I recently met a guy out and we had amazing sex. He told me he had a gf but wasn't in love with her. He is working in my city for 5 weeks. Anyway he begged me for my number and I did agree. I left my jacket in his hotel so we initially agreed to meet up to get it as he said he felt guilty and couldn't do it again but unfortunately we did and we continued texting for the rest of the week.

He went home on Friday but was texting me all day whilst she was out. I was going out with friends on the Friday night and he changed his attitude completely, saying he thought I had been out enough, and that he loved his gf and hated me for what he did and blamed me for it all, and was basically really nasty and horrible and he had perfect relationship. Now surely if he was that happy he wouldn't have cheated with me would he? Especially as 2nd time we weren't drunk. I just don't understand why he was fine till I mentioned I was going out and he kept asking me if I was jealous of his wife and again when I said no he turned nasty? Why is he so jealous and why does he want me to be jealous of him. I purely thought of it as a bit of fun and please note I know it's wrong and I don't intend seeing him again but he has always made first contact with me and initiated things first.

Why is he being like this?

Why would you care and why would you think about ever speaking to him. Most don't show their true colors this early. Consider yourself blessed. Plus he's a cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Cheaters need the excitement of cheating. Do yourself an enormous favor and stop communication with the nutball. Get to know someone first before immediately jumping into the sack.

Delete, ignore, and do not respond. He is a manipulative liar who wants what he wants and blames others for his mistakes. Why give any thought to what he says now that you know what he is?

I will be honest that I do not believe that you understand just how wrong what you did was. This is advice for the future. The second you found out he was in a committed relationship with someone else you should have walked away. It doesn't matter if he says he doesn't love her or any other excuse cheaters give. Do not stick around long enough to decide if you believe him or not. If he is telling you that he is lying to her, guess what? He will not tell you the truth.

Have more respect for yourself than to play games with men who won't think twice about telling you lies. If they will lie about their relationship status, they will lie about their health and everything else.

Remember that birth control is not one hundred percent effective. All it does is reduce the chance of pregnancy. Don't allow your hormones or endorphins to put you in the position of having to make a decision that affects not only your life but a potential one.

I believe you basically answered your own question by writing it was just fun for you. I would cut out all ties and not answer texts or calls. He also seems like an insecure person and definitely has issues, especially when cheating on his wife.

Why is he so jealous and why does he want me to be jealous of him.

He is a nut with issues.


I purely thought of it as a bit of fun and please note I know it's wrong and I don't intend seeing him again but he has always made first contact with me and initiated things first.

Its useless applying logic to a NUT! Doesn't matter he kept coming at you, you kept letting him. You had your fun now get this nut out of your life and watch who you have your fun with in the future. Honestly what did you expect when you have casual sex with strangers? That they wouldn't be strange?


Why is he being like this?

He is a nut with jealousy issues. No telling what issues the next one has. Oh yes, you will run into more nuts because its all a bit of fun to you.

You're asking relationship questions about a one-night stand. Okay, one night plus what, an afternoon? You knew it was short-term at the start, what does it matter? Or were you wanting to do the home wrecker thing? I would echo the "delete, ignore, and move on" advice.