secret lovah
May 12, 2007, 10:19 PM
Hello, I'm Mel and I'm having a bit of trouble.
My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 7 months. We stopped because I gave him a pregnancy scare the last two times, and since I've been trying to get BC so we can start again.
Problem is now, he tells me he never wants to have sex again. But that's not what bugs me, what bugs me is, even if we fool around and I'm touching him, he flinches. I asked him why, he said "it feels weird, the situation."
I don't think he's not attracted to me anymore because he's always touching and caressing me, but I don't know why he's stated "No sex ever again." Maybe I traumatized him? But then again, he won't even let me touch him. I ask him what's the problem, he says he doesn't know.
I'm starting to think maybe he really doesn't find me attractive or maybe I actually did traumatize him.
I've asked people, they've said "Well maybe he's trying to take the relationship seriously."
I mentioned that to him, he said "Then why do I still want to have sex?"
So he basically... wants to have sex... but not with me?
That makes me feel ugly and such. But then he tells me it's not me, it's him, and he really doesn't know why he doesn't want to ever again.
What should I do?
My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 7 months. We stopped because I gave him a pregnancy scare the last two times, and since I've been trying to get BC so we can start again.
Problem is now, he tells me he never wants to have sex again. But that's not what bugs me, what bugs me is, even if we fool around and I'm touching him, he flinches. I asked him why, he said "it feels weird, the situation."
I don't think he's not attracted to me anymore because he's always touching and caressing me, but I don't know why he's stated "No sex ever again." Maybe I traumatized him? But then again, he won't even let me touch him. I ask him what's the problem, he says he doesn't know.
I'm starting to think maybe he really doesn't find me attractive or maybe I actually did traumatize him.
I've asked people, they've said "Well maybe he's trying to take the relationship seriously."
I mentioned that to him, he said "Then why do I still want to have sex?"
So he basically... wants to have sex... but not with me?
That makes me feel ugly and such. But then he tells me it's not me, it's him, and he really doesn't know why he doesn't want to ever again.
What should I do?