jsanders801
Mar 10, 2016, 08:36 AM
Hi everyone,
So I met this girl 4 months ago. We have been boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 months.
I am 32 and she is 30. The first few weeks were perfect. It was easy and fun. We enjoyed each other and respected each other. Then, I started to see signs (Red Flags) and changes in her behavior.
One day she would be really tired and look really messed up. Most of the time I would go to her house and cook for her because she didn't want to drive 30 minutes to come see me. She said it was too far and didn't want to put more miles on her leased car. Haha. She didn't want to see me on Valentine's Day or on her Birthday. This is when I confronted her. She came clean and told me she has a drinking problem and she is addicted to adderall.
Keep in mind, she has 2 kids and is a nurse. I told her I would help her in whatever she needed. She said I was the best thing to come into her life because when she's with me she doesn't do those things and she leads a clean life. She told me how much she loves me and how much she misses me when I'm gone.
The next day I get a text from her saying "Hey, I was thinking and I'm not ready for a relationship. I need to work on myself. I hope you understand" Just like that, no phone call or anything. I called her... we talked then she said "Well, we're still boyfriend and girlfriend. I was just upset. I wanted to break up with you first because I'm afraid you'll break up with me"
I told her that was really messed up. We worked it out and continued dating. When we were together it was great, but when we were apart she was so distant and I could tell she was drinking from her texts and not wanting to talk on the phone. Two nights ago, she text me "I'm so proud and happy that you are my boyfriend. I believe you came into my life for a reason. I love you and miss you and I can't wait to see you"
12 hours later I get a text in the morning saying "Hey, I decided I can't be in a relationship right now, I need to work on myself. I hope you understand" Basically the same thing.
I called her and she ignored me... She texted me I can't talk sorry. I have nothing else to say. She blocked me on Facebook and we haven't talked since.
Is any of this my fault? I mean I cooked for her all the time. I was always there to support her. I guess I dodged a bullet, but I do miss the good times we had. Why do I feel so bad?
So I met this girl 4 months ago. We have been boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 months.
I am 32 and she is 30. The first few weeks were perfect. It was easy and fun. We enjoyed each other and respected each other. Then, I started to see signs (Red Flags) and changes in her behavior.
One day she would be really tired and look really messed up. Most of the time I would go to her house and cook for her because she didn't want to drive 30 minutes to come see me. She said it was too far and didn't want to put more miles on her leased car. Haha. She didn't want to see me on Valentine's Day or on her Birthday. This is when I confronted her. She came clean and told me she has a drinking problem and she is addicted to adderall.
Keep in mind, she has 2 kids and is a nurse. I told her I would help her in whatever she needed. She said I was the best thing to come into her life because when she's with me she doesn't do those things and she leads a clean life. She told me how much she loves me and how much she misses me when I'm gone.
The next day I get a text from her saying "Hey, I was thinking and I'm not ready for a relationship. I need to work on myself. I hope you understand" Just like that, no phone call or anything. I called her... we talked then she said "Well, we're still boyfriend and girlfriend. I was just upset. I wanted to break up with you first because I'm afraid you'll break up with me"
I told her that was really messed up. We worked it out and continued dating. When we were together it was great, but when we were apart she was so distant and I could tell she was drinking from her texts and not wanting to talk on the phone. Two nights ago, she text me "I'm so proud and happy that you are my boyfriend. I believe you came into my life for a reason. I love you and miss you and I can't wait to see you"
12 hours later I get a text in the morning saying "Hey, I decided I can't be in a relationship right now, I need to work on myself. I hope you understand" Basically the same thing.
I called her and she ignored me... She texted me I can't talk sorry. I have nothing else to say. She blocked me on Facebook and we haven't talked since.
Is any of this my fault? I mean I cooked for her all the time. I was always there to support her. I guess I dodged a bullet, but I do miss the good times we had. Why do I feel so bad?