JacksonNYC
Sep 13, 2014, 09:08 PM
My girlfriend and I started dating about four months ago. Prior to this, we became friends about two years ago but lost contact only to reconnect early this year and eventually go into a relationship.
For a better understanding of the situation of things, I will be giving a lot of details so please bear with me if my post ends up too long.
When we met at first two years ago, she had a boyfriend who was out of town so I didn't ask her out however I invited her over to my place for a weekend and she came. In the course of her stay, I tried to have sex with her but she bluntly refused only allowing me to suck and play with her breast.
After the incidence at my place we lost contact for a long time only to reunite early this year and eventually go into a relationship shortly after.
Just 2 months into the relationship, the bond got stronger than any bond I have ever had with any woman. We realized we were deeply in love with each other.
Realizing how serious we were and how far we were willing to take the relationship, we decided we had to be honest with each other and keep no secrets.
In her honesty, she told me she had slept with 12 guys before me. One out of the 12 guys was her cousin whom she slept with twice when she was 18 claiming her first boyfriend whom she was dating was treating her unfairly and this cousin of hers (about 2 years younger than her) was giving her the care and attention she really needed. The 12 guys included guys she actually dated and ones she just had casual sex with for whatever reason but excluded guys that smooched her and sucked her breast (guys like me) whose number she said was even more than the number she had actual sex with. In addition to these, she also admitted to having slept with 3 girls one of whom she was really in love with.
She said having being with all those guys, she realized she didn't enjoy sex with guys and she got tired of the treatment she got from guys generally and at the same time, she realized she was getting more attracted to girls than guys hence the transition to lesbianism. Somewhere along the line she had a fight with her lesbian partner whom she said was always too imposing on her. Her partner got a boyfriend and she moved so they got separated.
Unwilling to jump into a relationship with any guy and in an effort to give up lesbianism, she decided to stay single until the right guy comes.
8 months after being single and sexually inactive, I came along and swept her off her feet and showed her the true meaning of love. Her perception of love has changed now, she has become a better person because of me and she says I'm the only guy she has ever enjoyed sex with (the only guy to make her besides her former lesbian lover) and that she doesn't want to lose me.
In the course of telling these stories, there were lots of emotional drama which in summary shows that she really really regrets what she's done in the past and wants me to try and forgive her of her past and take her for who she is now.
I love this girl as much as she loves me and really want to go further with her but I keep getting recurring pictures of her sexual history.
Even though she regrets her past and has sworn she ll never ever cheat on me or do anything that ll affect our relationship, I still find it difficult to not think about her past.
She also promised to give up the habit of visiting male friends (like she visited me) which she didn't really see as a big deal since she didn't necessarily have sex with the male friends she had the habit of visiting.
We have been on for about four months now, our love has grown stronger with every passing day and I don't bring up her past anymore yet I have been unable to completely let go of her past.
We are both 26 years old now and I have my own sexual history too but she doesn't really have a problem with it (probably because of the societal double standards that exist when it comes to gender and promiscuity)
I love this girl, she loves me too, we both fit the description of the kind of partners we wish to have and right now we are having the kind of relationship we always dreamed of but I'm still a bit unsettled so I thought I should come here for counsel.
I'm open to words of encouragement, criticism, advice, warning, tips etc I just want to hear other people's opinion on this.
Please excuse all grammatical errors.
Thanks.
For a better understanding of the situation of things, I will be giving a lot of details so please bear with me if my post ends up too long.
When we met at first two years ago, she had a boyfriend who was out of town so I didn't ask her out however I invited her over to my place for a weekend and she came. In the course of her stay, I tried to have sex with her but she bluntly refused only allowing me to suck and play with her breast.
After the incidence at my place we lost contact for a long time only to reunite early this year and eventually go into a relationship shortly after.
Just 2 months into the relationship, the bond got stronger than any bond I have ever had with any woman. We realized we were deeply in love with each other.
Realizing how serious we were and how far we were willing to take the relationship, we decided we had to be honest with each other and keep no secrets.
In her honesty, she told me she had slept with 12 guys before me. One out of the 12 guys was her cousin whom she slept with twice when she was 18 claiming her first boyfriend whom she was dating was treating her unfairly and this cousin of hers (about 2 years younger than her) was giving her the care and attention she really needed. The 12 guys included guys she actually dated and ones she just had casual sex with for whatever reason but excluded guys that smooched her and sucked her breast (guys like me) whose number she said was even more than the number she had actual sex with. In addition to these, she also admitted to having slept with 3 girls one of whom she was really in love with.
She said having being with all those guys, she realized she didn't enjoy sex with guys and she got tired of the treatment she got from guys generally and at the same time, she realized she was getting more attracted to girls than guys hence the transition to lesbianism. Somewhere along the line she had a fight with her lesbian partner whom she said was always too imposing on her. Her partner got a boyfriend and she moved so they got separated.
Unwilling to jump into a relationship with any guy and in an effort to give up lesbianism, she decided to stay single until the right guy comes.
8 months after being single and sexually inactive, I came along and swept her off her feet and showed her the true meaning of love. Her perception of love has changed now, she has become a better person because of me and she says I'm the only guy she has ever enjoyed sex with (the only guy to make her besides her former lesbian lover) and that she doesn't want to lose me.
In the course of telling these stories, there were lots of emotional drama which in summary shows that she really really regrets what she's done in the past and wants me to try and forgive her of her past and take her for who she is now.
I love this girl as much as she loves me and really want to go further with her but I keep getting recurring pictures of her sexual history.
Even though she regrets her past and has sworn she ll never ever cheat on me or do anything that ll affect our relationship, I still find it difficult to not think about her past.
She also promised to give up the habit of visiting male friends (like she visited me) which she didn't really see as a big deal since she didn't necessarily have sex with the male friends she had the habit of visiting.
We have been on for about four months now, our love has grown stronger with every passing day and I don't bring up her past anymore yet I have been unable to completely let go of her past.
We are both 26 years old now and I have my own sexual history too but she doesn't really have a problem with it (probably because of the societal double standards that exist when it comes to gender and promiscuity)
I love this girl, she loves me too, we both fit the description of the kind of partners we wish to have and right now we are having the kind of relationship we always dreamed of but I'm still a bit unsettled so I thought I should come here for counsel.
I'm open to words of encouragement, criticism, advice, warning, tips etc I just want to hear other people's opinion on this.
Please excuse all grammatical errors.
Thanks.