My fiancé loves porn.. but he isn't some sex crazed psycho...

I would have never even known he loved it so much if I hadn't come across several sites of his on my own a few years ago. When I confronted him about it he admitted that he has an obsession with the "woman body" and it really hurt me. I have been trying so hard to just forget about it, and as MUCH as I bring it up to him.. he just gets frustrated because I accuse him of looking at it all the time. What else am I supposed to think!

I've tried everything. And I wouldn't be so frustrated if I slacked in the bedroom.. but honestly, I am the kinkiest girl and am SO expiremental and he knows that. I guess I'm not enough for him. :(

I know porn is sexually stimulating, I enjoy it too.. but with him. Why does he have to keep it from me and lie. Now all I do is worry about whether he is looking at it while I am at work.

I want him to save sex for me, not his hand! Should I worry so much about something like this? Could this lead him to wanting to cheat on me? Is it as dirty and disgusting as women make it seem to be?

I just can't help but feel like he is cheating on my with the computer! I have new hate for our internet and it drives me crazy... any suggestions? This worry is mind consuming.

Listen... guys since the dawn of time get through their urges with their hand... Porn has been around for thousands of years, its just easier to get with the internet. Porn is just that... porn. Its NOT like he's chatting with other women having cybersex or anything. Therefor since he is not interacting with other people on this its NOT cheating. I can safely say since I have been married for years Rosie doesn't make her visits as its not needed. Until you are and are there every day then don't expect total abstenance.

I would say that it IS okay too worry that much.

My boyfriend use to have whole collections of pron videos and what made it even worse is they were all Asian Porn videos and all his ex's were Asian and I'm white/italian it was very insulting to me and like you I wanted to save sex for me and him.

I couldn't understand why he needed porn when he had me you can't touch a porn or feel a porn and there I was live and in person waiting to be his "little personal porn star" (so to speak) I didn't know what to do because when I asked him about it he always put it off using lines like "I'm a guy. Guys watch porn." "I like to get ideas from porn" etc etc

Finally, just a few months ago, I told him that I wanted the porn out of his room and out of his house at first he laughed and then he was like "Are you kidding?"

I was honest with him and told him "It might not be a big deal to you, and you might not care, but I do. If you love me the way you say you do and you care about what I think you'll get rid of them.... Please do this ONE thing for me....?" The only request he had is that I throw them out when he wasn't home and since then our relationship in and out for bed has been better.

If he loves you, and if this is the guy you're going to marry then he should be willing to give up the porn for you, if not for himself.

I must admit I do like the porn/shopping similarity. When do women feel a need to shop so much? I bet the answers would similar to what the guy would say about porn.

Actually, I DON'T like shopping. At all!

I agree with Smoothy. Porn in moderate doses is nothing to worry about. If your guy has a complete obsession with Porn and as result doesn't want you then that would be considered a problem.
Blokes being blokes are naturally interested in various different women and porn along with the internet allow guys to visually satisfy an urge they may take to a different level if it were not there. However it is a more realistic assumption that it is just an easy way to get off without any effort! It's not a reflection on you or your sexual abilities it's just a natural curiosity that at least 95% of the male population has.

Hello.

Relax, as you said your fantastic in bed and meet all his needs in and out of bed. You're a special Lady and I'm sure he knows it and shows you how much he cares all the time.

Porn can be positive if you let it. If looking at porn gets him going then let him get excited then take advantage of it. We all do things to open our fantasy world, some people use porn male and female. Some shop and try on sexy dresses thinking about all the attention it would give them. Some Ladies go braless or pantieless to feel sexy. Its all fantastic as long as you end up together and make each other feel special.

Have fun
Dennis777