Hello and thank you for viewing and answering my question.

It all starts like this.

I am a 18 year old boy who just lost his virginity to 15 year old girl (don't judge). Me and my girlfriend have been dating only 2 months and few weeks. She gave her virginity to me last week. I though it was odd since she gave it to me so quick. Not only that she wasn't bleeding down there and when I first enter her it really didn't hurt her and it actually please her. There many things that I don't get. Is that when we fool around she would ask me to use two finger instead of 1 (when she was still a virgin). Though she has dated other guys in the past. I still can't get it past me. Her history is that her 2nd boyfriend almost had sex with her twice. Once in her backyard (were disrupted). And another when they were in the movies. He was fingering her (she didn't want 2) and he then try to but supposedly could not get it in. Now I am sorry for saying such vulgar things, but I need know. Is my girlfriend really a virgin before she got to me? She is my first girlfriend and my first love (Ive been doing a lot of moving and kick boxing so I didn't have too much time for relationship)

It doesn't sound like "virgin" behavior to me...

Do you see my problem?

It doesn't seem like virgin behavior to me either. But, it also doesn't seem like you "love" her like you say you do, you say you don't have time for her and you don't trust what she says. If you are unable to trust her (whether you have good reason to or not) then you guys probably won't work out. Also, I'm not judging you but I would advise you to be careful with her, she is young and you could possibly get yourself into trouble.

Yes, I see your problem...

She may also have a problem too.
The problem of insecurity and the need to feel excepted...

Might be the cause for early sex and then lying about it...

Don't judge her, just talk to her about it...
She might appreciate that from you...

No what bothers me is that she lied to me about that. And one of the few things I told her is that I expect honestly about this thing. If she wasn't a virgin I would be fine with that it just I want to know the truth

Not judging but warning, you do realise you can go to prison ( and be someone else's girlfriend) for doing this. 15 is illegal in almost every place. And in most places you will be a sex offender the rest of your life.
Just read on here and you will hear of cases every day where this happens.

With that said, it is hard to say, enough other activities could have already caused enough, but it really don't sound like a first time.
But either way, she isn't now for sure.

Yea I know I just turn 18 and she turning 16 next month

O and to make sure you don't think I'm getting on the defense. I thank you guys for looking out for me and answer my question

yea i know i just turn 18 and she turning 16 next month

It doesn't matter, you still had sex with her when she was 15. A lot of guys aren't fully aware of what could happen to you in this situation and when something comes up most of these guys are completely dumb founded because "She didn't care that I was older" and "She made the first move", etc. Of course it takes two, but what about when the parents find out? Your opinions won't matter then!

I don't mean to be so harsh. I just want you to know, it COULD possibly happen.

Yea thxs man for the advice

Well I Say Since She Has Been Fingered B4 Maybe That Why It Didn't Hurt That Much The Fingers Help A lot When Opening The Whole It Helps Relax The Female That How The Guy I Lost It To Did It And It Didn't Hurt At All When He Did Do It. And About The Whole Age Thing Who Am I To Judge I Was With A 18 Year Old Guy When I Was Only 10 Years Old.(I Looked Older Then 10)

I'm just hoping the post above mine is a joke or a typo... you were 10 he was 18? My god what is this world coming to

No its not a typo I know it was wrong but I was 10 I didn't really know better

I personally think no she isn't but I don't think you should leave for her for that reason she probably likes you so she lied and said she was a virgin because a lot of guys like girls that are virgins so she probably think you were like that but you should just confront her and your probably going to be alrite if you take my advice let me know how it turns out

No not really, she is a liar!! No offense

She not a virgin, try to get her to confess if she don't confess she's not the one for you.

She not a virgin, try to get her to confess if she don't confess she's not the one for you.

Well I don't think she's a virgin... either does my best friend beside me.. If you're a virgin.. it does hurt and you do bleed.. so if it gave her pleasure the first time.. well then.. she's not a virgin.. just my opinion

I would say she wasn't but dang you just put all you guys private life in the open

i would say she wasn't but dang you just put all you guys private life in the open


Only way to find out for sure on your answer

Whoa that is a good age difference and no I'm not judging if you love her you wouldn't think twice & you would believe what she says. You have every right to be concerned or think differently but honestly it dosen't sound like she's a virgin so I'll have to agree with the others who commented about it

I think she may not be a virgin, and not to judge, if your having unprotected sex your as dumb as a box of rocks.

OK now she telling me that when we first did do it. It did hurt her and she just lied to me

Would it make a difference if she was not a virgin?

My opinion is she was probably a virgin, I know most said it wasn't virgin behavior but listen the membrane that covers that area, what makes you a virgin can break from riding a bike falling over riding a horse and so on. And maybe she was possibly fingered before, and if it felt good to her and shje was a virgin go you buddy :)!! And also is that you prepared her body right and made her, (in lack of a btter word) wet enough it didn't hurt so bad. Don't judge and be straight with her she loves you or she wouldn't have given it up or had sex with you.

Y are you having sex with 15 year old girls in the first place? Do you have a thing for virgins? Find someone your age and you won't have these problems. You don't love her that's obvious. And who cares if she's a virgin or not does it really mater. Seriously find someone that's your age your going mess up this girls life.

My opinion is she was prolly a virgin, I know most said it wasnt virgin behavior but listen the membrane that covers that area, what makes you a virgin can break from riding a bike falling over riding a horse and so on. And maybe she was possibly fingered before, and if it felt good to her and shje was a virgin go you buddy :)!!! and also is that you prepared her body right and made her, (in lack of a btter word) wet enough it didnt hurt so bad. Don't judge and be straight with her she loves you or she wouldn't have given it up or had sex with you.
You can NOT break the membrance like that. Not even a tampon can break it. Some times the first time you do it it doesn't even break. Falling off a horse?? Riding a bike?? Where do you get your information from?

sorry yes, those are real ways for it to happen,
That's what I thought too?? Correct us here ladies.

Y are you having sex with 15 year old girls in the first place? do u have a thing for virgins? find someone your age and you wont have these problems. You dont love her thats obvious. And who cares if shes a virgin or not does it really mater. Seriously find someone thats your age your going mess up this girls life.

Well.. like I said I was untouch and I didn't want to look embarrassed myself in front of an experiencing girl. Plus I though I was in love and stuff. I know this sound pretty girly from a guy, but I can't exactly say I had a normal childhood

Some girls pretend it doesn't hurt, the best thing to do is honestly ask her. She may not want to talk about it, she could have bad experiences in the past if she's worth it wait until you trust each other more to open up.

Hello and thank you for viewing and answering my question.

It all starts like this.

I am a 18 year old boy who just lost his virginity to 15 year old girl (don't judge). Me and my girlfriend have been dating only 2 months and few weeks. She gave her virginity to me last week. I though it was odd since she gave it to me so quick. Not only that she wasn't bleeding down there and when I first enter her it really didn't hurt her and it actually please her. There many things that I don't get. Is that when we fool around she would ask me to use two finger instead of 1 (when she was still a virgin). Though she has dated other guys in the past. I still can't get it past me. Her history is that her 2nd boyfriend almost had sex with her twice. Once in her backyard (were disrupted). And another when they were in the movies. He was fingering her (she didn't want 2) and he then try to but supposedly could not get it in. Now I am sorry for saying such vulgar things, but I need know. Is my girlfriend really a virgin before she got to me? She is my first girlfriend and my first love (Ive been doing alot of moving and kick boxing so I didn't have to much time for relationship)
I had the same thing happen to me, but don't worry if you hit her right, she'll love you to death.

I was 15 when I lost my virginity... it took my ex boyfriend 5 days and it was my idea! It was just the right time! I also enjoyed it and never bled.. you don't have to bleed, your "cherry" can get popped when you are getting fingered! I actually recall telling him to go faster! I WAS A VIRGIN. Although the days after that, I was sore and could not sit properly for 3 days... but it is possible your girlfriend is not lying.. I highly doubt she is, I've never met soemone who has lied about being a virgin..

Some girls lie about it... even I lied about having my virginity, but never to my boyfriends.

I wasn't going to say anything on this post because I think what you are doing is disgusting, your girlfriend is a child.

Anyway, maybe she had sex before but regretted or maybe she didn't. Kids are so uneducated about their bodies that they don't understand that the majority of girls have a broken hymen before they have sex. Use tampons? Your hymen is gone. Were you active in sports as a kid? Hymen is gone. Maybe your girlfriend has just been active with digital sex so she is already "opened up" as the kids say.

I think that maybe you date kids because you want a virgin? Is that why you are so upset, your perfect little girl isn't so perfect after all?

Holy Glinda.... I agree with you but damn! That's VERY forward of you.

I was also going to pass on this since it's a few months old. But I got to go along with Glinda. You were 18 and knowingly and willingly had sex with a 15 year old girl. That qualifies you as a pervert, a pedophile and enormously stupid. You shouldn't even be dating a 15 year old let alone having intercourse with her. What's even worse is you had intercourse without having really strong feelings about her. If you did, it wouldn't concern you whether she was a virgin or not.

Its too bad we can't report you to the proper authorities.

Holy Glinda.... I agree with you but damn! That's VERY forward of you.


I'm sorry I just get so mad with these older guys taking advantage of children. It makes me sick to my stomach.

I am a 18 year old boy who just lost his virginity to 15 year old girl (don't judge).

Me and my girlfriend have been dating only 2 months and few weeks.

Though she has dated other guys in the past. I still can't get it past me.

She is my first girlfriend and my first love (Ive been doing alot of moving and kick boxing so I didn't have to much time for relationship)

To quote yourself Don't JUDGE!

What the hell difference does it make. Guys who ask this or get hung up on this are immature and insecure.

Guess what... she's probably not going to be your last girlfriend or love. So... while it lasts, get past this mental crap. You are wasting mental energy on an issue that will mean NOTHING to you in several years, when you are older, wiser, and you are so insecure about who slept with who and when.

It's a waste of energy. Get over it, whatever the answer is.

Above all else, if you can't accept her cause she slept with you so fast (hmmm, gee, didn't YOU make that choice too? Shouldn't she be writing here about whether you just in it for the sex) then get out.

And, yes, you are having sex with an underage girl. You can go to jail.

I'm sorry I just get so mad with these older guys taking advantage of children. It makes me sick to my stomach.

Mine too.

I know that it's horrible what he's done...and more then likely he's moved on to some other girl who is too young to even buy her own liquer.

He can not nessaceraly go to jail.. it depends where he lives... where I live you can date anyone fourteen or older with parents permission... and they were only three years apart! Me and my boyfriend are six years apart! It doesn't neccisarily mean he is taking advantage of her.. my parents are eleven years apart... should my dad go to jail?

That's for jail..what about sex..... and it's not jsut the law. It's morals in general.

Under the eyes of the law this girl cannot make decision for herself. She does not even have the right to her own medical information.

And its not about age difference its about her being UNDER THE AGE OF CONSENT. In the eyes of the law HE IS RAPING HIS GIRLFRIEND UNDER THE EYES OF THE LAW SHE CANNOT MAKE A DECISION TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM THAT IS WHAT STATUTORY RAPE IS.

Are you people so freakin stupid that you think its okay for a MAN to have sex with a CHILD. If she was 13 would you still think its okay? What if he was 25 and she was 14, still okay?

If he came around my daughter he would meet the business end of a shotgun and would be in handcuffs. Get a damn clue Harlos

Where he is, it is against the law. 16 is the age of consent and she is 15, it is statutory RAPE.

Thank you J_9... statutory rape was the words I was looking for.

He can not nessaceraly go to jail.. it depends where he lives... where i live you can date anyone fourteen or older with parents permission... and they were only three years apart! me and my boyfriend are six years apart! it doesn't neccisarily mean he is taking advantage of her.. my parents are eleven years apart... should my dad go to jail??

Dating and engaging in sex are different things. Age differences are also a relative thing. A 20 yr old and a 26 yr old are not a problem, neither is 35 and 24. But 20 & 14 or 27 & 16 are big problems. Girls under 16 are from a very different world and mindset from an adult male. That's why statutory rape laws exist.

Girls that young will act in ways to impress older boyfriends. It may not be "typical" virgin behavior, but what is that anyway? Everyone has a different body and things happen to some girls that do not happen to others. Its also very possible she's ACTING like this comes naturally to her, but in reality it may not be.

Basically, this is the kind of stress you will have dating such a young girl. The difference between maturity at 15 vs. 18 is great (or should be) and will cause problems. Not to mention the sex should have waited. (If you really love her, you should respect her more than this)

You should trust her and if you don't, you should end the relationship.

Anyway, if you were a virgin until you hooked up with a kid, what makes you knowledgable enough to judge her?

I'm feeling nauseous

Okay first of all. To give you some info. When I first had sex I did not bleed. It did not hurt. And I always perfered 2 fingers over 1. Some girls are just like that. But also You need to be SUPER careful about having sex with a minor. It is called statatory rape. So you need to just stop having sex. At least with her. But I will say I believe sex is for marriage. But if you are going to do it then be protected and don't have it with a minor

All you can do is ask her.. I mean no one can answer you question properly because we don't actually know. Yes, it doesn't sound like she was a virgin but its different for different girls.

Yes I think so:

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If she sαys she wαs α virgin thαn trust her-- you sαy you love her αnd there is no love without trust. If this wαs α lie she'll fess up sooner or lαter αnd tell you how much of αn idiot it mαkes her feel.

Good luck to you <3

It sounds like your girlfriend is experienced not nessicarily saying she was not a virgin because there are other things you can use i.e.. Dildo//vibrator

She could have been a virgin. No, it doesn't sound like "virgin behavior", but I was a virgin with my boyfriend and not all girls bleed the first time. I didn't bleed. Is she athletic at all? A lot of girls get their hymen broken by horseback riding or even using tampons could tear the hymen. So her not bleeding doesn't mean she's not a virgin. Also, about it not hurting, maybe she was just really horny and ready for you. For some girls it hurts the first time and for some it doesn't. It all depends on if the girl is really turned on and if she has been fingered.

And about fingering, girls get "looser" when they get turned on. About using 2 fingers instead of just one, maybe you just made her super horny and she knew she could take more. Again, it all depends on the girl and her body. There is also the chance she has used a dildo before, in which case she would still technically be a virgin because it wasn't an actually person, but nothing would hurt her. Maybe she got herself ready for you by stretching herself when you weren't around, because she didn't want it to hurt the first time.

There's always the chance of either side, but for me, I was a virgin and it didn't hurt and I didn't bleed. I also didn't enjoy it at first until I got used to the feeling.

First of all... it may not seem like virgin behavior... but sticking up for her... 1.the hymen (spellings off I know) doesn't always break from sex... it can break from sports or riding horses or something like that... 2. as for the fingering part and the going kind of fast part... she has done other things besides sex... maybe all except... hence the reason she asked you to use two and the reason it didn't bother her going fast... plus and I'm just wondering... but she might have because she was afraid to lose you or something along those lines she is younger than you... 3. as for the not hurting part... it didn't really hurt me my first time... she could be one of those girls who enjoys a little bit of pain during sex... then again she could have been acting like it didn't hurt so you wouldn't worry... who knows... there are a buncha of reasons for all these things... I think this is something you need to talk to her about... only she can awnser the questions you have... besides... if you love her like you say you do then you owe it to her to ask HER instead of jumping to conclusions... I know that everything put togather seems odd... but you never know...

Well acually I disagree I do think she was a virgin cause when I was a virgin I was like that and it really didn't matter And if you really love her then trust her

Wow, its not everyday someone comes onto a internet site that can be seen by millions and confesses to statutory rape. You need to find yourself someone of legal age if you are going to partake in premaritial sex. And watch your back, there just may be an officer, or deputy there to ask you your name, and then place you under arrest. Then what? Will it really be worth it then? Just trying to get you to think before acting. A romp in the hay is fun and good for a short period. Raising your kids and caring for them lasts a lifetime.

I was 15 when I lost my virginity.
But I didn't bleed.
I had bled when someone fingered me earlier and that had hurt, however my first time sex didn't hurt and I enjoyed it.

However I think that before you have sex again you should try and improve your trust in her.