Hi, everybody I just feeling a little depress about a situation I'm in. I meet this married man about 4yrs ago and we started kicking or what ever, he told me he was married and had a child, but him and his wife wasn't getting alone to good. So he stayed there at the him and his wife got for a couple or months then he actually move in with me and my daughter. So from that point him and his wife are separated from each other and I help him with his daughter and everything. Him and his wife have a resort together in FL. And they take the daughter down there for a week for vacation. Is that right for him to do that even though he had that before my time? To me the only contact he has with her (wife) is when he has his daughter as far as I know. Would things get better between us or do you think he might go back to his wife?

He does not belong to you he is a married man, you must accept and respect this no matter what your current relationship is. I personaly would never move a man into my home who is committed to another and not myself.


Until he gets a divorce I would always assume he will go back to his wife and child.

Ever hear the old saying "what goes around comes around" go figure

He has his own apartment to, but I really want to be with this man he is all that I know and he treats me good. I ask him if he is going back to his wife he told me no it want be the same if he do go back. With the resort thing is that cool?

No it's not cool. Get some resepct for yourself girl

You are a fool. He is not treating you good . He belongs to another woman. You will never be number one in his life.

I'm sorry to be harsh with you. But this is the truth.

Hold your head high and walk away from him while you and your daughter have the ability to.

For your daughters sake!! \

Have some self respect.

Keshia, he is legally married to another woman. Unfortunately, that gives you absolutely no rights and you have no say in your relationship with him. Is it cool for him to spend a week with his wife & daughter? Well, legally it is. Emotionally is another matter. He has the best of all possible worlds and, if after 4 years he hasn't divorced her and hasn't made a commitment to you, then I would say that you are getting the short end of the stick. I can see that you are upset and hurt by his doing this. What has he done about your feelings, except to tell you that he won't be leaving you to go back to his wife. He obviously doesn't care about your feelings or else he wouldn't have gone away for a week. Your posting your question here tells me that you don't trust him and you think that he may be sleeping with her. I don't blame you for not trusting him. I wouldn't if I were in your shoes. You need to do some serious thinking here girl. You need to figure out if you are willing to put up with this kind of emotional abuse from him. Because it is apparent that he isn't going to stop what he is doing.

Can I get your email address danielnoahsmommy so I can email u , that way I can talk more to an older person about my situation, if you don't mine. I would thank you a lot.

Keisha if you place your mouse on my name it will tell you to send a private message to me feel free. If it helps you I am a Minister.

Let me see, you got with him while he was still living with his wife, so he left you for her but will not divorce her, just lives with you, but still has his own apartment ( guess he can take his other girl friends there and does not even have to make an excuse for you, only his wife who he is separated from.)

He is doing you about the same basically as he did his wife, *( and what ever made you think he would not)

So as long as you don't mind him sleeping with the babies momma every now and then, and since you were seeing him when he was still with her, I guess you don't.

Keisha is lying bacause she is writing me using anothers name and had the nerve to say that she was someone else and had sex ?'s I told her she would have to right directly to the help desk and ask all questions there. I'm glad I did not give her my personal e-mail info

It seems like all the females in his life let him do whatever he wants so why can't you? I know your not mad that he spends time with his babies mama they are sill married and your just the mistress, so remember your place and its woman #2, and if you make waves he can always get another one and move you to #3, so you better watch it. Maybe if you try harder you can be #1. Sorry to be harsh, but you fell for this BS, so enjoy what you can get.

Amen talaniman! And he knows this

Keisha is lying bacause she is writting me using anothers name and had the nerve to say that she was someone else and had sex ?'s i told her she would have to right directly to the help desk and ask all questions there. I'm glad I did not give her my personal e-mail info

You know, when I first saw her post, I thought it might be a troll. Good you didn't give out any info. It is always best to stay totally hidden until you build up a relationship with someone here.

She tried to get me to talk about sex and she used the name sicily

Did she want to know answers about understanding stuff, or did "she" want to have some good new fashioned keyboard sex talk?

She never got far enough to ask anexact ? She never admitted to being keisha, she claimed she was someone else and she had questions about sex. I told them she had to ask them to the forum.

I saw the posts from "sicily". Glad you caught onto her, danielnoahsmommy. I figured she was playing some kind of game. She must have deleted her sicily posts - all three threads of them.

To answer this thread - no, things will not get better for you, Keisha. Not now and not tomorrow. This man has the very best of all he wants. A wife, a child, a booty call with you, and life is good for him. Not so good for you, but you walked right into it.

Mommy, get used to this kind of stuff. The troll problem will only get worse when school lets out for the summer.

Hey bush, maybe so. I was going to ask Mommy if there was any good dirty talk goin' on. I have a few minutes to kill. :p

Sorry guys.
Right idea, wrong tree ;)

Okay CB.

Sorry Keisha. Ignore the other stuff. You have been given some good advice here.

You need to figure out if you want to keep putting up with that kind of treatment from your man. I know I wouldn't.

Pssst Ruby no W here ;)

Sorry, automatic reflex.

Ummm I don't know all I can say is that I'm going through a lighter similar situation... my boyfriend has a child and another on on the way from the same girl and she comes to his sisters house... where he lives so he can see his son... but as long as you trust him it's okay... when you enter a relation when someone has kids there's a 75% chance that they are going to go back with them so you have to be mentally prepared for that...

Hi, everybody I just feeling a lil depress about a situation i'm in. I meet this married man about 4yrs ago and we started kicking or what ever, he told me he was married and had a child, but him and his wife wasn't getting alone to good. So he stayed there at the him and his wife got for a couple or months then he actually move in with me and my daughter. So from that point him and his wife are separated from each other and i help him with his daughter and everything. Him and his wife have a resort together in FL. and they take the daughter down there for a week for vacation. Is that right for him to do that even though he had that before my time? To me the only contact he has with her (wife) is when he has his daughter as far as i know. Would things get better between us or do u think he might go back to his wife?
Sweetie, by the way your type/talk(?), you sound extremely young -- and I would bank that he is young as well. By young, I mean under -- what(?) -- 21? I hate to say it, but lack of education has gotten you stuck in a situation that seems too good to be true. And it is. He married this woman, and they have a child. "he treats me good." since when is it wonderful to be sleeping with a man that has a wife and baby -- one that comes to you when he feels like it. Believe me, his wife knows about him. She may not know all the particulars, but she knows what kind of scum she is married to. She too probably sits home and cries herself to sleep because she doesn't know what to do -- she's got a cheating/lying husband that she can hang on to -- for the sake of her baby, OR she can venture out on her on. She stays because she probably can't support the baby alone. Sounds like he's such an upstanding guy, she probably couldn't count on child support either. She probably loves him too -- just like you. He's got it made, doesn't he? He's happily ping-ponging back and forth, and the two of you are sitting there thinking you are the one he will stay with -- exclusively. It's not going to happen. Get your ged/diploma. Got to community college -- PULL YOURSELF UP. You will find men with high aspirations, future good jobs -- men that want to be faithful. You are worth so much more than his lies and deceit. Has anyone here (or anywhere else) told you you are doing the right thing? Is everyone wrong? You can keep asking, but nobody is going tell you to stay with this skum. Send hi back to his doublewide and pray for his wife and child as well. You HAVE to! You have to!