Nighteyes
May 8, 2007, 05:52 PM
I'm from ontario, canada.
I doubt many people on here know canadain law but I'm going to ask anyway.
Does anyone have any idea as to how a father can go about getting out of child suport.. or well droping it to an actual resonable amount.
I'm asking not because my boyfriend is a dead beat cause he is far from it, but because his ex and the mother of the child is. She just got kicked off welfar because they finally said they've had enough of her failing high school to acquire it. So now she's out of school and off welfar and finally seeing that the real world isn't so sweet. And in return she's gone to the FRO office ot up the child suport, in which my boyfriend can't affored. I am not paying it for him because (call me what you want) I didn't open my legs and creat this child its NOT my reponsability.
Anyway, SHe wants more $$, as well as she's threating to take the child away so she can go live with her aunt for free. My boyfriend doenst drive, I'm in school (pre med) and don't have enough hours in the day to go pick him up for him, not that I would anyway.
I feel the system totally overlooks fathers...
In my opinion the FEMALE!! Has more say in the situation to have sex.. specially unprotected, so why do men have to do all the financal responsibility? I agree it takes two.. so BOTH should have EQUAL rights to that child! If ONE can't financhally suport the child it should go to the one who can!! Not the one living off the system..
Every case is different but in many I have seen this is the case! The father with NO criminal record not drug usage nothing ends up getting screwed over..
Why should my boyfriend have to pay suport to the mother of his child when she doenst do anything to help herself, she doenst take care of the child ( he's athmatic and she won't get him meds, he's malnurishied and because she doent want to waste time to get him to eat veg/fruit/anything healthy, she wouldn't buy him a winter hat because she needed smokes more.. etc etc) Why does he have to be on a visitation schedule? That NOT far to HIM or his son. The little guy is starving for attention cause his mom doesn't give it to him. Hes seeing a phsycologist that says he's emotionally tromatized by something, that he has no bone with his mother but a strong one with my boyfriend. Like why are men forced to pay for this?
And thanks to the child suport we can't affored a lawyer to ever attempt custady. She's all about herself and nothing about the pool little guy.
We're at a loss!! What can a father do!! The system fails the children it was build to help and for what.. for girls who just don't know how ot say NO!! Grrr... (every case is different but in a majority this is the case! )
Signing away parently rights doenst get you out of suport, so what does? Why pay for a child you have no rights too, to begin with? You cnat see them at your convinence, you can't protectet them against the wrongs happening by the opposite parent, you can't do anything, but the mother has all those rights and usually used in an attempt to hurt the father with no thought of the child! Grr.. lost, what can he do.. sorry about the venting I could say so much more.. and nothing written here is untrue, or souly my opinion on things.
I may detest his ex, but its because she's a horrable mother not because she's the ex.
I doubt many people on here know canadain law but I'm going to ask anyway.
Does anyone have any idea as to how a father can go about getting out of child suport.. or well droping it to an actual resonable amount.
I'm asking not because my boyfriend is a dead beat cause he is far from it, but because his ex and the mother of the child is. She just got kicked off welfar because they finally said they've had enough of her failing high school to acquire it. So now she's out of school and off welfar and finally seeing that the real world isn't so sweet. And in return she's gone to the FRO office ot up the child suport, in which my boyfriend can't affored. I am not paying it for him because (call me what you want) I didn't open my legs and creat this child its NOT my reponsability.
Anyway, SHe wants more $$, as well as she's threating to take the child away so she can go live with her aunt for free. My boyfriend doenst drive, I'm in school (pre med) and don't have enough hours in the day to go pick him up for him, not that I would anyway.
I feel the system totally overlooks fathers...
In my opinion the FEMALE!! Has more say in the situation to have sex.. specially unprotected, so why do men have to do all the financal responsibility? I agree it takes two.. so BOTH should have EQUAL rights to that child! If ONE can't financhally suport the child it should go to the one who can!! Not the one living off the system..
Every case is different but in many I have seen this is the case! The father with NO criminal record not drug usage nothing ends up getting screwed over..
Why should my boyfriend have to pay suport to the mother of his child when she doenst do anything to help herself, she doenst take care of the child ( he's athmatic and she won't get him meds, he's malnurishied and because she doent want to waste time to get him to eat veg/fruit/anything healthy, she wouldn't buy him a winter hat because she needed smokes more.. etc etc) Why does he have to be on a visitation schedule? That NOT far to HIM or his son. The little guy is starving for attention cause his mom doesn't give it to him. Hes seeing a phsycologist that says he's emotionally tromatized by something, that he has no bone with his mother but a strong one with my boyfriend. Like why are men forced to pay for this?
And thanks to the child suport we can't affored a lawyer to ever attempt custady. She's all about herself and nothing about the pool little guy.
We're at a loss!! What can a father do!! The system fails the children it was build to help and for what.. for girls who just don't know how ot say NO!! Grrr... (every case is different but in a majority this is the case! )
Signing away parently rights doenst get you out of suport, so what does? Why pay for a child you have no rights too, to begin with? You cnat see them at your convinence, you can't protectet them against the wrongs happening by the opposite parent, you can't do anything, but the mother has all those rights and usually used in an attempt to hurt the father with no thought of the child! Grr.. lost, what can he do.. sorry about the venting I could say so much more.. and nothing written here is untrue, or souly my opinion on things.
I may detest his ex, but its because she's a horrable mother not because she's the ex.