My boyfriend and I have been in relationship for 1 and half year. He is 22 this year and I'm 21 and studying whereas he starts working this year. He told me that I changed his life a lot and opened his eyes to look his, his family and my future. But then, when he started working, almost everyday he works, like 6am-6.30pm and 7pm-12am (his part time job). He said he wants to earn more. He promised me to spend time but then day by day, I’m not receiving his calls and texts. I asked him to at least call me or send me a text, but then only at night before he sleeps he will send me good night, or sometimes he will call. I will cry and ask him to spend time with me as I was sick for few weeks and he even never call or text to ask my condition. He asked me to understand his situation that he is working for him and his family and he must work for his family too because his dad had just retired. He is not that well to do family, so he must work to make me happy. That is his answer when every time I ask to spend time with me, but then, I feel so hurt and alone when he does all this.

I know he is doing a right thing but I just want to spend time with my lover, and go for a date like other couples too. He told me his life will change and he can earn and spend money that he earned after 3 years, so he asked me to wait 3 years. I fell hurt when he has time for his friends, and go out with his family. We just meet like 3 times till now only, and every time when I asked him to meet me, he will reply busy. Sometimes I will fight with him because its like nothing between us (no calls, no text nothing from him).

HELP ME, WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Really simple to see you are not a priority at this time in his life, and won't be for 3 years, so decide what's best for you. Honestly, you let him go, and enjoy yourself with someone who makes you a priority as you build a life that you enjoy without him.

Then you can see how you feel in 3 years.

Talaniman Rule-Never get stuck on someone thats not as stuck on YOU!

Talaniman Rule-Never make someone a priority in your life while they make you an option in theirs!

You are so in love you think, and want his attention, yet he has no time for you. You can fight and argue all you want with him, but that doesn't help your dignity, and self respect, or get you a call, text, or date does it? Think about it, because that's exactly what the next 3 years will be like.

You need to read and re-read the above post and ask yourself, does it apply to me?
Why keep hurting yourself for the next 3 years, and wind up with nothing? Move on.

Who's to say 3 years won't turn out to be longer? Who knows what will happen tomorrow, let alone 3 years from now? What if things get worse or he changes his mind about you all together in 3 years?Are you really going to hold on to a vague promise like that? You guys are young and no matter how real or intense things seem now, chances are it will not last. Nothing is concrete in life, let alone at this stage in life. Muster up your remaining dignity, some courage and let this go. Realize that this is not a healthy relationship. In this time in life you need to grow together and build a life together. Notice I say "together". Its not a team right now, it's all about him and you are not his priority. You just are not. He could love you but its not working. Why not have some courage to break free, not be dependent and stay present in his life if you want as a friend or someone who cares but not in a relationship. There is no room for that. Have enough self respect to know you are not being treated right either.