I have posted here before about my situation with a girl. I believe I have found out why she started to pull away from me even though I treated her very well. She moved to where we live now with her ex boyfriend, who I believe is still contacting her. They were broken up for a couple of months when we started to get involved. I don't think it ended well, but she never really told me, I just assume that moving to a new area then ending a reltionship can't be easy. Now, I started to sense that this girl was going to break my heart, so about a month ago I tried to break it off. She texted me non stop saying she didn't want me to ignore her. She called me over to her house and we made up for the time being. About a week later I decided once again that she was not going to put as much into the relationship as I was and wanted out. She once again showed up on my doorstep the next morning wanting to hang out all day. This same pattern continued at least two more times were she would see me slipping away and she would call me over or text me non stop saying I was putting her in a pickle. Last Saturday, she called me and told me she wanted to be just friends. I was hurt, because I would not have kept coming back if I knew she was going to do this to me. After a few days of ignoring her, with her noticeably upset about it, I caved and started to talk to her. On Wednesday I called her and met with her to apologize for trying to make her go into a relationship to fast after just getting out of a messy one.(She moved 1500 miles from her family to be with this jerk)
Her jaw dropped as I was talking to her. She had this amazed look on her face and asked me if I was all right. I told her that I didn't want to be selfish and all I wanted was for her to let me be good to her and do nice thing for her every once in a while. I hugged her and told her I didn't want to take up any more time of hers that night and left. She texted me about two hours later, saying" I don't know why you think I'm worth your effort." I responded by saying that she makes me happy and that nobodyelse can do that right now. We went on to text each other a few more messages, agreeing to go " go back to being happy and having fun". I saw her last night for a few minutes and we were friendly but nothing else occurred. Should I just be patient and give her time? I really like this girl and I know that she has feelings for me, because she won't let me move on. I don't want to start dating somebody else and hurt them if she is just going to run back to me in a month. How long should I give her to decide before I give up? Right now I am just kind of sitting in relationship pergatory!

Oh my gosh... you are in relationship pergatory! Sounds like it's time for you to figure out what YOU want. Once you know, go for it. But don't go for it until you know (not just believe, but truly know). Playing tug of war with hearts is not a nice thing to do.