Will I ever find a guy that wants a real relationship? That wants me and only me? Will I find a guy that I won't have to change for? Is it possible for guys to want only one girl? Physically and emotionally? Is it fair to ask for that?

Trying to provide an answer, here's my opinion:

- Most likely not
- Most likely not (unfortunately)
- Maybe, but more 'no' than 'yes'
- I don't think so
- Absolutely fair!

:rolleyes:

Yes with time you will find a guy that wants only you on both a emotional as well as physical level. It will happen when you least expect it. Don't try to look, let it happen. And don't change for anyone. If they don't like you for who you are, then they aren't worth your time.

At your age, yea that would be hard. I'm a thoughtful and caring guy, but back then (and wasn't that long ago mind you) I just wanted to try out what this young adulthood stuff was, and wasn't all that interested in the deep connection stuff. I think its kind of a maturity thing, and realizing that it is so much better the closer you get. To make this crappy paragraph short, you will it will just take time and some intelligent screening of your boyfriends. Be respectful of yourself and be confident in what you want, and you will find it.

I can relate to all your questions as I feel I am a guy ready to committ, but the girl I am interested in is not ready for a commitment. I know if a girl I care so much about gives me one opportunity to prove how committed I could be, I would be very lucky. Finding that one person who really shares mutual feelings of commitment, love, trust, is perhaps the biggest challenge for a guy/girl who is ready to be serious. Keep the faith, believe in God and someone will come along.

DocWill disagrees: That states all men are bums,.,. NOT THE CASE!

It's not what I meant, at all! And it holds for both men and women.

I clearly stated that was only MY OPINION. Thanks!

QUOTED COMMENT FROM "HOW DID YOU DO IT"- my wife and I have known each other since the sandbox, like preschool. We met on a playdate when we were 4. she gave me coodies in 1st grade, I asked her if she would be my girl in 3rd grade, in 8th grade we lost our virginity together, and then got all freaked out and broke up cause I got sent away to school. We reconnected when we were both 20, and I had just returned from my first tour in iraq. You see I've been in love with her since I knew what cocoa puffs were, since I can remember really. We dated and she moved in with me only one month after we remet on the internet by chance finding each other again. Amazingly we were perfect matches and came up number one on each other's e-harmony things, and it was just scary to see her face pop up first, and so I called her, and she moved in a month later from Florida to Texas. She dropped everything for me. I too drop everything for her whenever the chance arises. The first time I proposed to her one Sunday morning amidst a fight, which I fully regret, and she said yes, and the fight was over why I hadn't asked her yet, because she knew that I had the ring already... I think a buddy narced me out on that, and I fought her trying to secure my secret romantic night, but she beat me to it, so it became impromtu. We got married by a justice of the peace two days later. I'm in the military, that's how we generally do it. I know I'm a bastard... but wait there's more!! I have been deployed twice since then, that's two of the last 3 1/2 years gone from her. I recently went home on leave... I told her I would be in around 7 pm for her to pick me up at the airport, and we would have our two weeks together... I lied to her. I showed up at noon... with two dozen roses, a new and upgraded engagement ring to replace her old smaller one (refer to a question I asked on this sight "engagement ring upgrade"), and a 6 ft tall teddy bear, and I proposed to her on our front porch after she had not seen me for a little over 6 months. That's a guaranteed yes in my book (unless her boyfriend was there, lol j/k). OK, so that's my story on how I did it both times. Oh I almost forgot, she and I will be doing our vow renewal in the poconos mountains in the winter with the snow and the whole thing, and going on a second honeymoon.
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OK so corny I know, but it my life story. I don't know if you are there yet, but I can remember a time in my life when I could see everything... I took it as an epiphany even though I didn't know that word yet. My mom can even testify, that I changed that day that I met tess in the sandbox. I was really young, yet I was "cooler" as my mom would say. There is the possibility of all those questions becoming true. The answers you seek are quite utopian, but that shouldn't rob you of your faith in perfection. You could be that lucky girl, or what will most likely happen (provided you take care of yourself, and continue to grow, and be strong) you could make some guy the luckiest guy in the world. My wife has done that for me, and I can only hope to do the same for her every day. So, in conclusion... be happy that you're young, you have time, you are good looking, you have the possibilities in front of you to be great, and you have some experiences in your past that can help you later on once you've gotten over them now... that was my backdoor way of saying get over him, but in a nicer way...

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ok so corny i know, but it my life story. i dont know if you are there yet, but i can remember a time in my life when i could see everything...i took it as an epiphany even though i didnt know that word yet. my mom can even testify, that i changed that day that i met tess in the sandbox. i was really young, yet i was "cooler" as my mom would say. there is the possibility of all those questions becoming true. The answers you seek are quite utopian, but that shouldn't rob you of your faith in perfection. you could be that lucky girl, or what will most likely happen (provided you take care of yourself, and continue to grow, and be strong) you could make some guy the luckiest guy in the world. My wife has done that for me, and i can only hope to do the same for her every day. so, in conclusion...be happy that you're young, you have time, you are good looking, you have the possibilities in front of you to be great, and you have some experiences in your past that can help you later on once you've gotten over them now...that was my backdoor way of saying get over him, but in a nicer way...
\\this guy hit the nail on the head,

Hmm...


Will I ever find a guy that wants a real relationship?
That all depends on who you meet and what you do in your daily routine to meet this kind of guy, but...

that wants me and only me? Will I find a guy that I won't have to change for? Is it possible for guys to want only one girl? Physically and emotionally? Is it fair to ask for that?
First off, these guys do exist. There do exist men who are looking to be with just one girl. And, ideally, there will be guys who will like you just the way you are (though if you're some sort of axe murderer you might have to change a little to accommodate most guys; maybe use a gun instead). And is it fair to ask for that? Definitely.

HOWEVER--do know that, in our American, MTV, Girls-Gone-Wild culture, most men have come to the realization that being this kind of man usually leads to many cold, lonely Saturday nights playing Nintendo while their crush is out with a moron whose idea of a good date is getting to 2nd base in under 5 minutes. So when I say...


There do exist men who are looking to be with just one girl.
... what I really mean is:

There do exist men who are looking to be with just one girl like there exist squirrels with four tails: it's genetically possible but very few have ever seen one, and when they did they were scared and shot at it.
So yeah... you'll have to look long and hard AND you'll have to learn to recognize AND appreciate this guy when he comes around, but he is out there.

Now, if you'll excuse me, having nothing better to do I'm going to play Super Mario Bros.