I Really really want to loose some weight , as I'm worried my boyfriend will leave me for some-one slimmer and I really don't want that to happen is there anyway I could loose a few pounds quick!

If your boyfriend leaves you for someone slimmer, then he didn't deserve you anyway. Don't slim for this reason, slim to be healthier.

How can I do that though I've tried so hard and I give up half way threw and give in to temptation of chocolate

Will power ;)
Besides if your boyfriend does that proves how shallow he is...

Do it for you, not for him...

Exercise - walking is good...
And control your diet.
Eat lots of fruit and veg.

How tall are you?

I think I'm like 5ft5 or 5ft4

Control your diet, and do exercise and I'm sure you can achieve your ideal weight.
But do it for you and no one else ;)

Thanks for your help , I also want to no if I am obeast?

You can check here;

Body mass index - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_mass_index)

But as above, don't lose weight for anyone but you! They're not worth it if they make you feel you have to!

Hi there, hope your well.

Two things spring to mind here.

1. If a person is with someone and loves them, what would happen if the person has an injury which affects there appearance. Would they leave the person. WOULD YOU ? It is true that looks initially atract us to a person, but looks alone make for a very shallow relationship. It is a combination of looks and personality, how they treat you.

Now it is your decision if you wish to be with someone who is shallow ! (see the film shallow hall).

2. The body is like a car, it only needs so much fuel to run day to day. Any excess fuel will increase the weight of the car and reduce performance. Therefore only eat the amount of fuel that you need for each day.
Crash diets don't work, Reduce your intake (smaller portion, eat little amounts but often to give your body constant fuel without feeling hungry and binge eating) Also increase your energy output by exercise. (just like a car, if you work the car harder it uses more fuel, if your not topping it up, it will use the fuel in its tank, i.e. the excess fuel stored in your body).

I don't no how much I weight in pounds though or in kilograms

So what do you weigh in stones and we can work it out there's a great thing on Google that will do it for you.

I weight 10 stone 7 pounds

So you are around 133 pounds in weight

Oh my god that's really bad :(

Bad compared to what?

Just really bad I feel fat :( reallly need to go on a diet

Yikes how old are you?

15

Wouldn't starvation do the job?

Don't even think about doing anything silly like that you will just make yourself extreamly ill.
The key is exercise and not eating crap food

How long would it take me to get down to about 10 stone?

A few weeks you just have to burn off the fat go get on a bike and pedal like the clappers round the park go for a run stop eating junk like chocolate and crisps and mcdonalds.

Thanks a lot for your advice :D

Go get healthy and eat good things your by no means fat or obease but no one needs to fill up on junk it doesn't do you anygood in the long run hugs xx

First of all you are beautiful as you are. You should never change yourself for anyone, your already slim! He's more than likely not going to be there forever anyway.
If he really loves you then you will be accepted as you are.
And if he respects you, other girls (in a sexual way) would pretty much be non existent!
Never doubt yourself in a relationship.

Hank you so much your all a great help :D

Thank*

I Really really want to loose some weight , as im worried my bf will leave me for some-one slimmer and i really dont want that to happen is there anyway i could loose a few pounds quick!
U shouldn't lose weight just for him he proberly loves you the way you r

All right, here's the deal

At 15 years old, you're going to naturally obsess over everything that's wrong with your body, everybody does. This is the point where you're starting to enter a new developmental phase and all that touchy feely growth crap I don't feel like talking about - here's the long story short: You'll reach a point when you're happy with the way you look. You might like it now, you might like it in 3 years when your cup size increases magically because somebody upstairs loves you.

You'd do well to stop obsessing over the way you look, because the ability to be happy with yourself is ultimately what determines your capability of being in a relationship. If you live in the constant fear of being left for somebody better than you, you're basically inviting that to come to your door. Figure out what's going to make you happy and do it.

I've got a good relationship , n I like everyfin about myself accept from my stomach I hate it so much sometimes I can look good and other times it makes me feel despressed that's the only thing I really really want to change

Okay here's the deal. I know that celebrities and the media have been pushing this thin stuff for a few years now. But let's face reality right now.


This is not sexy to a guy.
http://www.fiftysomethingwomen.com/wp-content/uploads/skinny.jpg

This is not hot to a guy.
http://www.stephenhyun.com/photos/anorexic2pl.jpg

No guy finds this appealing.
http://www.legendsofamerica.com/photos-ghosts/VerySkinnyWoman.jpg

That's disgusting to look at and truth be told I'd rather have a girlfriend overweight then underweight. Did your boyfriend actually say something or are you just looking at the media and what there promoting? Because from your photo you look fine to me and I don't see any reason to lose weight.

This is Renee Zellwegger, and I admit I've heard her name but have no idea what she stars in as I don't follow the Hollywood scene but know for a fact that she looks 1000 times better with more weight then she does with less.

http://windowmanager.blogspot.com/uploaded_images/renee_zellweger-726260.jpg

No he hasn't said anything to me but when I see him looking at other thin girls that's what worries me I feel the need to have to be skinny

Aah, us men just look at other women all the time, we don't mean anything by it, it's just the way our heads are programmed!

(I've got a mate who's short-sighted and he actually SQUINTS at women! Scary! Lol!)

Don't you check out other lads when you're around town or out with your mates?

First of all, I mostly agree with the posts about you losing weight only for healthy reasons and yourself, and I really doubt your boyfriend will leave you because of that unless he is really shallow.
Secondly; not to be rude or anything but the diet advice you have received here is not really that great. When I was 15 I all of the sudden gained a lot of weight and ended up with 180 pounds. Today I am taller and weight 160 and is mostly muscular ( I am 5 11). If you want to lose weight you have many choices. I have read somewhere the Atkins diet is the best but I am not sure about your eating habits. What I did ( I am not sure about what you have to do for an Atkins diet or any other but this is what I did) was and you will basically will have to 1) replace most of your foods with protein and possibly try to eat a little bit less but don't starve 2) You will have to lift weights (believe you are not going to gain muscle form this, you will have to eat far more protein and more food to gain muscle. The reason behind this is because when you lose fat tissue you lose muscle tissue as well and you don't want that) 3) Most importantly, you will have to do some cardio; ( ride a bicycle) try to do this at least for an hour, burning 300 calories a day will help but you might have to build your endurance up to that.
Now, don't take it from me and do some Google about diets and healthy habits and do what fits you the best.

Corse I check out other lads but I do it on the sly so my boyfriend doesn't see :D, I don't let my jaw drop like boys do

Women are from mars and men are from venus!

Women are from a place much further away and stranger than Venus, believe you me.

I'll be honest... I prefer a woman who has more curves on her because of her weight, i.e.. Not too skinny, in fact, not really skinny at all more like what chuff described on the last pictures of Renee Zellwegger. The first one, she looks very attractive and sexy if you don't mind me using this term. In the second one, she still looks attractive but not as sexy and I swear it is to do with her having less weight... Seriously!

Most men like to see a woman who is slightly fuller than as the celebrities make out you should look like. Skinny is not attractive as chuff has pointed out.

Love is about accepting others for who they are and if he loves you, he will accept you. Besides, I doubt there is any truth to you being overweight at all, and my thoughts tell me he is probably happy with the way you are. If he isn't then he is not worth it!!

By the way, we all come in different shapes and sizes and all of us are equal and have equal worth... You must remember that, ALWAYS!

If you want to lose weight as Capuchin said in his first response, do it for the right reasons, to be healthy.

Hey Chuff... Renee Zellwegger starred in those movies, Bridget Jones's Diary.. You have to see it, good comedy..

Renee Zellwegger starred in those movies, Bridget Jones's Diary..You have to see it, good comedy..

Yeah, that's what she... 'bulked up' for! I think she looks far better in those films (and they are pretty funny!) than she does now!

Although she does look like she's sucking on a lemon most of the time!

Hey Chuff... Renee Zellwegger starred in those movies, Bridget Jones's Diary..You have to see it, good comedy..

I suppose I can give it a try. I just find it hard to sit through movies for some reason. If a plot doesn't grab me right away, I start picking apart the movie, the acting, the plot holes, the lack of consistency in the story, and start predicting the end. I actually annoy people doing that, several years ago, I was watching the Bone collector and 11 minutes in I predicted the murderer, the motive, and the conclusion of the movie, then fell asleep. When I woke up the movie was over and everyboby else that was watching was furious with me, because I nailed everything. It was one of my crowning moments knowing they sat through it and I slept through it and still figured it out.

Just yesterday, I sat through The Black Dahlia. I could sit here for days writing about the plot holes in that story. That being said I do enjoy a good comedy, and that's my favorite type of movie so I'll give it a shot.

I suppose I can give it a try. I just find it hard to sit through movies for some reason. If a plot doesn't grab me right away, I start picking apart the movie, the acting, the plot holes, the lack of consistency in the story, and start predicting the end. I actually annoy people doing that, several years ago, I was watching the Bone collector and 11 minutes in I predicted the murderer, the motive, and the conclusion of the movie, then fell asleep. When I woke up the movie was over and everyboby else that was watching was furious with me, because I nailed everything.

Forget the plot and just focus on Renee.. LOL

no he hasnt said anythin to me but when i see him lookin at other thin girls thats what worries me i feel the need to have to be skinny

Well your still a teenager, so he's looking at other girls because his hormones are raging. Even if this relationship doesn't last forever (and given your age, that could be a possibility) he's not going to dump you because your not a certain weight. If he does then that would mean he's more concerned about cometic appearances and not your emotional, mental, and physical health. Is that someone you want to spend your time with?

Sometimes guys look at girls that are skinny and say to themselves "Why doesn't the girl eat something." Just because he's looking at skinny girls doesn't mean he's thinking "I've got to get me some of that boney skeleton girl." In fact I think I'm the first guy that's ever said that, and I said it just now to make a point that no guy thinks like that. I would not worry about this at all, in fact if anything all it's going to do is make you start being stressed out, which in turn will stress him out and the relationship and it will all be over nothing.

Yeah true , we have lasted like 15-16 months and its only recentley I've started worrying about my weight for some reason :S

chuff agrees: I think men are from Earth and women are from Venus!
LOL
There is no better place then venus :p

yeh true , we have lasted like 15-16 months and its only recentley ive started worrying about my weight for some reason :S

Maybe your getting over the "honeymoon period" and not starting to settle in the relationship and as a result your bringing in some unnessary drama. This weight thing might just be a cover or the excuse to bring something new into the relationship, even if it's not healthy for you or the relationship, it's something different.

chuff agrees: I think men are from Earth and women are from Venus!
LOL
there is no better place then venus :p

Yeah I'm sure Venus is beautiful but your on Earth now so why do you women continue to act like you from another world!

Forget the plot and just focus on Renee..LOL

Trust me it's not that easy for me. I just saw Scarlett Johenson yesterday in the Black Dahlia, and although she's incredibly beautiful (and by the way she's not skinny so think about that) all I could think was "Your like 21 years old and this part should be of somebody in their 30's. And don't get me started on Josh Hartnett (sp?) who was playing a homicide detective who in my mind should be at least 40 or older. It just came off so fake watching these who both look like teenagers playing these roles. Plus the plot holes were incredibly huge. Like bigger than most movies I sit through.

Yeah I'm sure Venus is beautiful but your on Earth now so why do you women continue to act like you from another world!


Who's "acting":D?

Yeah I'm sure Venus is beautiful but your on Earth now so why do you women continue to act like you from another world!

Am I? :cool:

Am i?! :cool:

I don't know, that's why it's so confusing to guys.

No tjhat is a really good weight. It Is healthy!

Yes the better the food the better the weight loss. Eat healthier, exercise more. Try working out at a gym. As for your weight, you are in the normal (healthy) zone. You do not want to get underweight. Starvation would give you constant fainting!