I need some more honest answers and thank you lenova for your first answer, I have added more info after Lenova answered for this post.

I am interested in a girl at work and I come across her everyday during lunch time. It looks that she has interest towards me, and last week I asked her would you like to go out for coffee sometime, and she answered me "I don't know". I in reply not knowing what to say, replied to her "Let me know" and walked away. As, I was walking she called me and said Thank you "Myname". I told her you are welcome! I wanted to ask you long back, but I thought this was the time.

After this, we still see each other and we talk, but I have never opened up to her again about asking her out as I am not sure what she is going on in her mind so wanted to give her time. This week, we talked couple of times for a short while and she understands that when there are lots of customers she would not talk, neither do I and when she isn't busy then if I have to go there, then we will talk for sometime.

I am a shy person, I can talk to someone on the phone or online or once I get to know the person well. I will talk anything and everything. But, until I know the person I have the starter problem. Even though I am a grown up guy who is divorced and has kids. Used to be very friendly, talkative, humourous and used to joke often. But, after a bitter divorce and hurt relationships which was not sincere from the women's end, I kind of became bitter and hard on myself. Its only now after 5 years, I am getting out of my shell and wanting to try something new. She seems to be a young women in her 20s. So, I am kind of wondering, whether this would work out, or is it fair for me to go ahead even proceeding to ask her out the second time.

Then, this week when she was kind of trying to take the card from my hand to swipe, she kind touched me and I thought it was kind of a sign too and I am not sure sure whether this is a sign that she is interested? Next, before leaving for the weekend, I went to get a cup of coffee, she was sitting on one of the tables facing towards me as I was walking. I went and picked up the coffee and then she walked to the counter to collect the money. I paid her and asked her what are you "Day Dreaming"? She said, no I am not well having flue from yesterday. Then I asked her did you take medication, and then said take care and told her have a nice weekend. She turned and said, I am working this weekend. I just shook my head like as if I was feeling sorry for her that she had to work and walked away.

I am a foreigner and she is white. So, I am not sure whether she is thinking about all that. She has always spoken to me nice, she has served me well and I really like her, I at least want to start knowing her better.

Also, one day she asked me whether we sell old computers in our dept, I said "Yes", then she said, my colleague wants to know whether it is available? Can you check out and give her a call. Her extension is XXXX. I said, OK. This was the time, I asked her out for coffee (which was my first sentence in this post). I started like this after she gave me the extension number. I wanted to ask you something? She asked what? I said, "Would you like to go out for coffee sometime?" That's when like a shock for her she said "I don't know"...


I think a women can understand what a women is thinking, so any women or men please help me out.

Thanks guys and gals in advance! I want to make sure that I ask her out this week hopefully again after seeing your answers.

Dude, I say go for it, but when you aske her out a second time, don't make it sound like your in a hurry to start dating again.

You have nothing to lose. Ask her! :)

Didi

First off: white girls usually have nothing against foreigners. In fact most American (EDIT) girls are quite welcoming of men from around the world. Except if you're Mexican: I speak from experience. Blah.

Anyway, just ask her out again. Be casual, smile and say, "Hey, changed your mind about that coffee yet?" Or "you look like the kind of girl who needs me to take her out to coffee. Just don't get any sugar with it, I don't want to hear customer complaints about you bouncing off the walls."

I personally like to be casual because it takes the pressure off. Otherwise it sounds like a "date," and that seems to be out of style these days. That's my advice.

Once again, YES, you should ask her out again!

Don't give up so easily on what you really want! :)

First off: white girls usually have nothing against foreigners. In fact most American women are quite welcoming of men from around the world. Except if you're Mexican: I speak from experience. Blah.

Nothing against Mexicans!

Foreigner or not, that's not what REALLY matters!

Thanks Huno and Kritynn. Nope, I am not Mexican. Anyway, I will, ask her out again and see what she has got to say. I think , she is concerned about the company sexual harassment policy or what will happen. But, if two people like what is the company going to say? We are not in the same dept. We are different departments.

Let's see whether god has any plans. I can only try.

What about getting her number and asking her out outside of your workplace?

There's nothing wrong with asking her out on the phone. Just make it casual... NO big, official date.

Hahaha... well you're in good shape, nis66. :)

Anyway, trust me--it's not the sexual harassment thing. I used to be afraid of that, then I noticed every female co-worker I've ever known hasn't had a problem with office dating, so long as it isn't ACTUAL sexual harassment. People really don't think about that so much as the media would have you believe. Just make sure you keep it PG-13. In short, GO FOR IT.

Incidentally, I should take back what I said. American girls don't seem to like me. But I attract a disproportionate number of American WOMEN. They say it's my eyes. :)

Just to have a little laugh, she did not turn up today! She was working during the weekend, so she took off today I think. Hahahaha, I am laughing at myself. What a Punk I am ? :)

Go ahead for it. It sounds like she is also interested in you. However, take the question slow this time. Try not to make it sound like your desperate and in a hurry to be with her. Maybe you could start being good friends. I find that this always helps, because that way you both have full trust and respect between each other.