Gibblets
Apr 9, 2007, 06:42 PM
I've had my ups and downs with dating since recovering from a break-up from a long-term relationship about a year ago. I recently met a beautiful and smart "nice girl" through a friend and we totally hit it off on our first official date last night.
Compared to the bar trash I've been hooking up with and casually dating, this girl has serious potential. I like sweet and down-to-earth girls who aren't materialistic or vain... she fits the description. She looks a lot like Natalie Portman and has this quiet but confident and sweet demeanor about her... I was sort of swept by her personality and looks.
We met up for some food and a Japenese restaurant and the whole time we were talking, leaning into each other and making serious eye contact. She offered me some of her salmon. I paid for the meal and asked if she'd like to walk around the area. So we're walking and talking and we sit down outside and she says "I want to know all about you" and we start asking some more serious questions like past relationships, etc. I told her about my ex and she told me about a 3-year relationship she had over a year ago as well.
We're both kind of in the same boat... kinda struggling to find a good girl/guy in the bar scene so it was like a fresh breath of air for the both of us. I asked her if she'd like to get dessert and a coffeeshop and she put her arm in mine and kind of snuggled her head into my shoulder and said that I was cuddly or something. After some more conversation over cheesecake, I walked her to the subway stop and she gave me a kiss on the cheek and said "you're a decent human being...call me sometime." lol.
I feel like I've found a girl who I can really let my defenses down and get to know and treat her with respect. I'd like to turn this into a new relationship because a girl like her is so few and far between but I don't want my anxiety to get the better of me.
I know people and I've read on here what happens when you rush. Rushing is never a good thing and it only makes you look desperate and needy/clingy or whatever. But feeling like this has gotten me spun around and even though I can type this stuff, I'm not sure if I can actually do it.
I want to take her dancing sat night or maybe ice skating Sunday afternoon but I'm afraid that's too soon since we already saw each other last night. But I'm 23 and she's 25 and I'm pretty sure this isn't like high school anymore and things can move faster.
(FYI, I met my girlfriend in high school and we dated/broke up when we were at college)
Please help and tell me how a man with his head straight should act because my head is spinning!
Compared to the bar trash I've been hooking up with and casually dating, this girl has serious potential. I like sweet and down-to-earth girls who aren't materialistic or vain... she fits the description. She looks a lot like Natalie Portman and has this quiet but confident and sweet demeanor about her... I was sort of swept by her personality and looks.
We met up for some food and a Japenese restaurant and the whole time we were talking, leaning into each other and making serious eye contact. She offered me some of her salmon. I paid for the meal and asked if she'd like to walk around the area. So we're walking and talking and we sit down outside and she says "I want to know all about you" and we start asking some more serious questions like past relationships, etc. I told her about my ex and she told me about a 3-year relationship she had over a year ago as well.
We're both kind of in the same boat... kinda struggling to find a good girl/guy in the bar scene so it was like a fresh breath of air for the both of us. I asked her if she'd like to get dessert and a coffeeshop and she put her arm in mine and kind of snuggled her head into my shoulder and said that I was cuddly or something. After some more conversation over cheesecake, I walked her to the subway stop and she gave me a kiss on the cheek and said "you're a decent human being...call me sometime." lol.
I feel like I've found a girl who I can really let my defenses down and get to know and treat her with respect. I'd like to turn this into a new relationship because a girl like her is so few and far between but I don't want my anxiety to get the better of me.
I know people and I've read on here what happens when you rush. Rushing is never a good thing and it only makes you look desperate and needy/clingy or whatever. But feeling like this has gotten me spun around and even though I can type this stuff, I'm not sure if I can actually do it.
I want to take her dancing sat night or maybe ice skating Sunday afternoon but I'm afraid that's too soon since we already saw each other last night. But I'm 23 and she's 25 and I'm pretty sure this isn't like high school anymore and things can move faster.
(FYI, I met my girlfriend in high school and we dated/broke up when we were at college)
Please help and tell me how a man with his head straight should act because my head is spinning!