Hi, I was with my boyfriend for a little over a year there had always been rumours from people (including the women) that he was cheating on me with her, more emotional cheating than physical, but he had always denied it even in front of her. I believed him, we broke up later not because I thought he was cheating on me but because we were constantly fighting. It has been two years now and we are still very good friends, I feel weird when we don't talk everyday and I find myself longing to be close to him even if he is talking to me about other women, I would rather hear about it from him first hand. The problem is that this women still claims that he was cheating on me with her, may I add that this women used to be my good friend, she still claims that he was cheating on me with her and she even says that once we broke up they were together, the problem is that I believe her, I think I always did. I haven't talked to him about it, she claims that they are still off and on even now, he would still to this day deny it ever happening and he would deny that he is with her now and I would probably believe him if he told me it didn't happen even though I know it did. I need him to tell me because I think it would bring me closure I mean its been two years, I've been with other men, but I still find myself upset about him, I want to know the truth but I think it would hurt me even more to know forsure that he really did cheat on me. I can't imagine that I still love him, but it sure feels like I do, I mean if I didn't would I really still care two years later? He tells me that I ruined his life because I was the one woman he loved and since we didn't work out he lost hope in any other woman... but in reality its him who ruined my life because now I find myself questioning every guy I'm ever with... I mean if I wasn't good enough for him how can I possibly be good enough for someone else? Please help me... this has gone on for too long and he doesn't even deserve this from me.

Truthfully... I feel you need to move on... This guy has done nothing but hurt you and indriectly this woman... He doesn't even have the guts 2 admit he was wrong and is blaming you for his mistake... Do yourself a favour and keep him in the past where he belongs.

You should have left him alone a long time ago, so you could have gotten over him and his lies. You have not had a chance to heal, or grieve over the death of this relationship, and so now is the time to put an end to the misery and pain, and leave him and his life, and females where they belong, IN THE PAST.