raynae
May 1, 2007, 07:25 AM
Should I or Should I not??
When we first married everything was great. My husband got a few calls from old girlfriends so we decide to have his cell number changed. After 5 months of being married we were having some problems so we separated ( we have a home & lake home) after a week of being apart we went out together and while I was sitting there his ex girl friend called. He told me he didn't know how she got his number he had not given it to her or called her. Of course I didn't believe him. Then the next week he came home for a few days (getting along really good) while he was in the shower I thought I would check his cell phone, just what I thought another old girl friend had left a message, saying OK you can call me back now I'm on break. When I ask him who she was he said an old friend. Wow!! Another fight.
I believe when you are married you shouldn't tell anyone your problems it should be between you and your spouse. When we would have a fight he would go over or call his daughter (25) and tell her everything. Of course that is going to make her not like me, so she told him if you are going to stay with her, don't call or contact me. (I heard her say that) so the trust of him not telling someone our problems is gone.
Once when we had a fight, (not physical) just words back and forth he called the police and told them the reason why he called I was screaming and yelling at him, OMG!! They were laughing behind his back. So now its like I'm even scared to say anything afraid he will call the police if I disagree with him, so the trust is lost there also.
I told him I don't know how I would ever trust him again, except if he got rid of his cell phone for a while, and he blew, he said no way, he thinks that I am being to controlling, I explained to him its not that I want to control you, I just want to trust you, and if getting rid of the cell phone is all it would take for a while why won't you do it. He still says it's a control thing for me, its not, its just that I know the calls will continue unless something happens to the cell phone. He got so upset with me for even asking
I just don't trust him on so many things, what do you guys think??
We did get a divorce about a month ago but still see each other and he is wanting to get back together. What do you think??
When we first married everything was great. My husband got a few calls from old girlfriends so we decide to have his cell number changed. After 5 months of being married we were having some problems so we separated ( we have a home & lake home) after a week of being apart we went out together and while I was sitting there his ex girl friend called. He told me he didn't know how she got his number he had not given it to her or called her. Of course I didn't believe him. Then the next week he came home for a few days (getting along really good) while he was in the shower I thought I would check his cell phone, just what I thought another old girl friend had left a message, saying OK you can call me back now I'm on break. When I ask him who she was he said an old friend. Wow!! Another fight.
I believe when you are married you shouldn't tell anyone your problems it should be between you and your spouse. When we would have a fight he would go over or call his daughter (25) and tell her everything. Of course that is going to make her not like me, so she told him if you are going to stay with her, don't call or contact me. (I heard her say that) so the trust of him not telling someone our problems is gone.
Once when we had a fight, (not physical) just words back and forth he called the police and told them the reason why he called I was screaming and yelling at him, OMG!! They were laughing behind his back. So now its like I'm even scared to say anything afraid he will call the police if I disagree with him, so the trust is lost there also.
I told him I don't know how I would ever trust him again, except if he got rid of his cell phone for a while, and he blew, he said no way, he thinks that I am being to controlling, I explained to him its not that I want to control you, I just want to trust you, and if getting rid of the cell phone is all it would take for a while why won't you do it. He still says it's a control thing for me, its not, its just that I know the calls will continue unless something happens to the cell phone. He got so upset with me for even asking
I just don't trust him on so many things, what do you guys think??
We did get a divorce about a month ago but still see each other and he is wanting to get back together. What do you think??