I have been married for 15 years. We finally bought a home, a big house both our names are on it. I was either real stupid or real sweet for moving his parents in, and not to mention his son, who just eats, sleeps all day, parties all night, and who doesnt pay any bills. Then my mother in law, the meanest women you will ever meet. Anyways, now because I asked to get a lil more help, I told my daughter to talk to her brother and maybe she will learn something. So as usual that got twisted around and the next thing I know he's saying he would rather kill me than pay me. He won't give me a debit card. I don't have his cards. Well my name is on them but my mother in law keeps them hold up. So do I take all the money, or just half?

Please re-read your question. It makes no sense. I'm guessing English isn't your primary language.

Assuming you are in America, and both names on the house, he can not just get you out.

If you want a debit card, on a bank account that you are joint owner of, go to the bank and get one.

If you do not have bank account in your name, start working, get a job and make your own money.

He can not stop you from having a bank account, from working

I agree with J_9 a good part of your post is unintelligible. What I did get out of it is that your name is on the deed to the house. Also, since you are married he can't just throw you out. Since you are a part owner, he can't evict you either. He has to file for divorce and have the court force you out, which is unlikely.

If he threatens violence, call the police and have a restraining order placed on him which will mean he has to leave. If YOU file for divorce you can gain control of the accounts or force him to give you an allowance.

So do I take all the money, or just half?

Legally you can take it all since your name is on the accounts. What he does about it is a whole different issue. He can remove your name from the accounts rather easily, or worse, make good on his threats.

PS I edited your post as best as possible, so re read it and clarify any mistakes please.

You should only take the money if you are filing for divorce. If you want to try and reconcile, then taking the money would be a bad move. On the other hand, if he is planning on filing, then he can take the money. So you have some decisions to make.

... What I did get out of it is that your name is on the deed to the house. Also, since you are married he can't just throw you out. Since you are a part owner, he can't evict you either. He has to file for divorce and have the court force you out, which is unlikely. ...

By the same token, OP can't evict the mother-in-law or the step-son (which, reading between the lines, I gather she would like to do) either; because her husband is part owner.