View Full Version : Bad relationship with my mom
aishatbh95
Jul 16, 2015, 06:50 PM
I don't have a good relationship with my mom. Sometimes we ignore each other for weeks while we live under the same roof. I can't even talk about the simplest things with her because it will lead to a quarrel. She ignores me now three weeks. I tried to talk to her, but she acts like I'm invisible. My brother(16 years old) is always in trouble and she doesn't make a catastrophe about it. As long as I can remember, she never told me that she loves me of cares about me (Now I sound like a 3 years old child) But I know she does. I have a good relationship with my dad and I can talk to him about everything. Now I'm 20 and I wish we had a decent relationship. Frankly , I fear what will happen if our relationship continues like this. I can't imagine of think my life without her although our relationship isn't that good.
smoothy
Jul 16, 2015, 07:07 PM
Let me guess... there is a lot more to this than you are telling us. I'm guessing like a lot of very young people... living at home at your parents expense... at 18 you think you are automatically equals and nobody can tell you anything... and you talk AT your mother than TO her.
Sorry, but you MUST defer respect to her because she is your mother, and you are living in her home at her expense. If she was such a mean person... she could have thrown you out of the house when you turned 18. She is under no obligation to give you a place to live, feed or clothe you at this point.
Also... time to grow up... your brother is a minor... YOU are an adult and are expected to behave as one. You are not acting like one using that old... "....we Jimmy can do it and that's not fair....." argument. Life's not fair and everyone isn't going to be treated absolutely equally... and never will be.
Talk with your dad and find out what you did and are doing wrong that's upsetting your mother... then work on stopping to do it.
Do you have a job yet... a real job and not a part time one? Its obvious you aren't a full time college student. So you should be working and at least offering your parents money in exchange for what they have been offering you.
I do hope that at 20 you are not loafing around the house... staying out late and sleeping in until noon and not doing your fair share of chores.
There is something you aren't telling us... or at least isn't apparent to you.
talaniman
Jul 17, 2015, 10:46 AM
How long has it been this way? What has your dad said about your mom's behavior?
joypulv
Jul 17, 2015, 12:25 PM
Your writing style has a tiny hint of being from a country of culture where girls live at home well past 18?