Been having an affair with a married man for 7 years, I to am married. Is this just sex to him or does he care about me?

I'm sorry but what? That is so horrible! Tell your husband the truth!

Its Just sex not real care. If he cared, then he would have dared to come and be with you legally, rather than just fooling around and going back to home to his own legal wife. And vice versa.

Sex and love are separate issues with most men. One can go with the other, but they don't have to. For most women one is usually associated with the other.

Lot more sex than care on both your parts.

Yeah what they said and two other lives that are impacted by bad choices. It really is none of my business if you two want to be together. But it should be done after you are separated from your spouses. Ov vey!

Both of you, having an affair with each other, are morally bankrupt. I hope there are no children involved who will eventually be the collateral damage to your actions.

You lie and you cheat to your husband, and for 7 years, you have breeched your marriage vows too many times to count. You carry on without a care to consequences, loyalty, fidelity, honesty- to your husband. You don't express worry about how your affair has damaged your marriage, either now, or when your husband finally finds out, or what the fall out will be to any children involved- by both you and your lover.

I don't know what made you the person you are right now. But I have met women like you, who ignore all rules of boundaries, and could care less the damage that will ultimately ruin lives when it all comes down to the truth. And it will come down to the truth some day. You will be seen with your lover, or your husband will finally wise up- even by accident, or your lovers wife will begin to suspect, and the jig is up.

And to top it all off, none of the above concerns you. You are only concerned with your 7 year lover- if he cares for you? Is it just the sex?

Does it matter??

Had your lover wanted more from you than sex, and had you settled (and/or wanted more than sex), surely you would have taken steps to change the destructive path of your life- over 7 years.

I just can't believe that you would ask such a question, expecting serious answers, while you continue to cheat on your husband, with a man who continues to cheat on his wife.

You have zero credibility with me.

Only he knows what feelings he has ( if any) you may be just a sex time for him, or you may be the person he talks to and shares problems with.

If there were real feelings from both of you, you would both divorce and marry each other.

If there are feelings, then there is a void somewhere in your own marriage which needs to be addressed.

Having known many people, who marry for arrangements or marry for reasons other than love, affairs do happen, but often each want something. The problem often the partner in an affair is not honest with the other, about what their real needs are

You both are cheating on your spouses and you're concerned if he actually cares for you? Would that make a difference? Would it make you feel less guilty?

Just Sex.

Why are you going to him for sex? Does your partner know about this?