Hi all,

I have just met another woman and have just started seeing her casually. I took the advice of other and tried to move on from the previous relationship and go out and enjoy myself. I have been doing this but sometimes it can be tough. Time has definitely healed some wounds and I have stuck by the no contact policy.

The thing is I've been seeing this woman for only a week, and she text me saying that she feels she has known me for a long time, feels very comfortable with me and likes me. Anyone would think this is a good thing but I feel more confused than ever.

This was exactly how the last person spoke to me. My ex said these things but she always said there was no connection between us, which makes me think is this happening again.

When I'm with women I just be myself, I talk away and at moments I am affectionate. People seem to get on with me really well which must be a good thing.

What I am asking is, with this comment from her does that signal she HAS HAD a connection with me or am I regarded as more of a friend. I don't really understand when someone likes you more than just a friend, and obviously the girl before has confused me as to whether I am reading the signal correct.

My friends feel I am being paranoid and that it is a good thing. They also say its obvious this woman genuinely likes me.

Can anyone help me with this, all suggestions welcome??

Go slow and take your time and get to know some one before you throw your heart in the ring. Your confusion at this point may signal you may not be ready for another relationship at this point, but keep things at your pace. You still carry bagage from the ex. Dating and hanging out may be fine, but it takes time to know the difference between love and lust, or just fighting loneliness.

Go slow and take your time and get to know some one before you throw your heart in the ring. Your confusion at this point may signal you may not be ready for another relationship at this point, but keep things at your pace. You still carry bagage from the ex. Dating and hanging out may be fine, but it takes time to know the difference between love and lust, or just fighting loneliness.


I agree and I would definitely take it slow. Its really her words that are scaring me, she said she feels she has known me for a long time and feels comfortable with me, does that mean she has felt a connection?? For some reason I feel myself looking at this in a negative way because of the previous girl saying this.

Am I just being paranoid??

Yes you are being paranoid and not at all ready for a new relationship if you are still comparing her to your ex,

Go take time alone and find your own happiness.

yes you are being paranoid and not at all ready for a new relationship if you are still comparing her to your ex,

Go take time alone and find your own happiness.


I don't compare in any other way its just I've heard that comment before about feeling they have known me for ages, I just wonder if this is a good thing and really should take this as a compliment that someone feels a so called bond with me, if that makes any sense?

Yes of course it's a compliment if someone says they feel like they have known you for a long time and feel a bond with you.

Take things slow and keep getting to know her as a friend and see what kind of person she is.