OK well I know it sounds but just listen...

Hi, I'm 14
My stepdad's 52 or 51 I'm not sure

Well my stepdad has been in my life for about 7 years and well I've always thought of him as a fun loving guy who can sometimes be a smartazz but not until just a couple months ago when he showed up at my aunt's house unexpectedly I was there and so was the rest of my family but he had told me earlier that day that he wasn't going to make it and I was bummed out that he wasn't going to make it. But as I was playing with my 1 year old nephew he walked in and I was just so excited. Him walking in made my day 10 million times better.

He went to go talk to my aunt and stuff and when he went to go sit down I went up to him (at this time I didn't have the guts to hug him in front of everybody so I just started talking and said "you said you weren't coming?!" His response "ya I know but I kind of wanted to see you" me: "psst whatever you're such a liar" Him: "your happy to see me aren't you?" Me: "well ya who wouldn't be (but I was really happy to see him!!)" So the rest of the day at my aunts I just talked to everyone and him but I just still couldn't believe he said he had come for me. Later down the days till it was my mom's weekend I saw him but nothing really happened. I went to my dad's house and stuff and every night I stayed up thinking about him! I stayed up till 4 am just making up scenarios on how I could possibly get him to kiss me or hug me at least! Then about a week before I went to moms I texted him me: "hey there kind sir" Him: "what's up" me: "not much being bored wishing I was over there!" Him: "well me too" me: "Ya I mean I do miss you sometimes" Him: "I finally wore you down with my charm I see" me: "you wore me down with your charm a while back I've just never admitted I missed you till now" Him: "No comment but that does make me happier" me: "Good! So what are you up to?" Him: "fixing to get a shower and go to work" me: "oh that sounds fun... but I wish I lived with you guys so I could have someone to talk too! And not be bored every second of the day!" Him: "I hear ya an dido" me: "ya no comment but I don't know if this is weird but you're the only person I can be serious with. I don't know if that's weird but it's true" Him: "Cause I'm part friend, part dad, and hell even part kid an I like you!" Me: aw now I want to be there and just give you a big hug :)" (cause he never has admitted himself as being a dad to me I almost cried cause he can always be serious with me but when he's around my mom he doesn't act like he texts or talks when were alone he's a different person and I love him) Him: "I'll take a hug cause you don't offer often... Can't wait till I see you" me: "ha OK well can't wait to see you and delete your texts I don't want mom too see ((because she's very sensitive about everything)) "Him: "Ok well you need to delete yours too" ((cause my dad checks my phone all the time)) me: "yea already took care of that lol well I'll let you take your shower and stuff ttyl... Love you! Him: "my charm rubbed off quite a bit, right back atcha!" Me: " later" ((the next day I texted him and at the end of the conversation I said love you and he finally said I love you too!)) I was so happy.

Now it's Tuesday and I couldn't stop thinking about him last night! I've been looking up stuff on this website about being in love with their stepdad but there are none so I started looking up stuff on Yahoo answers and stuff and found some and read them and I just couldn't stop thinking about him and I'm in love with him? Am I?

Thanks for reading sorry it's so long! Hope you liked it please help me realize if I'm in love or not! I feel bad that I might be because I kind of think he likes me but I know it's just in a fatherly daughter love and I keep thinking it's not and I don't know please comment and help me thanks! NO HATE COMMENTS PLEASE. I'M 14 AND GOING THROUGH WHAT TEENAGERS GO THROUGH! No hate please!

You are asolutely right! As you have said that you are Teenager and going through that phase, so that means you know this also that all of these feelings what you are feeling for your so called dad, its just because you are going through a hormonal changes in your body! Let me explain you clearly, as you know or may have felt or have heard that during your periods, girls moods changes, she becomes more emotional, or cries easily and behave different then her normal behavior, so all these changes of moods and feelings happens because of the hormonal changes in her body during those days! But it doesn't mean that the girl is really very emotional or grumpy or moody in her normal days also. So, now usually girls are becoming more aware of these behavior and trying to manage or keep balance in her emotions during those days! So in the same ways, You are also going through some hormonal stuffs and that's normal but the main thing here is, we have to know that those feelings and emotions, that we feel like it's a real ''love'', but actually its just a physical attractions or infatuations. And you have asked the ''help to realize if you are in love'', so I am helping you by saying that you are not in ''Love'', so I have helped you to realize, and I hope that you realize it. I don't think so I need to say anything about what kind of relationship you are imagining about, I think you are smart enough to realize that this is just __________ see I don't even have any words to describe it! So you better think about it and protect yourself from the predators out there in your own home! Let me tell you one think, just think this way, Rick or whatever - even though he is step dad, but I understand you don't know the significance of this word "DAD", but if he was really a best person on this earth then, he would have not said those kind of things with you because he is older and mature. STAY AWAY from Him. HE really doesn't love you, if he would have loved you and was a good person, then he would have loved u as a daughter only. So, its not late yet, you can really save your life! If you stop all this!

Thanks Precious7 but well he's been in prison from 93 to 05 ((for drugs)) and I kind of think he's always wanted kids but now that you say that I kind of think I just need to open my eyes and realize that he's just teasing me and messing with me but I also think he doesn't have a sex life cause my mom is always sick she had a histprectimi and a gallbladder take in out so I know she doesn't have periods so I'm kind of assuming he doesn't have sex often or even at all and I know he watches porn cause when get on his phone he forgets to close the internet anyway but he does always ask if I have a boyfriend and sometimes he points out how I'm growing and stuff he tells me I have bigger boazookas I'm assuming boobs and he tells me every time I go shopping to buy pants that fit my bubble butt and he buys me bras and underwear at victoria secret sometimea with my mom and then tells me try it on and stuff... Dangggg he is messing with my head bad! Thanks for opening my eyes

sometimes he points out how I'm growing and stuff he tells me I have bigger boazookas I'm assuming boobs and he tells me every time I go shopping to buy pants that fit my bubble butt and he buys me bras and underwear at victoria secret sometimea with my mom and then tells me try it on and stuff... Dangggg he is messing with my head bad! Thanks for opening my eyes

This guy is grooming you. He is sick and you need to get him out of the house. You NEED to report this to another adult, a school counselor or clergyman. And you need to do so NOW! Print out this thread and take them to someone NOW! This is very serious and you are not mature enough to handle this situation on your own.

I'm sorry if I'm scaring you, but you need to be scared. This is a very serious situation. And please make sure you are NEVER alone with him.

You are a hormonal teenager and whether he and your mother are having sex is absolutely NONE of your business.

I'm sorry you didn't like the answers. Did you actually expect us to tell you how to get with this pervert?

This is a very sick relationship. You need to stay as far away from this man as possible. As Scott said, this needs to be reported to a responsible adult before something terrible happens.

Yea! Atlest someone should know about this what's happening with you. What if he 'Rick' has been doing this with other members of your family also! Who knows. So share this with someone u trust, for your own safety!