So there's this pretty girl in gym class but I'm bad with girls. I'm in 7th grade and she's in 8th. So what should I do?

You should just keep being a kid and not worry about girls until you are older. You are only a kid once and you can't go back...so don't rush it.

I'm her age due to birthday problems in kindergarten I should be in 8th grade plus I really like her and were opasites kind of I only see

Unless she likes you, there is nothing you can do. At your ages you need to just be friends anyway.

You learn to talk to girls and be friendly.

That was helpful but I'm scared she will question why I'm talking to her because I'm in 7th grade

You tell her you are the same age. If she does not want to talk to you just because you're in 7th grade, she is not worth talking to in my opinion, but she may not even care and you won't know until you try.

That's helpful I really think I need to try this but what if I'm not man enough and please don't suggest notes I'm never going down that road again ( didn't work out last time ).

Relax guy just be friendly to her, other females and everybody. Just be your honest self and stop scaring yourself with what if's. Be natural, and don't worry how people react to you, that's THEIR problem isn't it? You can't make someone like you back like you like them anyway.

You need to relax. Not man enough, you're what 12/13.

You being a expert must know about the heat of the moment factor right its when your there your about to do but something's saying you you can't something's saying you can I know I should listen to the one saying you can but not everyone is super conifident sometimes I am super conifident but not this time see I feel judged for some actions in fact I hate some of my moral choices I don't feel judged when I'm alone with a girls I like is there a possible way to talk to her alone like I said I only see her in gym class

13 in 6 days

You need to learn how to talk to a girl in the presence of others. You don't need to be alone with her. Have you ever spoken to her? How did she respond?
You are too young to be thinking about alone time with a girl.

I've never talked to her I'm very mature for my age due to father long talks 1980s it's complicated

You're 12 and you you're worried about how to talk to a girl in the 8th grade. You don't need to be spending alone time with a girl you can't even talk to when you're in a room with other kids. Your "maturity" has nothing to do with this.

Do you talk to other girls?

Without the confidence to ask her, NO. There are no magic pills to building confidence. It's a process. It may take a while. Relax and take small steps my young friend. It will happen in time. I know not what you want to hear, but some things can't be rushed by hormones and attractions.

And leave the mistakes of your past behind you and do better. You learned your lesson, didn't you? So don't worry about being judged for them. What do others know? Make any sense, or is your only concern still getting a word alone with this girl? Ask for her number and see what happens. Let us know, if you find the confidence.

For it is not what I say two other women but what I know about them it is not what does she think of me but to just try I have not come to be judged by experts but to know thy knowledge and wisdom my intalect is close to talaniman's I now know it is not the ifs just do don't be scared but be confident.

For it is not what I say two other women but what I know about them it is not what does she think of me but to just try I have not come to be judged by experts but to know thy knowledge and wisdom my intalect is close to talaniman's I now know it is not the ifs just do don't be scared but be confident.
I'm not quite sure what all that means....

Practice with other girls. Watch others (both boys and girls) and how they talk with each other -- the eye contact, the body language, the kidding around, the rise and fall of voices. Intellect has nothing to do with it. Practice!

Before you get carried away by your newfound confidence, you better know anything can happen, GOOD or BAD. True confidence is found in rejection, as well as acceptance.

Give up on it... if she even thought of messing around with a younger kid... she will be austricized by everyone in her class and above until she graduates high school.

Question: I like a girl from gym class but she's in 8th grade and I'm in 7th (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/like-girl-gym-class-but-shes-8th-grade-im-7th-800761.html#post3685072) {"why": "i'm her age in 6 days", "source": "recevil"}




Oh you are a RUDE little brat... aren't you. That Unhelpful you dished out was VERY uncalled for. I hope she tells you off.


What part of my answer can you NOT grasp. I remember the 8th grade VERY , VERY well, you've never been in it yet. Nothing I said was was the least bit inaccurate.

YOU are a 7th grader...SHE is an 8th grader.....THAT is what YOU said...and thats all that matters to everyone else in the school.

Rejection is a 3 of 5 for me they don't always go my way

Rest assured that no one feels confident 100% of the time. To gain confidence we have to step out of our comfort zones and feel good when we achieve our goals and learn from it when we don't.

Your first step is to talk to her for the first time. Until then you can't live on "what ifs."

You are only 12 years old. You have a lot of life's lessons yet to learn.

[QUOTE=smoothy;3685075]Oh you are a RUDE little brat I'm no brat mister I've seen a lot in the 12 years I've been on this rock I lost many people in my life and I don't got many left I got friends that would turn on me in a second I've got a horrible life buddy so chill out

Rejection is a 3 of 5 for me they don't always go my way

You are only 12 years old! You have a ton of rejection in your future. Learn to accept it gracefully, learn from your mistakes.

[QUOTE=smoothy;3685075]Oh you are a RUDE little brat I'm no brat mister I've seen a lot in the 12 years I've been on this rock I lost many people in my life and I don't got many left I got friends that would turn on me in a second I've got a horrible life buddy so chill out

Age doesn't matter... you could actually be OLDER than her... and all everyone is going to see you as that 7th grader when she is an 8th grader, and she will have her reputation ruined for cradle robbing, and THAT is exacty what Jurniour high kids WILL call it. High school kids will too, after high school is over, it won't matter... but right now it means everything.

You see, I'm one of those people who if their birthday was a few days later than it was... would have been a year behind where I was throughout school. I graduated at 17 and was already through the first quarter of college before I turned 18.

You haven't seen much in 12 years... no way.. no how... you only THINK you have. I've got underwear older than you. I've got hunting boots three times your age. Heck... I've been riding my Harley for the last 32 years... and I've ridden it on two continents, and 8 countries... I've seen Desert SHiled and Desert Storm unfold and run their full course daily in ways very, very few people did. And I didn't watch it on the news either, I was almost killed on 9/11 in the Pentagon, and I spent the next several months dealing with some of the problems that happened in Manhattan that same day. I could write a book, several actually on the things I've seen and participated in the last 32 years SINCE I graduiated college. I've seen far, far more than most people have. You even use something every day that I had a hand in inventing. But I'm not saying publicly what it was.

Actually keep that thought in mind a few more years... you will find it comical that you made it. Its all about perspective... you just haven't had enough time on this rock to have much yet. But you will, everyone does as long as they live long enough.

And as was pointed out.....expect a lot of rejection.....in Jr High, and Sr High...expect far, far more rejection as a guy if you try to chase after girls in higher grades. A boy can get away with dating a girl one, and sometimes or rare occaisions two grades lower...but a girl that does it with a boy in a lower grade will be a laughing stock. Double standard? Yes it is, but life is full of them, best get used to it now.

You've seen a lot haven't you lost thing that others wouldn't understand feel things such regret, remorse,fear, and the end. However they don't understand the end do they what you think is going to happen in the end do they think it's just an old man's ramblings? Let me tell you there are people out there who believe you not people who are just listening but people who believe you know more than you know less then you but the one thing they can't and you and me can't say is we've see it all they might know secretes that must never be spoken knowledge that must never be herd and see thing you would never believe we don't know all but in my eyes we should stop before its to late because with great knowledge comes too thing do you know what they are tell do you?

WTF? Why do you keep speaking cryptically? This started as a normal question but now you are speaking like you have some higher knowledge of the world using deep meanings and cryptic ramblings. Are you an alien being? One of the Illuminati? What is going on?