skinny, and he was super tall (god I miss him). I broke up with him because he was being a jerk, but after I did he was heartbroken, and to be honest I regretted it after. My impression was that he was the only guy who would be ever interested in a girl like me, but I've read through some of everyone's advice that was given to me, and its been helping. Ive seen a lot of guys who are interested in me, but honestly I haven't found any interest in them. So I guess its going to be a meeting of the minds kind of thing.

I'll tell you two of my girlfriends are plus-sized ladies both of them think they are FIERCE. They work it everywhere they go all day every day. They dress so cute and always look beautiful. They love themselves and they pull WAY more guys then any of us. Both of them are always going out on dates, always with a new guy in their life, always getting hit on.

But its like everyone said its about how you feel about YOU. I happen to believe that if you think you are a smokin hot that most people will agree because when you carry yourself with loads of confidence people can't help but find you attractive.

Right, I agree with Glinda!
As a woman, we suffer too much from comparing ourselves others.
As a woman, love yourself please!:)

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