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Jessyfay
Jun 3, 2007, 01:17 AM
It has come down to this.

I don't want to get rid of my dog, but my boyfriend hate him and told me the dog leaves or he leaves. Hmmm what would you do?

PS. I'm not going to get rid of my dog... could you?

JoeCanada76
Jun 3, 2007, 01:19 AM
I would say that if you always had your dog the jack a-- has no right to tell you anything.

Does not sound like he has a loving personality. If he can not love an animal, How the hell is he going to be able to show love to you or others.

JOE

DocWill
Jun 3, 2007, 01:40 AM
I have never had a boyfriend, so its hard to say in your case. But I had that same thing said to me from my wife. So being the big tuff guy that I am I cryed and called my mum. I had to tell her how successful my relationship is. She said listin up you sissy, remember the time we drove back from Brissy and stopped for fuel. You saw a dead magpie and brought um back to the car and said mum pop the boot I need me book bag. The boot opens, I get out my glue to put the dead magpies leg and wing back on. ( I was 6years old) She said being that type of person is bloody mad and waist of glue, but boy there is something about you and animals. I knew way back then you would always care for them and too bad you married a woman and not a Bit***. You were always better with dogs. So I have been single ever since. I am a good Vet, just ask me. I am no person to help you with relationships. So get rid of him the dog probably kisses better anyway. When he leaves make sure to remind him you are a one dog home anyway. Lol
TRUE STORY

bassy_1992
Jun 3, 2007, 03:21 AM
Get rid of the man

ordinaryguy
Jun 3, 2007, 04:28 AM
The dog loves you more and is a better conversationalist. It's a no-brainer.

Ladyviper
Jun 3, 2007, 05:05 AM
I agree with everyone here, and of course want to add my 2 cents. I think your boyfriend is jealous 'cause the dog can lick his own butt.

Oh, and someone that truly cares about you would never ask you to rid yourself of the things that make you happy.

RubyPitbull
Jun 3, 2007, 05:12 AM
No, Jessy I couldn't get rid of my dog. The guy would get kicked to the curb the moment he started complaining about my dog. If he can't accept all the aspects of my lifestyle, he ain't worth my time. Men may come and go, but a dog will always love you for you and doesn't try to pick an argument over stupid crap or play head games with you. A dog is happy with whatever food you serve, and doesn't have to be asked to cuddle with you. Without a dog, who do you blame the silent but deadly smelling farts on when you have company over for dinner?

I don't know how long you have been seeing this man, but, if you had the dog prior to the relationship with the guy, for him to ask you to get rid of the dog is very controlling behavior. What else will he expect from you down the road?

danielnoahsmommy
Jun 3, 2007, 05:23 AM
Answer these questions.

1) who will be excited to see you every time you come home?
2) who is always in the mood for a nice walk in the park?
3) who always does what you want and never talks back?
4) who will always cuddle with you even when you are the ?
5) who will love you when you look like crap?
6) who will love you till the day he dies?

I know who would so that is whom I would choose?

If you can find a man to do that , you better marry quick or I'll take hin!!

shygrneyzs
Jun 3, 2007, 06:03 AM
Keep the dog, send the boyfriend to the curb. A good dog is very hard to find.

labman
Jun 3, 2007, 06:13 AM
Nobody has discussed making and keeping commitments. Getting a dog is a 10-20 year commitment. Getting a boyfriend can be a far longer commitment. There is untold misery in this world due to people that don't keep their commitments. If he doesn't see your commitment to the dog, what sort of commitment will he have for you?

It may be too soon for you to be looking at 50-70 year commitments to a boy friend. I know they are much less common these days, but I think life was much better when it was the norm. Keep the dog until it dies. Look for a boy friend that you can do the same with.

Dr. Kevorkian is out. Maybe we can show the same mercy to people again, that we do to dogs.

Note, watch yourself, Ordinary guy, I got a reddie here for suggesting spaying a dog was a no brainer.

jtom4
Jun 3, 2007, 07:54 AM
It has come down to this.

I don't want to get rid of my dog, but my boyfriend hate him and told me the dog leaves or he leaves. Hmmm what would you do?

PS. I'm not going to get rid of my dog.....could you?
I too vote for the dog. Plenty of dog loving "fish" in the sea. There is one out there for you. Keep looking.

honey2700
Jun 3, 2007, 09:50 AM
Don't let him tell you what to do. Tell him he better get moving because the dog stays and there's no room for 2 dogs in your house. If you do this he will run your life for the rest of the time your with him

Chicklet
Jun 3, 2007, 10:47 AM
My sister had a Chihuahua, When she got married, It use to sleep with her and everything.
He told her flat out, to get rid of the damn Dog or he would leave, Well she cried and Cried,
(If someone truly loves you, for you, then he should love everything about you (past & present) after all, it is the accumulation of all these things that has made you the person you are, The Dog was a part of you when he married you.
However I will warn you of trying to keep a Loved Dog and a Dog hater together.
It didn't turn out well with my sister.
He husband threw this tiny chihuahua out in the barn to fend for itself. A few days after being moved to the Barn the Dog was found by my sister Deathly ill,
He husband refused her access to the vehicles to take it to the vets,
She called my mum, Who came got her & the Dog. (Much to her husbands disapproval)
The vet upon seeing the Dog, Stated flat out, that hands had to do to this dog, what had been done, A hugh spike was driven through the roof of it's throat up through the head. (he "her husband" figured she'd never see what he did and just find the dog dead. Anyway, to put a long story short, his undying love for my sister ended in yrs of terror and torment, Having been shot at in the mix as well.

DON'T marry anyone who doesn't respect your desires, joys, wants and needs,
He's selfish, controlling and not worth the time of day. (he ain't worth the risk).
Your dog will always love you no matter what,
There is many Dog/animal lovers out there, Find one worthy and put this trush where he belongs, The GARBAGE!

Lenovo
Jun 3, 2007, 10:49 AM
Dump the guy, a dog will eat anything you cook, even if overcooked or under cooked

Lenovo
Jun 3, 2007, 10:49 AM
And a dog won't leave the toilet seat up

ordinaryguy
Jun 3, 2007, 11:04 AM
I think your boyfriend is jealous 'cause the dog can lick his own butt.
ROFLMAO!!

labman
Jun 3, 2007, 11:23 AM
Yes, but if you leave the lid up, the dog will drink out of it. I am having trouble training my wife to put the lid down.

Rockabilly1955mama
Jun 3, 2007, 11:24 AM
Honey, get rid of that man!

Keep the dog.

labman
Jun 3, 2007, 01:31 PM
Anybody remember another thread where so many people all agreed on the same thing?

mrsjohnson
Jun 3, 2007, 06:38 PM
Keep the dog lose the guy

DocWill
Jun 3, 2007, 06:42 PM
Yeah labman I do, but that was about food, this is much better.

Jessyfay
Jun 4, 2007, 06:16 PM
Thanks for all the support :)

Yes we have been together for 5 years and I recently got my dog about a year ago. He is a "cat person" I am an animal person I love all animals, I'm a vegitarian for pete's sake.
Anyway... Yes he hates my dog to the point where if my dog does something that pisses him off, like getting into the garbage when I'm not home. He'll beat the poor guy up. I've seen him choke my dog because my dog made an accident in our home.
His cats have peed on my dirty laundry sometimes and I never got angry.
I don't understand why he doesn't accept my dog as part of me.

What really bothers me is that he yells and calls my dog horrible names, my dog is so terrified that he submissive pees and than he kicks him for peeing in the house. He's building a fear in my dog from all men. I'm scared that I'm going to come home and find him dead.

I don't know what to do. I want to leave, but we have a daughter together and I love him still.
I just wish there was a way for him to accept my dog. I'm putting my dog in obiedince boarding school for a week and hope it will grow his self esteem and build confindence. Hopfully when he sees my dog as a good well behave dog like I do than he'll accept him.

Jessyfay
Jun 4, 2007, 06:19 PM
I think my dog on some level doesn't like him because when were out of the house and he didn't put him in his kennel. He has only pooed and peed and chewed his stuff. He's peed on his pilliow when he was a pup, Pooped in his car, never in mine. And pooped in his shoes. I think it's amusing, that's revenge for yah. :)

J_9
Jun 4, 2007, 06:21 PM
This is a total no brainer...

Dogs are loyal

This male is not

Keep the dog, he's so cute anyway, he may just find you a REAL man!!

RubyPitbull
Jun 4, 2007, 06:53 PM
Does your boyfriend do this to either you or your daughter? Is he verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive with you at all? If he is, you need to get yourself, your daughter, and your dog, out of that house. Now.

If, for whatever reason you can't leave, you need to find another home for your dog. Please Jessyfay. It is not normal behavior for a person to choke or kick a little tiny dog. You know this. You also know that what he is doing is illegal.

Jessy, this just doesn't make sense to me. Here on this website you beat people up verbally & defend the rights of all animals here. That dog is so small, tiny, and helpless. I don't understand how can you let this happen Jessy. It is very important for you to understand that if you are afraid that you will find him dead one day, then I can guarantee you that, if you don't get him out of that house, you will. I see this stuff all the time. People don't believe it can happen to them. Isn't this making your heart break for him Jessy? It is making mine break. You do work with rescues Jessy. You know that what your boyfriend is doing is illegal. Put yourself in the position of being on the outside looking in. What if you came across one of your neighbors doing this to their dog? What would you do? I KNOW that you would call the police or animal control. I KNOW that you would do everything possible to take the dog or cat out of their house. You have seen the result of cats being abused. How can you not see this? Please, please, please, get that poor dog out of that house now! Unless you have decided to split from your boyfriend, find a friend who can take your dog, or surrender him to a shelter. This all explains a lot as to why you have been having so much trouble with your dog. This is not going to get better or disappear on it's own. If your dog dies as a result of your boyfriend's abuse, that is a chargeable offense and the man can go to jail. Please, give this dog a chance at a having a normal life.

labman
Jun 4, 2007, 08:41 PM
This is way beyond dogs where I claim to have a clue. I am thinking of transferring it to relationships or something. What are we 20-0 on dumping him?

MrsLoha
Jun 4, 2007, 09:01 PM
It has come down to this.

I don't want to get rid of my dog, but my boyfriend hate him and told me the dog leaves or he leaves. Hmmm what would you do?

PS. I'm not going to get rid of my dog.....could you?
My Favorite quote of ALL TIME is: "Whoever said you cannot buy love, forgot about puppies" (or dogs) But I do not know who originally said it! Get rid of the boyfriend. Find a REAL MAN! Someone who likes dogs too! Anybody who wants to make you get rid of something/someone you love has the potential to be an abuser! KICK HIM TO THE CURB! And let him know why!

bushg
Jun 4, 2007, 10:46 PM
Jessefay I have been looking at all of your post regarding this little doxie. Please I beg you to please give this dog up it is not right for you or your family. I will try to help you find a rescue group for it. Just maybe you all need cat's maybe you are just cat people. I know in your heart that you are frustrated with the dog , but for this poor little creature do the right thing and find him a home with a rescue that can handle his "problematic" behavior . You rescued him from that horrible pet store, now let someone who is has the experience and time to help him give him a chance . You have done all you can for this dog. Be a hero and give him to a rescue

bushg
Jun 4, 2007, 11:34 PM
Jessefay you need to ask yourself Do I love my boyfriend of 5 years and the father of my child more than I love this dog. Many people will help you find a good place for your dog if you choose your boyfriend. It is up to you to decide, sounds like your boyfriend has already made his mind up, he just can not share his life with this dog.

labman
Jun 5, 2007, 03:21 AM
While it is true you have struggled with the dog, I thought you made progress with it with help from Rubypitbull and I. In my initial post to this thread, I talked about finding a boyfriend you could make a long term commitment to, not realizing you had already been with him 5 years and bore a daughter. You haven't found the right one.

Jessyfay
Jun 5, 2007, 09:42 AM
I'm not giving up my dog, I love him too much and he's my companion, I take him everywhere. He makes me feel whole and happy. My daughter loves him dearly and they play together every day. He helps me find time out of my busy schedule to enjoy life, enjoy my daughter and be happy. The dog is not the problem here, the angry man is.
There is no way I'm letting go of that and even to suggest it tears me up inside. My dog is not only a pet but is my friend.
No my boyfriend doesn't hit me, it's not like that. He just really really really hates my dog. I have made a stand and told him he either learns to tolerate and live with the dog or he's not living with me.
I am currently looking for an apartment as back up.

Bushg - I find you insulting to even suggest to get rid of my dog.

Chicklet
Jun 5, 2007, 09:54 AM
Wow, This is way more then I first read,
I ain't going to beat around this Bush!
Jessyfay your as bad, if not worse then this man you married,

Your CONDONING it by allowing it to continue,
Wheres YOUR BRAIN!
If you gave a chit about this Dog as you so call claim,
You would have got to the poor thing out a long time ago.

Sorry but I don't feel bad for people who sat by and does nothing,
I feel sorry for the innocent victim you refuse to protect!

It's His Life that's going to pay the ultimate price!
You said it yourself, (coming home and finding him dead!)

Stop being greedy & thinking of yourself, think of the VICTIM here!

The same goes for this Topic, You knew you was going to do nothing when you posted it,
You was thinking of yourself, Pity , Pity, poor you,
You never intended on taking any of this advice given,

You won't give your dog up, And you love your man,
Guess the Dog has to pay for mum not having a heart big enough to sacrifice her own hurt in order to save HIS LIFE!

mr.yet
Jun 5, 2007, 10:12 AM
I would get rid of the jerk, I personally have 6 six, and they are all part of the family.

Chicklet
Jun 5, 2007, 10:17 AM
If someone stepped in my house and kicked one of my dogs or whatever else, Husband or not,
It sure as hell wouldn't take me a yr, week, Day or a stupid topic to know what the hell I'd do!

Sorry but I despise people who hurt innocent animals and those that sit by and DO NOTHING to stop it!
*
1 minute more can be 1 minute to late!

Tuscany
Jun 5, 2007, 10:21 AM
Does your boyfriend do this to either you or your daughter? Is he verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive with you at all? If he is, you need to get yourself, your daughter, and your dog, out of that house. Now.

If, for whatever reason you can't leave, you need to find another home for your dog. Please Jessyfay. It is not normal behavior for a person to choke or kick a little tiny dog. You know this. You also know that what he is doing is illegal.

Jessy, this just doesn't make sense to me. Here on this website you beat people up verbally & defend the rights of all animals here. That dog is so small, tiny, and helpless. I don't understand how can you let this happen Jessy. It is very important for you to understand that if you are afraid that you will find him dead one day, then I can guarantee you that, if you don't get him out of that house, you will. I see this stuff all the time. People don't believe it can happen to them. Isn't this making your heart break for him Jessy? It is making mine break. You do work with rescues Jessy. You know that what your boyfriend is doing is illegal. Put yourself in the position of being on the outside looking in. What if you came across one of your neighbors doing this to their dog? What would you do? I KNOW that you would call the police or animal control. I KNOW that you would do everything possible to take the dog or cat out of their house. You have seen the result of cats being abused. How can you not see this? Please, please, please, get that poor dog out of that house now! Unless you have decided to split from your boyfriend, find a friend who can take your dog, or surrender him to a shelter. This all explains a lot as to why you have been having so much trouble with your dog. This is not going to get better or disappear on it's own. If your dog dies as a result of your boyfriend's abuse, that is a chargeable offense and the man can go to jail. Please, give this dog a chance at a having a normal life.

Have to spread the love Ruby. But I completely agree. I would say keep the dog but lose the guy, unless you are not ready to lose the guy. In that case KEEP THE DOG safe!! Dogs are like children, they need protection... protect him. Heck send him my way!

Chicklet
Jun 5, 2007, 02:04 PM
You can't give the Dog to someone else,
I'm not giving up my dog,
But you can let him Die at your husbands hands!
Guess then you'll have no choice but give him up,

CRUEL, CRUEL,
Talk about Cruelty, you take the cake!

bushg
Jun 5, 2007, 03:25 PM
I'm not giving up my dog, I love him to much and he's my companion, I take him everywhere. He makes me feel whole and happy. My daughter loves him dearly and they play together every day. He helps me find time out of my busy schedule to enjoy life, enjoy my daughter and be happy. The dog is not the problem here, the angry man is.
There is no way I'm letting go of that and even to suggest it tears me up inside. My dog is not only a pet but is my friend.
No my bf doesn't hit me, it's not like that. He just really really really hates my dog. I have made a stand and told him he either learns to tolerate and live with the dog or he's not living with me.
I am currently looking for an apartment as back up.

Bushg - I find you insulting to even suggest to get rid of my dog.
Jessefay listen at yourself all you keep saying is what your dog does for you. What do you do for your dog that is what I want to know? You let some man beat him , he peeps and poops out of fear, you let him get choked and kicked and hit and smacked till your afraid that he will end up dead. I repeat what do you do for your dog? Do him a favor and give him to a shelter where they can help him get over some of the abuse that your family has done to him I have a number for you if you will take it. Stop being selfish and do what is right by him.

Ladyviper
Jun 5, 2007, 05:12 PM
Okay, people are getting a little irritated by this post now. How about we lay it out on the table for you.

Animal cruelty is punishable by law, by watching and letting it happen it makes you just as guilty as doing the crime. If you truly care about the dog, you will find a shelter or a family member to take him until you can figure out how to get out. It is best for the dog and your child. You don't want your baby to see a dog beat to death in front of her eyes one day, and you do not want to witness that yourself.

You would not even be asking this question if you did not seek validation for wanting to get out of the relationship. If this man can hurt an animal that you care about, how long will it be before he is laying his hands on you or your child? If he loved you at all, he would not treat your dog that way. I know for a fact, my husband does not particularly care for animals, yet we all peacefully co-exist. He loves me and my children, and now my pets too. He would never hurt them, because that would hurt me.

You act as though the dog is more important than him, yet you watch as this happens to him. You need to get your priorities straight and decide what you want to do, but you need to get the dog out ASAP.

catsandkittensandmittens
Jun 5, 2007, 08:48 PM
Very sweet you mum must be proud.

catsandkittensandmittens
Jun 5, 2007, 09:45 PM
I know that I am new here but you all seem to be awfully hard on this lady. Give her a chance to do what is right. Everybody deserves a chance. I am sure that she protects it the best that she can.

DocWill
Jun 5, 2007, 09:48 PM
Oh mittens all is well, we are just illustrating men are harder pets to keep than dogs usually.

Cheyanne03
Jun 5, 2007, 10:05 PM
It has come down to this.

I don't want to get rid of my dog, but my boyfriend hate him and told me the dog leaves or he leaves. Hmmm what would you do?

PS. I'm not going to get rid of my dog.....could you?
I'd say the Boyfriend would have to go. If he really cared about you he'd make allowances.
I have 3 dogs and my husband said that just a short time ago- so he was told no way would I get rid of my best friends over him.

bushg
Jun 6, 2007, 06:34 AM
Jessfay I have contacted a rescue group in canada and they are willing to take your dog. Sned me a message and I will give you their number and their information. Please do the right thing and learn from this lesson. ( I may be wrong on this but I think your dog will always associate pain and fear around you and your daughter, just because you were around when this abuse started and happened to him/her.) maybe Doc will or some of the dog rescue people on here can discuss that statement further. Do what is right and give it up to rescue so that he can get over some of the trauma. And start fresh with someone he has no fears of. :)peace

RubyPitbull
Jun 6, 2007, 06:43 AM
I am currently looking for an apartment as back up.


This is more than just a good idea. This is exactly the right thing to do. Jessy, when stuff like this happens, the only way to get through to the other person is to physically move out. Until we do, they don't take us seriously. They think we are just making empty threats. Find that apartment ASAP and move out with your daughter and the dog. Since your BF has choked and kicked that poor little thing, and you have no intention of giving the dog up, you need to get your pup out of there immediately. I can only imagine your daughter's heartbreak if anything should happen to that little guy. As it is, I can only imagine how traumatic this entire situation is for her. Her father is teaching her that it is okay to abuse animals. You need to make a huge stand on this to teach her that it is absolutely wrong and you won't tolerate it. I would hate to think what would happen if she walks in the door one day soon and finds the puppy's little lifeless body. Please Jessy, for the sake of your daughter and that dog, move out.

DocWill
Jun 6, 2007, 12:34 PM
Milk bone anyone?

dunno
Jun 6, 2007, 03:27 PM
Maybe your boyfriend should read The Ten Commandments (pet version)

1. My life is likely to last ten to fifteen years. Any separation from you will be painful for me. Remember that before you buy me.

2. Give me time to understand what you want of me.

3. Place your trust in me-it's crucial to my well-being.

4. Don't be angry at me for long and don't lock me up as punishment. You have your work, your entertainment and your friends. I have only you.

5. Talk to me sometimes. Even if I don't understand your words, I understand your voice when its speaking to me.

6. Be aware that however you treat me, I'll never forget it.

7. Remember before you hit me that I have teeth that could easily crush the bones of your hand but that I choose not to bite you.

8. Before you scold me for being uncooperative, obstinate or lazy, ask your self if something might be bothering me.
Perhaps I'm not getting the right food, or I've been out in the sun too long, or my heart is getting old and weak.

9. Take care of me when I get old; you, too, will grow old.

10. Go with me on difficult journeys. Never say, "I can't bear to watch it, or, "Let it happen in my absence."
Everything is easier for me if you are there.
Remember, I love you.

Chicklet
Jun 6, 2007, 03:47 PM
She ain't responding no more,
Cause her pity trip has stopped,
She ain't going to get out, and she ain't going to get the Dog out either,

Things have gotten sticky here now and she's going to back off, or try to tell everyone things are great and all that crap.
Seen these people to many times,
She won't let go of either one till the Dog gets killed.

Waste of time talking here anymore,
Chances are more against that dog then for it, and that's the real Sad part.

MrPippin
Jun 6, 2007, 04:31 PM
It's hard for me to say when it comes to boyfriends, but this guy sounds like a jerk anyway and the faster she leaves him the better.

I did once have a guy looking at a 1982 Datsun 280Z that had been customized with some really slick features. He said he wanted to buy the car, but his girlfriend didn't like it. Now as I was selling cars for a living I did give him some advice on his situation. I reminded him that girl friends were like buses, another one comes by about every 15minutes. But a car like this, comes along once in a life time. I sold the car by the way.