strawberry14
May 30, 2007, 09:29 PM
Well I was talking to this guy and well everythin was going well but then I left him 4 someone else now itz been 3 months since we started talking again but he acts so different he is so much ruder then be4. He use to call me every mornin just to tell me how much he misses me and know he only calls for a booty call. I want the nice guy I once knew I know I messed up but I want him back what should I do pleaze help:(
kinks
May 30, 2007, 09:42 PM
Humm, so are you together with this guy now, or just trying to get back with him?
You have to think about the fact that this guy liked you before and you shot him down - that hurts a man and when you start going out again, they don't stop thinking about that and the fear of rejection again. He is probably thinking well she didn't like me enough to keep me last time so I am going to keep my distance.
Have a chat with him tellign him the reasons you left before and that you really like him and think he is treating you weird. See where that leaves you
Hope I helped
Mom of 2
May 30, 2007, 09:46 PM
The first thing that popped in my mind is I don't know if there is anything that you can do. I mean, even though things were going well with the first guy, you left him for another guy? Why? Were you just talking to the first guy or were you in a relationship? I am kind of confused, as you started with "talkin to this guy" but then said "i left him 4 someone else." Are you surprised that he is acting differently towards you after you "left" for another guy? Remember, people are not electrical appliances that you can simply turn on and off. People have feelings (and memories), appliances don't. Maybe he truly does still care about you, but he is trying to appear as though he does not care. Remember, you hurt him and guys very seldom like to show any weaknesses.
You have acknowledged that you messed up, which is a step in the right direction. The best medicine for any relationship problem is communication. TELL him how you feel. However, you can't force him to change his feelings back again. Be prepared to move on if he is unable to forgive/forget. If that is the case, make sure that you learn a lesson from all of this. If he does change his tune and begins to act like he used to, make sure that you don't take a good thing for granted again.