My girlfriend has this fantasy of her getting raped. And the problem is that she want it very very forcefully. Now I got no problem about holding her down and ripping her clothes off. The problem is that she want me to hit her. Now I am a big guy and I do like to hit things, but I could never hit my girlfriend (or any girl in fact). And when we try 2 do it. She get angry at me for not slapping her , etc.. Anyway what the problem here?

Don't do something you aren't comfortable doing... and I assume you are talking about your 15 year old girlfriend, and you are 18? I wouldn't be messing with a rape fantacy period just because of that. I know you two are only 3 years apart, but the law for many states say that is illegal. Although you'd have to check because in some states, as long as you are within X amount of years apart, it is legal... if I remember correctly but I may be wrong.

Yea don't worry she now 16

The odds are quite good that she is from a troubled background. And may be seeking pleasure in the only way she knows...

Troubled childhoods that involve: alcoholism, drugs, dysfunctional family units, divorce, abuse... etc. can - among other things - yield this sort of "desire" - Do her parents have good jobs? Are they well educated? Are they married happily? My guess is she needs help and the pleasure she seeks through you is a small piece of a complicated puzzle. If your family was at all the same she may think you can relate - or perhaps yours was different - Be careful - Go slow. She may need counsling soon. If her grades are not good, and her self-esteem is this low now, her prospect for a career and sane life are already limited... lots to think about I know. Good luck.

Are you sure this is not your fantasy?

Well when her family sees the bruise, and she gets scared and says you raped her, I am sure your new room mate named BUBBA, in the state bed and breakfeast will also have a similar fantasy.

First I did not read all of your posts, but 16 is still not legal in many places. But while there are people who get into all sorts and levels of pain and abuse, this is not the norm.

Are you sure this is not your fantasy?

Well yea the holding her down part.. but beating her. There no way I will do that. I just trying to find a way to convince her to not hit her, but another way.(btw she ruled out spanking)

(btw she ruled out spanking)

Why do you think she did that? Strange how that is the one place where marks can't be misconstrued as beating.

She is definitely from some sort of troubled background. Maybe she has been raped before... or maybe she wants to be the girl that has been raped. With way, stay out of it. If you hit her, you will go to jail. Maybe because she will turn on you or maybe her parents... or maybe just the D.A. (who in most states don't need anyone to try to convict on that).

Don't do it.. even if it means that she will break up with you. You don't want that mess in your life. If you go to jail over beating a girl or especially rape?? You have no idea what you are in for!

Lol woo.. OK I guess...

Actually, this is one of the most common fantasies, especially in women. And it doesn't mean she's been abused or anything, quite the opposite, this fantasy is often indicative of unfulfilled sexual desires that people repress because of the society's norms or their own inhibition.

In any case, if you're not comfortable doing it, then don't. This is tricky stuff and you have to be a little more experienced and mature, and dig this role-playing thing. Many guys are simply not into it.

They often say that some fantasies better remain just that, fantasies. They sometimes result dissapointing and damaging when acted out. What about yr girlfriend? It might all be hot and awsome in her imagination, but in real life she might freak out and get some sort of trauma. (after all, she is young and relatively inexperienced).

So, if you're absolutely not into it, just leave it. If you're curious but shy/unsure, take it slowly, after all it's not so much about hitting as it is about domination. Try other situations.