I have noticed in the past few months that at times my husbands hard on is not as hard as other times. Anybody shed some light on this? Does it mean he's not as turned on? And he does lose it a little if we change up positions. Does this have anything to do with age? He's only 34.:confused:

Is it on the first, second or third time?

Don't sweat it. Its normal. However that does depend upon the amount you are talking about. And like was mentioned that variation increases the second or third time around.

Is it on the first, second or third time?


The first time. I realize a hard-on isn't going to be the same all the time.

don't sweat it. Its normal. However that does depend upon the amount you are talking about. And like was mentioned that variation increases the second or third time around.

It is still pretty firm, but there's a little more "give" to it. If that makes sense. I'm just not sure if I'm worrying about this for no reason. I LOVE penis, but unfortunately I have no clue what is normal.

It is still pretty firm, but there's a little more "give" to it. If that makes sense. I'm just not sure if I'm worrying about this for no reason. I LOVE penis, but unfortunately I have no clue what is normal.
That's normal, depending on stress and how tired he may be it will vary. I notice it as well, and have never in my life had an episode of ED. If he starts having issues getting it up at all, it might be time to worry or start looking for a reason.

100% normal.

I have noticed in the past few months that at times my husbands hard on is not as hard as other times. Anybody shed some light on this? Does it mean he's not as turned on? And he does lose it a little if we change up positions. Does this have anything to do with age? He's only 34.:confused:


I am sure there have been time when you husband wanted a little that you were not as hot as usual and not as wet as usual, and really may not have cared if you got any or not. Well husbands are the same some times. They can not get that throbbing hard on that they would to have and I am sure that is what you are talking about. When you are in the "don't care" mood I don't think anything would change your mind. But men are different. A few well chosen words whispered in his ear will do wonders to his hard on. One of the words my wife uses on these occasions is the word ORAL.

I am sure there have been time when you husband wanted a little that you were not as hot as usual and not as wet as usual, and really may not have cared if you got any or not. Well husbands are the same some times. They can not get that throbbing hard on that they would to have and I am sure that is what you are talking about. When you are in the "don't care" mood I don't think anything would change your mind. But men are different. A few well chosen words whispered in his ear will do wonders to his hard on. One of the words my wife uses on these occasions is the word ORAL.

I agree about all you have stated. It's just odd. I have never noticed it before. It justs seems to fluxuate so much. Even while we are fooling around. I will be whispering things in his ear though. Hummmm... maybe f**k me harder?? :D

I agree about all you have stated. It's just odd. I have never noticed it before. It justs seems to fluxuate so much. Even while we are fooling around. I will be whispering things in his ear though. Hummmm...... maybe f**k me harder?!?!:D

Yes Stac33 I think that little quote will work wonders for him, Even just now I had a little twinge of desire.

I agree about all you have stated. It's just odd. I have never noticed it before. It justs seems to fluxuate so much. Even while we are fooling around. I will be whispering things in his ear though. Hummmm...... maybe f**k me harder?!?!:D

You remind me of someone I know.
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Yes Stac33 I think that little quote will work wonders for him, Even just now I had a little twinge of desire.

Mmmmmm... really?? I like to hear that.

[QUOTE=Matt3046]You remind me of someone I know.
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Who would that be? And should I be thankful?

mmmmmm........... really????? I like to hear that.

Since you like to hear that I am glad I said it, it gives me an idea of what kind of sexuality that you have. So I feel more reinforced that the advice I gave you about how to talk to your hubby will do the things you want done. Good Luck.

It's normal, but as for the cause... it could be so many different things it's hard to say. It never hurts to spice things up though...