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Misshome
Jul 20, 2015, 08:38 AM
I often chat with random strangers. It seems to me I and the other person always find a way to chat. No matter what how I tried to hide myself; so as he.
He is Wired.. always pick up fight.. sort of out spoken.. I like that.. I and I will
say anything to make him mad, and pick up a online fight with him. We saw each other picture. Never meet in real life. He once told me he was married 3 times,
and has a girl friend too ! Have no idea what he is up to.
But.. I kind of likes him.. Is this love? We are Solar Opposite. He is Quite, Calm but a Fighter. I am Loud, Spontaneous and Free Spirit. He never advice me though.. so that is cool.. he may be a little older than me.. does not matter..
As long as he is not younger than me..
Yesterday I saw a couple seating on the park. The lady was holding her man in one had and her dog leash on her other hand. I looked at them and said to myself.. How is this people living together? The man had no attention to her. He was peeping on me and my friends the whole time through his glasses!
Oliver2011
Jul 20, 2015, 08:47 AM
Of course it isn't and can't be love.
Why not find someone in your own area that you can be with physically? Finding someone on the internet is just a waste of time as far as a relationship goes, especially if you two are never going to meet. And the fighting might seem exciting now but it will become a drain emotionally. Although this is just a guess, men that are quick to temper might be on a path to physically abuse their partner.
Precious7
Jul 20, 2015, 11:26 AM
No its not! :)
smoothy
Jul 20, 2015, 12:16 PM
I often chat with random strangers. It seems to me I and the other person always find a way to chat. No matter what how I tried to hide myself; so as he.
He is Wired.. always pick up fight.. sort of out spoken.. I like that.. I and I will
say anything to make him mad, and pick up a online fight with him. We saw each other picture. Never meet in real life. He once told me he was married 3 times,
and has a girl friend too ! Have no idea what he is up to.
But.. I kind of likes him.. Is this love? We are Solar Opposite. He is Quite, Calm but a Fighter. I am Loud, Spontaneous and Free Spirit. He never advice me though.. so that is cool.. he may be a little older than me.. does not matter..
As long as he is not younger than me..
Yesterday I saw a couple seating on the park. The lady was holding her man in one had and her dog leash on her other hand. I looked at them and said to myself.. How is this people living together? The man had no attention to her. He was peeping on me and my friends the whole time through his glasses!
How old are you?.. I'm betting you are really young. This sounds like 100% hormones... its impossible to be love because you need to REALLY get to know the person to love them and that takes years AFTER you start dating each other.
Heck... you haven't even MET each other yet...
Stop chatting up with random anonymous people online.....some of them might be sex offenders looking for another victim.
tickle
Jul 20, 2015, 01:23 PM
Even if you saw a picture, it doesn't necessarily mean it is the one you are chatting with ! He was married 3 times and has a g/f and you find that attractive !
You have a lot to learn ! No this is not LOVE !
talaniman
Jul 20, 2015, 01:52 PM
Sound more like fantasy to me.
Homegirl 50
Jul 20, 2015, 05:47 PM
No this is not love. Sounds like a teenage crush to me. This whole thing does not sound the least bit healthy.
Fr_Chuck
Jul 20, 2015, 07:26 PM
No, unless love includes leather, whips and lots of yelling.
This is at the best sexual desire. He has been divorced three times which means while a little "fighting" may be fun once in a while. He will tire of you pushing him and his fighting will get harder and more intense.
Yes a couple holding hands and walking a dog is really where love is. Sorry if it sounds boring, but both couples may be looking around at what is happening in the park, and even talk about it. My wife and I often talk about pretty dogs in park, or how "cheap" or how some women dress like tramps and laugh about it. Or how fat other men are and so on. Long walks, without fighting, or something's without talking, is where real love is found. It is the feelings of the heart, not the words being said.
Misshome
Jul 22, 2015, 05:26 AM
WOW! So.. you don't want to agree that when you are in love it is like teen-age fantasy ! You always miss that person and want to be with him/her! Well.. I am the talkative one. He is quiet. He is Polar Opposite I said.
@ Smoothy.. meeting him in person would be nice. I really do not want anyone in my life. I have a deadly decease. I have Aids. I am afraid to tell him; what if he does not speak to me anymore. Even though I am Cure but I have had Aids. I always miss talking to him. When I chat with him, it feels so real.. and he is Witty too ! He made laugh. I do not socialized in real life.
@ Oliver... Yes.. you could be right. I was beaten up for so long. It does not matter to me no more. I know this much, I will not put up with it anymore for sure. I learn to set boundaries.
@ precious.. Have you ever been in LOVE?
Thank you all for your response.
talaniman
Jul 22, 2015, 05:36 AM
I get the thrill of connecting with another human, it's like cloud 9 while it lasts, then reality brings you down to earth. That's not love, just LIFE!
Homegirl 50
Jul 22, 2015, 06:49 AM
This is not love. You enjoy chatting with him but other than that, you don't really know him or he you. You have a fantasy relationship. That is not love.
Precious7
Jul 22, 2015, 12:17 PM
@ precious.. Have you ever been in LOVE?
Yes, I can proudly say that! Bcos I am married to the one I Love <3 and I am in Love with him every single day :), even in the hard times of my life.
The reason we can say that 'its not love' because we have been in that stage where you are and felt the same feeling as you are doing and I am sure everybody had that experience. But as we grow things starts to make more sense.
Love is not emotion, its intentional, its more, a kind of devotion, persistence, forgiving, putting others before yourself, respecting, endurance etc etc.
Its definitely not a Cinderella tale , so and so ''happily lived ever after''. Nope! love is a work everyday.
Misshome
Jul 22, 2015, 04:27 PM
Yes, I can proudly say that! Bcos I am married to the one I Love <3 and I am in Love with him every single day :), even in the hard times of my life.
The reason we can say that 'its not love' because we have been in that stage where you are and felt the same feeling as you are doing and I am sure everybody had that experience. But as we grow things starts to make more sense.
Love is not emotion, its intentional, its more, a kind of devotion, persistence, forgiving, putting others before yourself, respecting, endurance etc etc.
Its definitely not a Cinderella tale , so and so ''happily lived ever after''. Nope! love is a work everyday.
Just Curious.. is it the man you said whom you meet online, was married 3 times and had a steady Girl Friend? Hope not. Best of luck.
Precious7
Jul 22, 2015, 04:27 PM
Just Curious.. is it the man you said whom you meet online, was married 3 times and had a steady Girl Friend? Hope not. Best of luck.
I don't understand, what do you mean by this.
When did I say that? Why are you Lying?
That totally sound desperate by the way.
Homegirl 50
Jul 22, 2015, 04:27 PM
How old are you?
I don't think you could handle love if you found it, You seem to like drama.
Misshome
Jul 22, 2015, 04:29 PM
Updates..
Today I had few running with him... online of course! It was fun.. and I must say,
He helped me in my darkest times. He even lend me Money from Far a way.
We live in two separate Continent. He cares for me Big time. We do not talk over phone anymore though.. But, I felt today we had something.. It had to be him. He knows me through my Bone than anyone ever knew but my MOM.
So many loved me but no one understood me unlike him. That is why he is so special. I can tell him anything. I am not afraid of him nor I even scare to tell him anything I want. It is that, I afraid to Lose him.. I don't want that. Besides I don't want to be in between his relationship too ! No updates with his GF.
It is him that I use online though. We had a Bond of Truce. We do not lied to each other. Every time I think about him, I felt really happy. His jokes cracks me up a lot. FYI.. he never said that, he loves me though. I am happy today we had a fight. That is true me. I love all kind of arguments.. . He is very Smart too!
Cat1864
Jul 22, 2015, 06:29 PM
This will be harsh.
Updates..
Today I had few running with him... online of course! It was fun.. and I must say,
He helped me in my darkest times. He even lend me Money from Far a way.
We live in two separate Continent. He cares for me Big time. We do not talk over phone anymore though.. But, I felt today we had something.. It had to be him. He knows me through my Bone than anyone ever knew but my MOM.
So many loved me but no one understood me unlike him. That is why he is so special. I can tell him anything. I am not afraid of him nor I even scare to tell him anything I want. It is that, I afraid to Lose him.. I don't want that. Besides I don't want to be in between his relationship too ! No updates with his GF.
It is him that I use online though. We had a Bond of Truce. We do not lied to each other. Every time I think about him, I felt really happy. His jokes cracks me up a lot. FYI.. he never said that, he loves me though. I am happy today we had a fight. That is true me. I love all kind of arguments.. . He is very Smart too!
What happened to the 'void' in your heart?
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/void-heart-814127.html
I am beginning to think you are, at best, using him to fill a void. At worst, you are playing games with us.
I think you need to stop baiting him into getting mad and fighting. That isn't love. It is manipulation to get what you want. Very immature behavior and very dangerous.
Just because you think you know the person he portrays on-line and at a great distance doesn't mean you know the real person. For all you know, he could be taking his anger out on the people who are close to him. Do you like the thought of possibly causing him to abuse his girlfriend or other people? You aren't there so how would you know?
J_9
Jul 22, 2015, 06:35 PM
Personally I think we are being played. In another thread she has a potential lawsuit worth hundreds of millions of dollars.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/criminal-law/file-law-suit-814384.html
Precious7
Jul 22, 2015, 06:50 PM
Wow! Thanks for letting us know!
smoothy
Jul 22, 2015, 07:01 PM
Good grief... I think someone needs to go back on their meds.
Misshome
Jul 28, 2015, 10:02 AM
Good grief... I think someone needs to go back on their meds...
Oh my ! You sound like my Room mates Overseas husband ! He speaks to her like that. Man.. She to get even is sleeping with a Good Muslim Man from a Local mosque.. She is regular on her med.
This will be harsh.
What happened to the 'void' in your heart?
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/void-heart-814127.html
I am beginning to think you are, at best, using him to fill a void. At worst, you are playing games with us.
I think you need to stop baiting him into getting mad and fighting. That isn't love. It is manipulation to get what you want. Very immature behavior and very dangerous.
Just because you think you know the person he portrays on-line and at a great distance doesn't mean you know the real person. For all you know, he could be taking his anger out on the people who are close to him. Do you like the thought of possibly causing him to abuse his girlfriend or other people? You aren't there so how would you know?
Well.. The VOID is there. And I did not wanted to use him to fill the VOID. I have no contacts with the VOID Man. I saw him yesterday, as he came to drop off his mistress in the neighborhood.
The non-VOID man.. I really fallen for him. I told you all.. my fear.. he would not like me anymore after my Baggage. I am a JAIL BIRD.
Personally I think we are being played. In another thread she has a potential lawsuit worth hundreds of millions of dollars.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/criminal-law/file-law-suit-814384.html
Not at all... this has nothing to do with the other thread. You have read VOID. I saw Mr. VOID last night drooping his mistress off in the neighborhood.
Homegirl 50
Jul 28, 2015, 11:35 AM
Like I said, "drama". Some people are addicted to it.
Oliver2011
Jul 28, 2015, 11:52 AM
Amen Homegirl. Not me, not now, and not ever. Life is so much more pleasant without it.
J_9
Jul 28, 2015, 11:54 AM
Oh Lord!
tickle
Jul 28, 2015, 01:04 PM
I have never had a Mr. VOID.
aliseaodo
Jul 29, 2015, 09:37 AM
Personally I think we are being played. In another thread she has a potential lawsuit worth hundreds of millions of dollars.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/criminal-law/file-law-suit-814384.html
Just thought I would mention - in the same post J_9 brought up there is a reference by the OP to her spouse... hmm
... He was a Supervisor of my spouse. My spouse does not speak Spanish....
J_9
Jul 29, 2015, 09:44 AM
Just thought I would mention - in the same post J_9 brought up there is a reference by the OP to her spouse... hmm
... He was a Supervisor of my spouse. My spouse does not speak Spanish....
Goos call! Looks like we all missed that!
Homegirl 50
Jul 29, 2015, 10:20 AM
She says in the other post she has a spouse. I have no clue what the other stuff is she was talking about. I think we have a troll here.