Kiki7
Jul 1, 2017, 11:42 AM
I'm beginning to resent the man I have been dating - for four years, living with for 2) not only because he hasn't made any definitive moves to resolve his financially depleting, dysfunctional relationship with his ex wife, but also because he seems very ungenerous (cheap) often allowing others to pick up the proverbial "tab" when etiquette would ask he contribute.
While he comes off as Mr. Nice Guy, I couldn't help but notice that when he took me to meet a dozen of his oldest and best friends, for tapas and drinks in the city, he slipped out of contributing anything to the tab.
Fast forward a year - he's relocated to live with me. My birthday rolled around, and we went out to dinner with my friends. Much to my chagrin he allowed THEM to pay for everything!
Wait there's more; when I got my masters degree last summer, I picked up the tab for my own graduation party - he said he wanted to "pay me back" which only made it more cringe worthy, and worse, he never did.
Most recently, I suffered a serious injury and had to seek out a specialist, across the country. I left at the beginning of the summer and would be gone for two months while receiving an expensive over - 10,000 - surgery. During that time he would have our apartment to himself along with flying his sons and their friends over to stay, while I was gone.
I paid several thousand dollars in rent on our apartment that I would not be staying in - while also paying for airline tickets, hotels and medical bills. He used the apartment to house himself, his kids and their friends for the summer. My boyfriend did not even think to offer me help which could have been partial coverage of the rent I paid, for our apartment in my absence.
This just doesn't sit right with me - in fact I'm furious.
On top of it, as mentioned in the title, my partner is still married to a woman he refers to as "psycho from hell" for whom he rents a house - in his defense, he does also pay an exorbitant amount of child support.
Call me a princess, but I'm sick of this and expect and deserve more.
While he comes off as Mr. Nice Guy, I couldn't help but notice that when he took me to meet a dozen of his oldest and best friends, for tapas and drinks in the city, he slipped out of contributing anything to the tab.
Fast forward a year - he's relocated to live with me. My birthday rolled around, and we went out to dinner with my friends. Much to my chagrin he allowed THEM to pay for everything!
Wait there's more; when I got my masters degree last summer, I picked up the tab for my own graduation party - he said he wanted to "pay me back" which only made it more cringe worthy, and worse, he never did.
Most recently, I suffered a serious injury and had to seek out a specialist, across the country. I left at the beginning of the summer and would be gone for two months while receiving an expensive over - 10,000 - surgery. During that time he would have our apartment to himself along with flying his sons and their friends over to stay, while I was gone.
I paid several thousand dollars in rent on our apartment that I would not be staying in - while also paying for airline tickets, hotels and medical bills. He used the apartment to house himself, his kids and their friends for the summer. My boyfriend did not even think to offer me help which could have been partial coverage of the rent I paid, for our apartment in my absence.
This just doesn't sit right with me - in fact I'm furious.
On top of it, as mentioned in the title, my partner is still married to a woman he refers to as "psycho from hell" for whom he rents a house - in his defense, he does also pay an exorbitant amount of child support.
Call me a princess, but I'm sick of this and expect and deserve more.