Agent5801
Nov 11, 2014, 08:03 PM
I have been friends with Mike for 12 years. This all started when I got him a job teaching at a college. Although he didn't ask for it, there was a spot open, and since he is a teacher, I asked if he was interested. He said yes and I went above and beyond in recommending him to my supervisor, who I also developed a friendship with during my time working there.
From the first day he started, he was extremely assertive in meetings, as well as always had to show that he is the smartest guy in the room. This began to rub people the wrong way, as well as my supervisor. I would hear certain things about him and let Mike know that certain feelings were being expressed about him. Mike kept stressing how unhappy he was with my supervisor and even felt that someone was trying to sabotage him. I though he was a little unreasonable, because he was looking to put blame on everyone else rather than look at himself. Keep in mind that Mike and I have been talking everyday for since he was hired and sharing our feelings and gossip about the job.
One day, my supervisor let me know that someone left a letter in her faculty mailbox which expressed that she is not a good supervisor. She told me to keep it under my hat, as she did not want the rest of the faculty to hear about it. Shortly after, Mike and I went out for dinner, and I made the mistake of telling him, but expressed to him that he must keep it to himself.
I was in my supervisors office and something was said to me about someone coming up with a great idea. To be honest, Mike first expressed that idea in a meeting, which I tried reminding my supervisor of, but she dismissed it and gave someone else the credit. Not long after this, Mike was getting frustrated with how he felt he was being treated and decided to have a conversation with the supervisor. A week goes by and my supervisor invites me my girlfriend over for dinner. While there, she wanted to clear the air of any bad talk that has been going on in the department. I expressed to her that I am fine and if she is having issues with anyone else, she should have a conversation with them.
A few weeks go by and I do not hear form Mike, nor do I reach out to him. I speak to him today and ask if everything is alright. He then begins to explain that all I was causing a wedge between him and the supervisor, which is why he was upset with me. I try to explain to him that I went out of my way to recommend him for a job that he took, so it made no sense for me to try and cause a wedge, as I brought him into the job. His response was that things sometimes change. I told him he is ridiculous to think that. He then went on saying that he did talk to the supervisor and cleared things up. He even told me that he brought up the letter to her. When I asked why he did that after I told him not to say anything about it, his response was just a shrug and telling me that the cat is out of the bag and it doesn't matter.
Why would my friend think that I am causing a wedge when I went out of my way to make sure he was offered the job, as well as divulge information that I told him in confidence, which now makes me look bad to my supervisor?
Just an FYI, I found out that in his other job he is known for causing drama, and that what happened here is not out of the ordinary, according to my sources.
From the first day he started, he was extremely assertive in meetings, as well as always had to show that he is the smartest guy in the room. This began to rub people the wrong way, as well as my supervisor. I would hear certain things about him and let Mike know that certain feelings were being expressed about him. Mike kept stressing how unhappy he was with my supervisor and even felt that someone was trying to sabotage him. I though he was a little unreasonable, because he was looking to put blame on everyone else rather than look at himself. Keep in mind that Mike and I have been talking everyday for since he was hired and sharing our feelings and gossip about the job.
One day, my supervisor let me know that someone left a letter in her faculty mailbox which expressed that she is not a good supervisor. She told me to keep it under my hat, as she did not want the rest of the faculty to hear about it. Shortly after, Mike and I went out for dinner, and I made the mistake of telling him, but expressed to him that he must keep it to himself.
I was in my supervisors office and something was said to me about someone coming up with a great idea. To be honest, Mike first expressed that idea in a meeting, which I tried reminding my supervisor of, but she dismissed it and gave someone else the credit. Not long after this, Mike was getting frustrated with how he felt he was being treated and decided to have a conversation with the supervisor. A week goes by and my supervisor invites me my girlfriend over for dinner. While there, she wanted to clear the air of any bad talk that has been going on in the department. I expressed to her that I am fine and if she is having issues with anyone else, she should have a conversation with them.
A few weeks go by and I do not hear form Mike, nor do I reach out to him. I speak to him today and ask if everything is alright. He then begins to explain that all I was causing a wedge between him and the supervisor, which is why he was upset with me. I try to explain to him that I went out of my way to recommend him for a job that he took, so it made no sense for me to try and cause a wedge, as I brought him into the job. His response was that things sometimes change. I told him he is ridiculous to think that. He then went on saying that he did talk to the supervisor and cleared things up. He even told me that he brought up the letter to her. When I asked why he did that after I told him not to say anything about it, his response was just a shrug and telling me that the cat is out of the bag and it doesn't matter.
Why would my friend think that I am causing a wedge when I went out of my way to make sure he was offered the job, as well as divulge information that I told him in confidence, which now makes me look bad to my supervisor?
Just an FYI, I found out that in his other job he is known for causing drama, and that what happened here is not out of the ordinary, according to my sources.