well I'm in high school.. I live by the beach.. and I have the most amazing friends. Everythings pretty much perfect. Until I get home.
I mean don't get me wrong. I LOVE my family. More then anything and I don't live in a crappy house or anything like that.
But I'm confused.
I think my stepdad smokes pot. I mean.. im used to people smoking pot, cause so many of my friends do it so I know what people do when their high.
And well, he does it. I guess it wouldn't really matter to me as much if he didn't have moodswings and my whole family gets in fights because of it.
All my family does is fight lately. And I hate it. I want things to change.
What should I do?

Should I tell someone?
:confused:

YES!!
The best thing you can do is tell someone in a position of authority so that problem can get solved. I know that at first it might seem to him that he is being betrayed but in the long run he should come to grips with the reality of the situation and be thankful for your concern and help.

My family fights a lot too. Theres a lot of tension in your house too probably. I would talk to someone you trust. I think an adult might be a good choice. If theres someone at your school like a counselor or at your church that might be good.

Yeah but I still love him
And I don't want him to get taken away or anything.
And I think my mom would like really hate me if I told someone.

Because my mom knows that I kn ow

You need to tell me more about his mood... Does he get upset when he isn't smoking weed? Are you sure that that is his mental problem? I certainly have seen what the affects of long term marijuana use has had on people, and it can certainly affect peoples coping skills, and the mature way they deal with problems. Be careful who you tell about his habit, I do not do any drugs and do not condone them. But, I believe it is certainly NOT your place to go and tell someone that may call the police or even stir up things more. At this point you have told me too little for me to say " Yeah go rat the bastard out!" This weed may just be the only thing that keeps him calm. I don't know? But please communicate with someone that you trust to respect your wishes. These types of rushed decisions can be so damaging, and pointless. Tell me more about his disorder and I may be able to come to different advice or at least revise it.

All right well, I'm not exactly sure when he's high or not.
But for example yesterday he was flipping out on me and I didn't even do anything. The day after he appologized and said he felt bad. He always does this one day he will be super angry for no reason, and the next he's like super nice. But I can't tell what he acts like when he's high.
I think he's nicer when he's high?
But I'm not positive.
But won't these mood swings stop if he stops?

Have you tried talking to him when he is in his good moods? What does your mom say?

Well, that's a nice thing to hear at least, He seems to regret it when he flips out. That is anger without management, and its likely that he was like this before he met your mom and you. I believe that there are a lot of options, but I'm just taking my daughter to the zoo and will be back in a while.

People who smoke pot aren't usually angry or aggressive. Maybe there is more stuff going on. Speak with your mom without accusing anyone of anything.

Talk to your stepdad aboput it. He probably will understand you more and realize smoking pot isn't a good thing. If he loves you he will change. Tell him why you don't like it and tell him this line:

"If you love then you will change for me!!"

OK... Back from the ZOO. Any way's back to where I was with that. I am guessing your mom already knows about his mood flux, and she is living with it and puts up the kind of fight most people do she chooses her battles and it creates big arguments. Does he get mad at the smallest thing? If something big were to happen and it was your fault, would he ever let you forget it? Does this seem to be isolated to you? You and your mom? And he treats everyone of his friends and co-workers/neighbors great. Can he turn it on and off like a switch? Answer these and explain about your moms position in all this.

OH YEAH...

To answer the last question, If you take a smoke away from a smoker it pisses them off.
If you let them smoke they stay the same but have the health risks... NOW...

You take marijuana away from a "pot head" they get upset and can go through withdrawal, but them being any nicer for having not smoked any weed is pretty much unheard of. Weed is a lot like a great sedative and helps people cool off for the most part. So at this point "ALTHOUGH I DONT HAVE ALL THE INFO" I personally think that might stop the mood swings, BUT... He may be a full time jerk. Oh just a thought, since you can't gauge when your step father is smoking weed. Most people don't smoke at work, so how does he treat you when he walks in the door?