I am 18 right now. Studying in college. I cant seem to focus and get my works done. I always get motivated to finish up my work but when I start doing it, I will automatically go into LAZY mode and often feel really useless and not talented.

College is a difficult transition and given your age, I'm guessing you are in your freshman year, first semester. It can be overwhelming for a lot of people. Not only are you working at a more challenging level academically, but you have more free time to manage, and are more independent in having to structure your study time and methods. If you have gone away from home for college, this may be the first time you are living away from friends and family and home, the first time you are managing your own budget, doing your own laundry. And when you make that transition, you are also constantly stimulated with new people, more people than you're used to, eating different food in a different atmosphere - everything changes.

I recommend a couple of things. First, try to structure your study time so that you do something that gives you a sense of freedom and enjoyment before you study. If it can be physical, that's even better. For me, it worked well to swim laps because the silence allowed me to let my mind wander, and the exercise made it easier afterward for me to sit still and quiet to study. I would feel great but ready to relax - the perfect combination for studying.

The second thing I recommend is using your college counseling services because you might have a bit of depression, which is common and very treatable. You might just need a bit of help until you feel more at home with your new schedule and responsibilities and atmosphere and there's no shame in getting it.

Third, make sure that your life isn't all responsibilities. Make school your first priority, but if you know that afterwards you're meeting someone to hang out and watch a movie, or go for a walk, or meeting for coffee, that can help a lot.

Fourth, if you are not able to sit quietly and study, find an active way to study. Like, go through your book and make flashcards of key concepts - you can flip through them on a treadmill, or while you listen to music and dance around your room, or while you fold laundry. When I had extremely boring things to study, I used to make flashcards and would put on a high-interest TV show to entertain myself, and I worked on my flashcards every commercial. I had to have some entertainment or I couldn't force myself to pay attention to it. Or I'd make a game of it - like if I was bored learning about the explorers, I'd make a joke of it and say, "the most boring explorers, in order of boringness were..." then I'd find a way to weave a story out of the facts with a sense of humor. It was weird but I would amuse myself - and remember the material. I could still take that test now, and it's been 30 years. Hang in there!

You deleted a post about how no one cares about you or helps you, despite having family and friends. I answered it, so here it is anyway:

Friends and family are EVERYTHING to most of us. Love is all - I'm talking about warmth, sharing, caring, kind of love, not romantic.

The love you get is equal to the love you give.
Do you ask how people are, and mean it, and wait to see what might be troubling them?
Do you say nice things to them about how they look and sound and what you like about them?
Are you glad to see them?
When you have something to say, do you keep it short so the other person can say something too?

If not, then why should they be 'caring and helpful?' Go out today and practice being the one who makes the first effort to be caring and helpful, and report back in 4 or 5 hours.

I do help others when they needed it but when I need a help, they would simply throw an excuse on my face.

It sounds like you don't have a best friend, or 2 or 3 close friends. Did you in high school? Are you in college far from home, with all new people?

On the topic of support from others - here is what I can offer that has been meaningful for me:

- Most of the time, people who will help you will not be the same people you have helped. Don't expect support from people who are historically not very supportive.
- Family and friends often are not the right people to support us with our emotional needs. Particularly if our upset is with them, we might have to go outside that group and get help elsewhere. I am a firm believer in using counseling/therapy resources because they can offer a level of objectivity and non-judgmental advice that not only helps me with my problems but also teaches me more productive ways to deal with others who may not be operating in the best way in my relationship with them.
- People show care and concern in different ways. Pay attention and accept the love and support they give and don't fault them if it's different than what you need.
- Think about other people more than yourself. This isn't about being selfish - I doubt you are selfish. But when we think too much about ourselves, we loose perspective and can become too negative and it can be harmful to ourselves.

Here are some examples:
My Dad loves me. If I were to wait around waiting for him to hug or kiss me or say he loved me or tell me how wonderful I am, I'd be waiting until I turned to stone. It's not comfortable for him to do those things. But over the weekend, he came to my home and painted a bathroom. That was my Dad showing me that he loves me. He will never sit and talk to me about my feelings, or rehash old family hurts with me - not his comfort zone. So I do that with a therapist, and with my Dad - I pick paint colors and enjoy my time with him.

Another example - I have a friend who is a hoarder. I've helped her countless times to clean her home. She had a hard time with me knowing about the condition of her home and she ended our friendship. She said a lot of nasty things about me. I could take all her comments to heart, or I could recognize that my friend has a mental illness and she does love me. She's embarrassed. I need to leave her alone for a while, and when the time is right, I will reach out to her. If she bites again, I might have to be done. But there is no point internalizing all the mean things she said - she was just lashing out because she's hurting, and it's not about me.

Accept what people offer you with gratitude, and if you are hurting psychologically or emotionally, get counseling. You will learn how to provide these needs for yourself. What ends up happening in the end is that you can have closer and richer relationships with other people because your needs are largely met by yourself, so you can just genuinely be grateful for and enjoy the blessing of what they do offer - whether just a sense of humor, or a shared interest. When we are able to stand on our own in these needs, we are free to build deeper bonds built on something a lot richer and more fun than painful experiences and hard feelings.