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Gemma19960806
Nov 16, 2015, 06:25 AM
I was with a guy for around 2 months. He use to come round before this because he was a family friend's son. We were serious about one another such as marrying one day as his sister would talk about it. He told me how much he loved me and would get mad at the little things I do. However we started to argue a little and I woke up received a message saying he wasn't ready for a relationship so he could focus on his future. Then told his sister was because we argue as well.

He said we could be friends then build on it but I tried to explain how it was for him to just let go and be friends and build again. Then he went mad and said he doesn't want to be friends or be in a relationship and to leave him alone and that he's done.

Do you think he will realise what he done was a mistake and come back? I'm so hurt. I've texted him a few times saying there won't be stress or arguments etc but he says leave him alone? Will he come back soon?

Fr_Chuck
Nov 16, 2015, 07:21 AM
First in two months it is way to early to talk marriage and even really be in love.

And it sounds like you are telling him you will accept anything he says and does, without any argument,

That is not realistic or right. Couples fight, couples argue, they have to. That is part of life.

It sounds like he is not ready for a real relationship and started talking love and marriage far to early. He then realized you were not the person he wanted and is making an excuse to break up, (trying to be nice about it)

Oliver2011
Nov 16, 2015, 08:21 AM
Agree. You two didn't know each other and now you are getting to see his true colors. It's a HUGE warning sign when either party in the relationship talks about love or marriage so quickly. Speed kills on the highway and it does in relationships as well. Get to know someone first before you become so attached. And no, I don't think he will realize his "mistake" because he probably has a track record of crash and burn relationships. Move on, it's not worth it in the end.

talaniman
Nov 16, 2015, 04:30 PM
Sucks to get dumped, for any reason, but in time you will realize you two wouldn't work since you really didn't get along that well and he had no patience for you. You will see this after you have healed if you do as he says and leave him alone.

See how easy it is to fall in love? See how hard it is to fall out of love when things go wrong?

How old are you both, and is this your first love?

catonsville
Nov 16, 2015, 07:31 PM
This situation is beyond repair. First of all it may be love for you but to him it was just a fling. Try to get over it and look forward, I know it is hard but in this case it is better that it is over.